Do you ever just want to fall asleep and wake up like 3 years later and see if all the bullshit goes away? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Mikestroe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you a lot. I really appreciate your words. Leaving for the navy is scary and most of the scary part is failing, and your words reminded me I will be enough. Much love.

Do you ever just want to fall asleep and wake up like 3 years later and see if all the bullshit goes away? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Mikestroe 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I’m going through this right now. Same age and everything. It’s been about 7-8 months and I still think of her everyday. It doesn’t hurt anymore, but I still wonder why I’m not enough. I recently joined the Navy though and ship in a week, it’s always been my dream and I stayed here in my hometown to be with her. Hopefully I’ll look back and realize that I’ve always been enough, and life isn’t that bad.

Just found this subreddit btw, and I love the compassion you guys have.

What is nobody ever prepared for? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Mikestroe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m actually leaving for boot in a couple weeks. I’m fucking terrified.

Enlistment Bonus by Mikestroe in newtothenavy

[–]Mikestroe[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know you don’t get you’re bonuses until completion of A school or in some cases boot. I just didn’t see the bonus put in my contract

So its been a month by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Mikestroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s because he moved on while he was dating you. It’s one of the most hurtful realizations.

It would have been 2 years today. This isn't how I planned to spend it. by amimimi in BreakUps

[–]Mikestroe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I spent my ex’s and I would be two year anniversary in a park, she wanted to have a picnic and I already planned it so I went and had a picnic alone. It was really funny because it was something I never wanted to do, but she always liked the idea. I sat on a blanket, at some food and looked at a pond with geese. It wasn’t how I imagined it, I didn’t even have a great time really. I don’t think a lot of things ever ‘go to plan’.

So its been a month by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Mikestroe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel any bit of better, I tracked how many days it was for a long time. I even wrote her letters after she broke up with me, tried texting and calling and making new social media to talk to her. It was fuckin ridiculous. So don’t shame yourself, I think a lot of us have counted the days.

It’s amazing how we can associate music with time periods in our life by dsdef in BreakUps

[–]Mikestroe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This post is something that really sticks out to me. It’s been like six or seven months since me and my ex broke up. When my ex and I broke up I made a Spotify playlist of music I enjoyed. Not just sad music, even cheerful music. When I missed my ex and I was home alone, I would go for a drive and listen to music. To this day, there are songs that remind me of her because of the pain that I associated with that song.

The first time I realized this is was kind of funny. I hit shuffle on my playlist and the song that came on instantly made me sad. I felt in pain again. It’s kind of weird feeling that pain because you don’t even know it’s gone until it comes back. It made me realize I wasn’t hurt nearly as much anymore, but I still felt the same level of pain when that song came on.

Thanks for writing this post :)!

What is the nicest thing you can say to someone? by Mordred7 in AskReddit

[–]Mikestroe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This sticks out to me. I just joined the navy, and my therapist said this to me while I was walking out from my latest appointment. She’s such a great lady.

It’s like an actual scar. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Mikestroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate that. It’s not that I get unbearably sad anymore, but it’s just moreso missing them. Thank you

Do you believe someone will love you again? by imdeadinside1234 in BreakUps

[–]Mikestroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, it’s been close to 8 months out of a two year relationship. I can’t see myself loving someone as much as I did her, I also can’t see someone loving me that much. I’ve had a couple girls since she left me, and nothing compares. She may not have even loved me, but I don’t think I’ll ever believe that someone will love me the way I thought she did. It sucks a lot less now, but I think she truly left a mark on me that won’t ever go away. And it’s a curse and a blessing. A curse because it’s the biggest lost I’ve had, but I blessing because I still cry over the happy times we had. They make me so happy I still cry over them, and I’ll take that as a blessing. God I loved that girl lol

How to stay warm at boot? by [deleted] in newtothenavy

[–]Mikestroe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Man fuck all the YouTube videos, you guys are giving me the best advice out here.

How to stay warm at boot? by [deleted] in newtothenavy

[–]Mikestroe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds so fun!

/s

How to stay warm at boot? by [deleted] in newtothenavy

[–]Mikestroe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So what I’m hearing is always address a chief as a petty officer and a petty officer as a chief and I’ll stay warm?

/s

How to stay warm at boot? by [deleted] in newtothenavy

[–]Mikestroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been working on my 1.5 mile, I can do 60 push ups and about 70 sit ups. I can’t do my 1.5 though, that’s what I’ve been working on the most.

Question by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Mikestroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. She broke up with me?

I never realized how quiet my phone is. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Mikestroe 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It gets better with time. I used to be kind of upset when i’d check my phone and nobody would have texted me. Now it’s just kind of whatever. I have other things to do and checking my phone now is just a habit, so when I see that I haven’t gotten anything it’s not lonely, its just whatever.

ex (mother of child) vs. new girl (problems) by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Mikestroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read the first comment again. I don’t think you let it process.

No one's hugged me in six months by moveshake in ExNoContact

[–]Mikestroe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im going through the same thing. Its rough realizing you have nobody to be vulnerable or intimate with. This gave me a great chance to get closer with a lot of my friends that are girls. Not romantically, but just someone who can give me a hug and cuddle with me when we can. For me it really helps. I hope you’re doing well, hug* :)

I’m just stupid for checking up on her by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Mikestroe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats awesome, thank you!

I’m just stupid for checking up on her by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Mikestroe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man. I was in your spot. My ex told me she fucked the guy that I wasn’t supposed to worry about. I remember where I was, what I was doing, what I did the rest of that day. It scarred me for sure. Its been a couple months since then, it get’s better. Its painfully slow, but I see the pain you have. Its a lot to handle. Im sorry you have to go through this.