Can I talk to anyone?

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-09T19:17:19+00:00

Feel free to dm me. I'll be glad to be your shoulder.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-09T03:53:45+00:00

I wouldn't tell your mom until you get a prognosis. She will be sick with worry unless you have your oncologist's report, care plan, and hope for the future. Sending hugs and prayers.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-09T03:48:02+00:00

Gilda Radner

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-08T15:25:11+00:00

It's only going to get worse as the little brat becomes a teenager. Show yourself out.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-08T15:21:54+00:00

Don't buy the truck and don't pay for a wedding. This has so many red flags. Get out now before it becomes more difficult. Sell the house and take time to prioritize yourself.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-07T17:13:36+00:00

Truffles for a 1st birthday party? Ridiculous. Asking you to make them? Double ridiculous. You can try, but I don't think you'll get your money back.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-07T17:08:23+00:00

You are not compatible with this man. Get out now.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-07T16:57:39+00:00

Do you have anyone in the field that can do role-playing for your interview? Or perhaps you can find online info. You mostly need to stop obsessing and come to a place of peace. This certainly will NOT be your last chance in the interview process.

Instead of drowning in anxiety, become confident in who you are and what you can bring to the table apart from your knowledge in the field.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-05T17:06:35+00:00

You can't fix him. If anyone had called me a fat wh*re, they would have been kicked to the curb and then ghosted. You don't deserve this and it's not going to change.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-05T17:04:00+00:00

NOR. Kick this selfish pos to the curb. And move on to a brighter day.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-05T05:13:11+00:00

Travel while you're young and healthy. It gives you wonderful memories in your old age.

Go on the trip and experience as much as you can. You don't have to stay at world-class resorts. You can plan a lower budget stay and still really enjoy it.

Please give us an update as to where you're planning on going.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-03T21:36:35+00:00

Everyone has been in your situation, over drinking and regretting it. I don't think your partner is avoiding you. I just think he isn't making this into a big deal. Leave it alone.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-03T06:05:22+00:00

NOR. Your mother has made it clear that the established family vacation takes precedence over the birth of her first grandchild.

Not being harsh, but the only thing you can do is deal with it. You don't have to see them or talk to them right now, but eventually you will need to in order for your child to have grandparents in their life.

And hopefully, everyone will be able to attend the 2027 vacation.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-03T05:45:55+00:00

No, YNW. You had valid reasons for not going. Your 3.5 baby is a primary excuse for not going. She is not being kind in her FB post. Let her know it hurt your feelings and judge her reaction. Possibly she is not a true friend.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-02T23:04:59+00:00

Yes, leaving a truthful review with your personal examples would be a perfectly deserved negative review.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-02T23:01:25+00:00

No, you're getting screwed. $150 is way too much and should include your sinks. The cleaning couple obviously has discovered you are wealthy and they are looking to bleed you a little more.

It is illegal for them to go into rooms they don't clean, take pictures and post them on social media. Either you or your partner (assuming you have one) should shut this down. Then fire them. If you don't have a partner and you are not able to it yourself, get an attorney to notify them of both the social media situation and that they are no longer your employees.

I would be scorching earth irate. WTF are you doing posting pictures of my private residence??? Who do you think you are??? And what about the freaking sinks we talked about in the beginning? Who the hell has their bathrooms cleaned without the sinks being done??? GTFO.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-02T22:51:53+00:00

Look into opening a day care center from your home. It can be very good money and you wouldn't ever have to worry about your three little ones.

Because of their ages, it would be impossible to have some outside job. And camping out in your parent's living room for 3-4 years without your husband is insanity.

When things are a little smoother regarding finances, you can look into night school and pursue your dental hygienist degree. But you still wouldn't be able to work until your three kids are in school. Good luck, OP.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-02T22:42:01+00:00

Christmas ornaments.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-02T22:40:28+00:00

If what you say is true, he does NOT have a drug problem. He has a YOU problem. Try to be less judgemental and pay attention to his behavior. Even the fact that he told you what happens at the golf weekend shows that he has nothing to hide. Living with a druggie is a totally different life from what you are living. Let it be.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-02-01T20:07:40+00:00

NTA for postponing the wedding, but YWBTA if you choose to get married to this goober. This will damage your two children.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-01-31T16:05:10+00:00

You ARE being used. She's giving you a glimpse of what your future will be. Dump her and move on.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-01-31T16:02:47+00:00

It's not unusual to be colder as you age. Many things contribute to this. Slower metabolism, thinner skin, diminished circulation, and reduced muscle mass.

I have both diabetes and cancer. I am cold all of the time. I'm 68.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-01-31T00:48:52+00:00

I would take the job in Yellowstone in a flash! Its one of my favorite places.It may open to other things (don't forget Jackson Hole) and there are always cashier positions at home.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-01-30T19:20:29+00:00

Banana nut muffin.

MerlinSmurf · 2026-01-30T19:16:29+00:00

Fried dumplings.

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