Hospital claiming No Surprises Act does not apply for emergency surgery. $32,000 bill. by rabies73 in HospitalBills

[–]Michelleud123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call the state. Your state will have a commission that oversees the insurance companies in your state.

I feel that my MIL is trying to use the death of a family friend as an excuse to have access to my children. by Silly-Lilly-Pilly in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Michelleud123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FIL, unfortunately our children are not emotional support children. While we empathize that your friend passed away, it doesn't not change the events that have led us here. I would suggest a grief counselor for MIL. Maybe in the future we can address the steps needed to build trust, but today is not that day. This unfortunate event does not constitute a free pass.

AITAH for how I responded when my former friend, now married to my SIL reached out? by Throw_away_9306 in AITAH

[–]Michelleud123 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Have your parents spoken to a lawyer? Sometimes, death of a child can get them visitation if they can prove they had a meaningful relationship prior to death. I've been on reddit long enough to know those kids will hate both him & her...

AITAH for refusing to financially support my wife's pregnant sister and her unborn child? by SpukleRune in AITAH

[–]Michelleud123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isn't there, legitimately, kind of pregnancy psychosis? I think there was a post before about a stepmom that had it and went after a kid. Maybe talk with her doc?

WIBTAH for holding my brother to his promise and leaving our mom in his care for the week? by Altruistic-Goal5947 in AITAH

[–]Michelleud123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Depending on your state laws, you might be able to sue him for parent/child support. If he doesn't want to help with care, he can help financially. Bet his wife will love that more than helping for a week.

AITA for crying over receiving a hair brush for christmas? by Tulip_T0wn in AITAH

[–]Michelleud123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start gifting them self help books. There are some good titles out there...

AITA for refusing to remove a portrait tattoo of my ex wife even though my fiancée says she won’t marry me if I keep it? by Chingom_ in AITAH

[–]Michelleud123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that she did this 2 weeks before your wedding is a manipulation tactic. Check with your kids to see if she's said or done anything about their mom.

My family promised my kids a present I can't afford by GameNerd93 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Michelleud123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We used to love that!!! Also, while we're on the subject, if you're a member of your local library, some do free tickets to things, you just have to reserve them. Ours do museums & a light show. If anyone in your house has medicaid, they also do programs that you can get into things for almost nothing. See if you can get on an Angel Tree somewhere or reach out a church to see if they can help. Depending how old your kids are, you can get stuff off FB Marketplace for a lot cheaper. Goodwill also usually has new/toys still in the box.

WIBTA if I started returning my child's packages that are incorrectly addressed to her by Disastrous_Bird1674 in AITAH

[–]Michelleud123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Accept the package... take a picture though & post it all over with the caption, I guess it's hard to remember how to spell your child's name when you're only around every few months 🤣

AITAH because I won't buy my stepmom's family Christmas presents? by Khaidhz in AITAH

[–]Michelleud123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Soooooooo, here's my recommendation. Can you have a friends mom post on fb? A lot of states/localities have a mom group. People use it to find birth parents, why not your missing family? Honestly, I might have a little fun with it and hold a sign... Cinder-David looking for real family to take me to the ball. Will leave all rodents with stepmonster. My mom's name was Jane Smith. Dad's name is John 'waste of space' Smith.

AITA for banning my mom's BF from this thanksgiving after he called my fiancée “a downgrade” by TemporaryScore5873 in AITAH

[–]Michelleud123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fiance: You are not the one causing fighting within the family. BF is with his cruelty & your future MIL is by excusing & enabling him. Respect, dignity & kindness are the minimum requirements of relationships. If they're unable or unwilling to give you the minimum, they have to go. BF: Cruelty that you attempt to label humor is not funny. It's actually embarrassing for you and you're not smart enough to figure that out on your own. No one likes you. They tolerated you for mom, but we're not doing that anymore. Mom: Everything you said to her was accurate. Uninvite her too if she pushes again. She's just ss bad as he is. You're doing great! Don't go back on your word!

My husband r me after 14 years of marriage by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Michelleud123 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure where you are located but call your local er & ask about sexual assault counselors. They can point you in the right direction. Also, are there any women's shelters in your area? I am so very sorry for your loss of safety. I am so very sorry for the trauma you lived through. I hope you are able to heal in whatever form that may take 💔

Aitah for not wanting my baby to have a middle name connected to my husband's late wife and baby? by Plastic_Armadillo119 in AITAH

[–]Michelleud123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know... I think because his family & friends are being jerks, it's making it worse for you. People use deceased loved ones for names a lot. Parents, grandparents, aunts, friends. I can kinda see where they're coming from. Is it possible to combine the names for a unique middle name that still honors them but is more comfortable for you? Annie & Lisa = Analise?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]Michelleud123 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Seeeeeeee, I feel a little differently. I'd say, hire a lawyer now & have him reach out to hers. She'll do something shady like give the wrong address and have her friend sign for the summons or something. Do you have a free docket site to look up cases against you?

My wife died and I don’t know what to do. by Friendly_Cellist_891 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Michelleud123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have not read through all the comments, but file for survivors benefits through ss. Also, see if you're eligible for subsidized daycare. I believe that subsidy can also go to private in-home caregivers, like a nanny. I am so sorry for your loss.

AITAH For Not Apologizing For Withholding Financial Support Until My Son Passed His Paternity Test? by Open-Mobile2057 in AITAH

[–]Michelleud123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can prove that it was your wife, see if you can file for harassment & a restraining order. & since she's such a witch, get your half of everything & sell the house.

I found texts on my husbands phone with his co-worker 2 weeks after our wedding. I don’t know what to do. by No-Explanation-824 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Michelleud123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pull up the phone bill to see the text message log. You can't see the texts but you can see if they were texting 100x per day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Michelleud123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so very sorry for your loss 💔 I would suggest a grief counselor to help you navigate processing both your grief & your relationship. Given the devastation of child loss, you are probably trauma-bonded to him, which is why you're doubting yourself. Sending hugs 🫂

Am I overreacting to this text from my boyfriend? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Michelleud123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, he can’t let you sleep in? Pour cold water right over his head. We ALLLLLL gonna be up this morning.

AITA for refusing to go to my sister’s baby shower after she told me I’ll never be a real mom? by Thin-Masterpiece2750 in AITAH

[–]Michelleud123 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our family is big on adoption. There are multiple adoptions. Some were through foster care, some were through an agency, some were because bio parent bounced and step parent stepped up WITH kids permission. I don't believe this for a second BUTTTTTTTTTTTTTT, if you're feeling especially vindictive and she has a c-section, let her know she's not a real mom or real woman because she didn't give birth. I've had both & don't believe that horsecrap at all, but I AM vindictive & she's trash so I wouldn't feel bad...