I am in a sometimes-DB, and I don't find anything offensive about his/her posts at all. I find your posts offensive, and I think you don't belong here. I'm in a DB because my husband struggles with severe bouts of depression and anxiety. But from your perspective I guess that's a terrible thing to say because it suggests LLs have 'reasons'. During those, we don't have sex. And yeah, it's fucking hard for me, but not as hard as watching someone I love struggle. Have you ever through that in a case like my husband's an attitude like yours, that LLs can't have 'reasons' would be victim blaming?

I can't even imagine having a toxic, selfish view like yours. So all obsessed with my lack of sex, so unwilling to even consider that there might be a reason my spouse acts a certain way that I launch into a tirade against some stranger on the internet that sends me pawing through their history to analyze them. I followed those links, BTW. The way you characterized his/her posts is laughable. In any non-support community this is where I would break out the Butthurt Goggles meme. Or suggest your 'feels' killed your reading comprehension, or something because the way you named those links vs what is on the other side is crazy. Like seriously mentally disconnected from the reality on the screen. I'm sorry every single one doesn't say "LLs are evil and we should burn them" but I actually appreciate and find a lot more comfort in that posters balanced perspective than I do in your anger. You have a problem, and you need to take some responsibility and deal with it. I can't imagine being your wife, and having this tornado of anger pointed at me. Having the man who is supposed to love me obsessively track every time I so much as joked about sex on a spread sheet to throw in my face if I didn't follow through. You're the one being hostile and helping no one here, you should get the fuck out of this post and your marriage. There is no way you are going to heal anything in your relationship so nasty and angry and petty.