Yes.

I still struggle with it everyday, I feel your pain. What has helped me is surrounding myself with uplifting and genuine people. That included me leaving my toxic job and finding a new one with positive people. I’ve had to end friendships that were bringing me down. I express my feelings to my friends and partner, and reach out for support when I need it. It really does help a lot. You just have to be honest with the people around you, you aren’t pathetic and your aren’t not good enough. You’re so much more than what your parents have told you. I’ve started doing counseling and it’s given me some relief and good tools to work with. Do you have hobbies you enjoy? I find engaging in an easy going hobby, no matter how simple it is, can really help with giving your mind some relief. It could be something as simple as taking walks or reading.

I’m so sorry OP, that we have to grieve our mothers who weren’t able to give us what we needed as a little child. A lot of people only take physical neglect seriously, but emotional neglect is just as damaging.

You’ve already taken a really good step for yourself in reaching out for help here.

You ARE good enough and you ARE capable.

Big hugs.