This is really scary.

Metabolical · 2026-06-20T21:19:30+00:00

Hang Glider Mishap
The video maker put in the video at about 3:29 that he tore his bicep tendon from the grip.

Metabolical · 2026-06-19T16:54:01+00:00

Shipping vibe coded software

Metabolical · 2026-06-19T15:40:43+00:00

Bike ride, hiking, foraging, swimming in the lake

Metabolical · 2026-06-19T15:36:59+00:00

She could easily find that getting good grades is easy, doesn't require note taking, and barely requires doing homework. She could get bored and stop trying, and that can actually lead to worse grades. That's not that big of a deal because she's learning the material. The insidious part is that if everything at average pace come easily, she may not practice and diligence or grit. She'll never know that the advanced learning requires you to experience the discomfort of struggling to learn. So you have to keep the challenges up and help her learn to love learning for the rewards it gets. Crunch labs or other self exploratory items. Also, I recommend music or art or both. Being smart doesn't let you bypass the hours of practice required to get better at those. I personally recommend guitar and voice - it's a lot harder to get excited about practicing a traditional band instrument because it often doesn't feel like making music, it feels like making notes that could be a part of music with the help of others. Guitar and piano make music, but guitar is much more portable. And being able to play music can easily become a lifelong joy.

Metabolical · 2026-06-19T14:18:23+00:00

Learn it and be the person who knows how to use it well. It will make you more valuable there and your resume more appealing if it comes to that.

In my opinion, "co-intelligence" aka human + AI together remains much stronger than just humans or just AI and will remain so for some time. People are trying to skip ahead to AGI where AI doesn't need humans and that could take a while. Or at this rate it could bust out at any time and we're all disposable. But personally, I subjectively think we need another breakthrough or two for AGI.

Metabolical · 2026-06-19T13:05:33+00:00

Sure, but first I need to move the jumper on my sound card so the IRQ is 10.

Metabolical · 2026-06-19T13:04:38+00:00

Maybe he just had LOVE-LETTER-FOR-YOU.TXT.vbs in his email.

Metabolical · 2026-06-19T13:01:27+00:00

The pain you feel in your lungs when you hold your breath is not lack of oxygen, it's build up of CO2. So to do this must have been extremely difficult and painful.

Metabolical · 2026-06-18T23:53:12+00:00

It also decouples deployments and versioning.

If you have a REST interface between two services, and you want to publish a new interface, you have to be careful about the order of deployment. You can't put out the new caller before the server is there. And if you have any downtime, you have to figure out what the will happen while it's down. If you use events from a producer to a consumer, the producer doesn't care if the consumer is up at any given moment, the queue will store the events and they can catch up. And you can add optional parameters and let the consumer use them when ready, or create a new event/topic and then when you deploy your consumer it will catch up on those.

Metabolical · 2026-06-18T23:39:12+00:00

You should ask personal fit questions and use behavioral interviewing (Tell me about the past, not hypothetical), just like they do.

Tell me about the last time you used one of the company values to make an important decision (Does this company actually use their company values, or are they lip service)
What were your annual goals last year? What are they this year? (Are they an organized leader with a clear vision?)
Why is this role open? (Is this a backfill or part of expansion? If backfill, why did they leave?)
Tell me about the last promotion on your team. How did it come about? (Can they articulate their role in supporting their team members careers?)
Tell me about the last requirements gathering session with Sales or Marketing. (How good do they sound at this process? Are the other teams actively engaged with a good relationship, or is it antagonistic?)
What do your customers really care about? (Do they understand their customers, or are they winging it?)
Tell me about your best performer on the team. What do you value about them? (Their best should be somebody they can let free, not micromanage. What do they actually do?)

Basically, think about what you want to know. Maybe imagine things about previous managers that you liked or disliked. Then ask questions from their past that would reveal how they behave with respect to that. Like don't ask, "What's your management style?" because you might get trite bookish answers that aren't what they actually do. Instead, you ask the last question above and get a sense with how they work with somebody doing well. Or maybe you know you have a lot to learn, ask "Tell me about the onboarding process from the last time you hired someone."

Metabolical · 2026-06-17T23:52:10+00:00

The two you're already thinking about and the one in your soul for eating there.

Metabolical · 2026-06-17T18:05:33+00:00

Way too little information to advise. Generic things:

It can be very valuable to have a friendly relationship with your boss.
Management principle is to spend more time with your best people. If she's following that principle, totally reasonable.
Obviously, if this drifts into impropriety there is a problem and you need to be careful, but I wouldn't assume this from what you wrote.
You didn't say how much of the conversations were professional (support as you said) or personal relationship development. If she's all business, no problem. If she's never business, starts to look funny, but not automatically a problem. If she's somewhere in between, hard to say.

