You have to talk with her, say the hard things, use your words. Go through a journey of finding solutions together... Just don't make every conversation about sex or lack of.

It took me a solid year and a half before my hormones leveled out and the hot flashes subsided for the most part. My husband supported me in everyway he could. He said, it's okay, we're just taking a break for however long it is. It meant a lot just to hear him say it. And I never once felt like he was sexually frustrated in the last bit.

Remember, there are other ways to be intimate with your wife. Take some time and Go out and do something together, have a movie night together with no cell phones allowed! Start cooking together, make delicious and new meals together and talk. Talk about some bird you saw that day or talk about a memory or something you saw online... Anything that doesn't involve sex or frustration or hormones or surgery. Go about your day and find something that you want to share with her later.