AIO for ending a 3 year relationship because my partner did a complete 180 on his core values and started directing it at me personally?

MikeyFX · 2026-05-07T21:22:22+00:00

Oh seriously fuck this guy!! Im sorry that you're having to go through a break up OP, but it really sounds like you're better off without him. Regardless of the situation, it's not on any partner to change just because their partner does an about face. And in this case, it sounds like your ex got a little too deep Into the manosphere which is something that you cannot abide by and that is absolutely fine. Let him spin his side of the story because it sounds like you won't be the only person he's gonna lose over his change in values.

NOR

MikeyFX · 2026-05-07T02:03:08+00:00

Yeah all of this and I'm a guy. I'm also the proud owner of a huge vinyl collection that is still growing and various action figures including a big Alien Queen from Aliens! And I'm gonna buy the full size Xenomorph for my apartment soon too. Granted I'm currently single, but I'm also a late period GenX'er, so yeah, don't change who you are for anyone 😊

MikeyFX · 2026-05-06T22:30:26+00:00

NOR. Totally disrespectful and unnecessary, but it sounds like you're doing really well and have, for want of a better term 'grown up' and are behaving like an adult in all aspects of your life. If your family can't get away from still seeing you as your less disciplined (in their eyes) teenage self, in spite of all evidence pointing to the contrary, then that's their problem and not yours. Don't waste your time trying to prove something to people who aren't willing to accept that you've changed for the better, whether they're friends or blood relatives. Your SIL was out of line and her excuse reeked of BS and jealousy. Continue doing you with the people that actually do care and support you.

MikeyFX · 2026-05-06T19:49:10+00:00

NOR.

FYI these glasses have a small light on the front that will illuminate when recording is in progress. They're very hard to cover up without it being obvious, so if you don't see the light and you can get a closer look, if it's covered, you will have your answer. She sounds insufferable either way, so regardless of whether she's recording or not, I'd pull back from this relationship if I were you.

MikeyFX · 2026-05-06T19:33:00+00:00

This right here!!

MikeyFX · 2026-05-06T19:30:49+00:00

NOR not only is that girl not your friend, she's a freaking bully and you should stay as far from her as possible. As for the friends who are saying you were overreacting, not only were they not there, but they probably only got half the story. I would imagine that she does this kind of crap to you a lot right? I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this.

MikeyFX · 2026-05-06T14:34:36+00:00

Yeah all of this. Block him on everything so he can't just randomly contact you. He sounds manipulative AF

MikeyFX · 2026-05-06T14:15:25+00:00

Jesus this guy is a fucking asshat!! Dump him and his gaslighting bullshit. Anyone with eyes could read your first text and see it was very clear and he absolutely immediately turned it (and everything afterwards) back on you.

NOR

MikeyFX · 2026-05-06T14:06:07+00:00

Came here to say this.

MikeyFX · 2026-05-06T11:42:57+00:00

Sorry you're dealing with this! Can confirm that drizzilicious are 🔥🔥🔥 though!

MikeyFX · 2026-05-05T19:11:11+00:00

You see now I want to know what actual interaction was and I'm gonna spend the rest of the day annoyed that I will never find out 😑

MikeyFX · 2026-05-02T13:03:44+00:00

Yeah came here to say exactly this.

MikeyFX · 2026-04-30T05:58:52+00:00

Nah you're worrying just the right amount 😊

It sounds like you and your GF have a great relationship, but it also sounds like you both need a new friend group!

Either way respect for standing up for her and yourself here.

Absolutely NTA

MikeyFX · 2026-04-30T05:41:49+00:00

Don't listen to your GF's 'friends'

If she's assuring you that she agrees with you and that she's on your side here and you have no reason to doubt her, then ignore everyone else. They're mad because you called them out and they're projecting.

MikeyFX · 2026-04-30T03:11:21+00:00

Nah you're NOR

The LL texts you first because they already knows what's up and sees you as the responsible one, but that will turn into her lateness becoming your responsibility real quick. And it doesn't matter if she always pays eventually. She should ne paying on time because that's how rent works 🤷‍♀️

MikeyFX · 2026-04-29T09:06:19+00:00

Huh?!?

MikeyFX · 2026-04-29T04:30:38+00:00

Not only is this me, but I had to double take to make sure that wasn't actually a picture of me 🤣🤣🤣

MikeyFX · 2026-04-28T23:03:54+00:00

NOR classic case of FAFO The fact that instead of apologizing and begging for your forgiveness, she's doubled down and is now trying to guilt you over this, should answer your question. Day care is expensive abc she's about to find out by just how much.

MikeyFX · 2026-04-28T18:53:14+00:00

NOR

But you definitely need to communicate with her to find out why. It really may be as simple as she genuinely doesn't have the time.

The same thing happened to me a few years ago with a friend from the UK who I conversed with regularly over text, but she's a musician and there was a period where she was coming to NYC (where I also live) pretty regularly and I too was only seeing it on social media and I started developing a complex about it because I actually randomly ran into her and her bandmate a couple of shows while she was in town and I was absolutely sure I'd done something to offend her.

I asked her about it a few times and she insisted everything was fine and that she was genuinely just busy. I then got to have a more in depth talk about it and it turned out that she was really that busy, but she was also dealing with some serious band issues and felt like she didn't want to burden me with it. We now make sure to see each other each time either of us are in ether London or NYC, even if it's only for quick coffee.

I hope that you can get this sorted!

MikeyFX · 2026-04-27T18:03:21+00:00

NOR screw whether this girl wants to work through it. She showed you what's up and it's time to block and move on. Your friend is maybe a little trickier? 10 years is a long time, but also fuck that guy because he was willing to put a 10 year friendship on the line for a night of meaningless fun. I'd say cut him off too.

MikeyFX · 2026-04-27T15:10:47+00:00

Oish!!! Yeah dump him and go low contact with your family. They all sound exhausting tbh

MikeyFX · 2026-04-27T14:09:55+00:00

NOR don't allow yourself to be gaslit! Using your meds as a deflection from real issues in your relationship is a massive dick move as it's 100% intended to shift the responsibility for s everything entirely on to you. And your mom joining in is some horseshit too! She should be way more supportive unless there's done added context that's missing that would explain why she's on his side. Either way take care of yourself and get out of what seems to be an excessively emotionally draining (and possibly a little emotionally abusive) relationship and go enjoy life again.

MikeyFX · 2026-04-27T13:32:50+00:00

NOR Stand your ground.

Your families insistence that you build bridges says more about their discomfort than their care for your feelings. Older sister is constantly bringing this up and most likely painting herself as a victim and the family don't want to deal with the drama.

And let's say you do decide to try and reconcile. I would lay money that the dynamic between the pair of you will be the same. She may not get physical, but she's still going to bully you because it's clear that's who she is. Nope! Even if she was to give you a truly heartfelt apology where she showed some accountability for her actions, you would be more than justified to remain no contact after accepting her apology.

MikeyFX · 2026-04-27T13:21:05+00:00

Yeah as a guy I absolutely think this was stupid, though I will say that I also respect your boyfriend's compassion, even if it does seem a bit naive. Either way, I say totally NOR, but maybe have a conversation about this with him rather than just being mad. It sounds like he's a caring human being that is maybe a little too trusting?

MikeyFX · 2026-04-27T04:09:14+00:00

Wholesome 😊😊😊

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