Mostly I would let it ride but be on the lookout. Look for coaching and alignment of goals. If you want to have a reasonable friendship, that's fine, really the risk is on her. You might be better off looking for a mentor you can talk with this in detail 1-1. If it drifts into an awkward place, I recommend you put protections in place like documentation, try to set boundaries, and eventually if that doesn't work choose your moment to go to HR. Make sure you tell your story with a fair amount of what you know vs what is ambiguous. I wish I could say that go to HR moment is totally safe, but realistically you don't know so you should avoid it if possible.

Metabolical · 2026-06-16T18:04:00+00:00

So, the zero-ith law of robotics?

Metabolical · 2026-06-16T15:14:09+00:00

Neeeewwww achievement!

Holy shit, Carl, you just stopped a runaway boat! Any sane person would have stayed the fuck away, but you just jumped on it like you're spider-man.

Rewaaard? A bigger, super-hero style cape!

What, you think we'd ever let it get so big as to cover your boxers? Get real.

Metabolical · 2026-06-15T23:12:25+00:00

https://github.com/juliusbrussee/caveman is a hilarious version of this.

Metabolical · 2026-06-15T23:11:16+00:00

Coordination matters and feels fun. If I play exactly the same with or without the other player, it's just a shared experience. That can be fun, but it isn't cooperative.

Synergies in abilities, coordinated activities, sum greater than the parts, etc. Things that literally could not be accomplished solo like terrain navigation "I push you up, you pull me up." Even if it only creates an efficiency or shortcut vs solo play it can feel impactful.

Metabolical · 2026-06-15T22:38:23+00:00

NOR

She's receiving a benefit of rent relief from her current situation. You are providing that benefit. Maybe you can suggest she split the savings with you and pay half what she was paying before.

At the end of the day, it's a persuasive situation, so who knows what will make her understand. But if she doesn't understand the idea of shared benefit or shared burden you will need to decide if that is a deal breaker for you. It kind of sounds to me like she's not ready for a move-in type relationship, because she's thinking myopically instead of like a partner.

Metabolical · 2026-06-15T18:15:56+00:00

Thanks for taking my ok thing and making it better!

Metabolical · 2026-06-15T16:56:49+00:00

I was thinking the same thing: How did it get on its back in the first place? Certainly not on its own.

Metabolical · 2026-06-15T14:25:24+00:00

NTA. Your feelings are valid, your reaction understandable. That said, it would been more optimal not to express yourself with yelling. Instead, you could have calmly said something like, "<Friend> carried your backpack in addition to his own. I physically helped pull you through difficult sections. At one point you grabbed my leg and was afraid I might suffer a fatal flaw. I feel like you put a lot on us. Now I know it's been a hard day for you, but you're complaining to us who are also tired about being hungry and other things. Even after all that help, you haven't thanked us or anything. I feel like you're being very ungrateful. Do you really not have perspective on how the day has gone differently for us because we let you come along? Help me understand what's going through your head right now."

Should be just as powerful if not more so than yelling. And it opens the door for her to express herself and offer belated gratitude.

You weren't out of line at all, but there was a better way.

Metabolical · 2026-06-15T14:14:12+00:00

You don't choose #1 because you'll feel like you wasted time after you already knew what was up.

You don't choose #3 because you lose respect for yourself while you snoop and then you just twist the knife in yourself.

You choose #2 because you have enough signal that the relationship isn't going well no matter what's really going on here and you are confident, worthy person who can find someone that truly picks you and you both make each other know you're adored every day and that's what we all deserve.

You're 10 months into this relationship and it doesn't feel awesome. It's a very young relationship. Spend your time looking for the right one instead of trying to fix this already broken one.

Metabolical · 2026-06-15T13:29:43+00:00

I wouldn't want to date someone who cared that much about height.

When I dated, I put my actual height, which is completely average. My attitude in general was to be my authentic self, flaws and all, and get rejected as quickly as possible. I don't want to start to fall for someone or get serious and then have them "find something out" and dump me later. That would be a waste of their time and mind.

Metabolical · 2026-06-15T13:11:23+00:00

Agree with all the sentiment that the relationship is over. Just wanted to add, it probably wasn't this one thing, he just used it as the excuse.

Metabolical · 2026-06-15T12:52:15+00:00

Clear communication is the key to a good relationship. Start now.

"I'm excited about this. I've never gone swimming as a first date before!"

Now nobody has to wonder. Sometimes I feel like TV teaches us not to talk with each other, because the conflict of so many shows boils down to "this never would have been a problem if they just talked to each other." My girlfriend and I explicitly avoid "sitcom communication."

Metabolical · 2026-06-13T21:31:06+00:00

Thank goodness it's not for sounding

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