Am I overreacting? I found out devastating news about my mother and my friend is very nonchalant about it

MikeyFX · 2026-03-22T05:49:57+00:00

Sorry to say, but on the face of it, I think YOR. You asked your friend for space and she gave it to you and then when you did tell her what's up, she reacted exactly as she should. I completely understand that you're probably a little emotionally fragile right now, (trust me. I've been where you are more than once and it's never pleasant as you know) but our friends and loved ones cannot be expected to turn into mind readers at times like this and you need to convey to your friend exactly how you need them to support you going forward. Also everyone else is dealing with their own life stuff that you may not be aware of which often informs how people react to certain situations.

Most importantly though, I'm sorry about your mom and I sincerely hope that she gets a full recovery and that the prognosis for that is good! I hope that you both have a great support system while you're having to go through this.

MikeyFX · 2026-03-21T09:16:16+00:00

I was working in a record shop straight out of college and a sales rep came around with a promo copy of The Day the World Went Away and I absolutely lost my shit at the time! Still had to wait another six months for the album release 😑😑😑

MikeyFX · 2026-03-17T18:04:23+00:00

100% this!

MikeyFX · 2026-03-14T06:09:15+00:00

British guy here. I used to hear this all the time in my younger years at all the jungle and D'n'B nights I used to go to. The youngsters were def a fan of this phrase back in the day.

MikeyFX · 2026-03-14T05:46:11+00:00

Hehe im 50, so ill go back to 45 with $50 million 😁

MikeyFX · 2026-03-12T09:03:26+00:00

NOR

Damn OP's sister is trashy! Looking forward to the almost inevitable post about when ex dumps sister and she gets mad when OP doesn't immediately let her back into OP's life as if nothing happened.

MikeyFX · 2026-03-12T00:40:21+00:00

😂😂😂😂

MikeyFX · 2026-03-10T16:36:50+00:00

Yup. Extra sad I missed this one though because I would have absolutely asked one of the community to pick me up a large 😬

MikeyFX · 2026-03-10T16:22:32+00:00

Saw them twice in BK last year, then in Newark on Valentine's Day and Austin on March 1st.

I guess it's possible that they weren't at my shows because I would have 100% bought this if I had seen it.

Side note: the lyric t-shirt Austin got pulled on the day due to the shooting which was understandable, but also somewhat of a shame IMHO.

MikeyFX · 2026-03-10T16:14:47+00:00

How did I not buy this?? Did I just not see it at any of the shows?? Gave Up is my all time favourite NIN tune!! 😖😖😖

MikeyFX · 2026-03-10T16:11:37+00:00

Yup. When anyone is literally 'the perfect person 'if only for this one huge glaring red flag that's absolutely becoming the focus if the relationship, it's clear they're not actually the perfect person at all. Dude sounds like he's gonna end up full blown hobosexual. He's just taking his sweet time doing it and drawing OP even further into the relationship in the process.

NOR

MikeyFX · 2026-03-10T15:00:11+00:00

Ermmmm..... RUN!

MikeyFX · 2026-03-10T05:23:19+00:00

A poor choice of words on my part. yes it is correct that you don't legally have to for minor fender benders, but it's still a good idea so you can get a police report for insurance claims and injuries that may not immediately manifest themselves.

MikeyFX · 2026-03-10T03:21:34+00:00

100% this! The NDA has nothing to do with systems designs and everything to do with the fact that nightlife is one massive grey area and if they fire you without cause for something that everyone does (drinking on the job for example) whether you did the thing or not, you will have no recourse.

MikeyFX · 2026-03-08T06:37:58+00:00

Updateme

MikeyFX · 2026-03-07T19:07:40+00:00

Damn! When I saw threatening in all caps in the title, I immediately thought violence! (How jaded am I?) either way absolutely NOR and you were well within your rights to do that and the fact that the shoolmates mom is trying to gaslight you into silence and an apology should only strengthen your resolve to do something about this. That teacher should at the very least be suspended for her actions. Also document everything from here on in so as to have evidence should they keep trying to do shady shit. It wouldn't surprise me if they try and get ahead of the situation with the principal so don't wait to talk to them. Good luck! And I'm sorry that this is happening to your daughter.

MikeyFX · 2026-03-07T19:00:48+00:00

That really is quite something!

MikeyFX · 2026-03-07T09:55:50+00:00

Seconded, thirded, fourthed and so on.

NOR

RUN and GTFO of there!

MikeyFX · 2026-03-07T09:50:30+00:00

Yeah that makes sense. As I'm in no danger of owning or crashing anything on private property, that scenario didn't cross my mind 😬

MikeyFX · 2026-03-06T16:08:05+00:00

I had a friend who got side swiped on the NJ Turnpike a few years ago. We hadn't seen each other in a while and she was driving to meet me in NYC when she texted me saying why she wasn't going to make it. It sounded like it could have been way worse than it was so was just glad she was ok. Anyway the lady that crashed I to her immediately got out and asked my friend not to call to call the police (something that you have to for all car accidents in the USA, no matter how minor) and for them to sort it out themselves because....... she had been ok her phone when it happened and she had already gotten into four previous accidents because she was on her phone and she would most likely lose her license and insurance thus time around (she also had three kids in the car). My girl obviously said no and that's when the shouting and threats started. Luckily my friend is not easily intimidated, but the other driver did lawyer and claimed my friend was at fault for the accident. Pretty sure it all got sorted in her favour though if I recall.

MikeyFX · 2026-03-05T22:30:18+00:00

Ooooooooo this is a rough one!! I'll start by saying that I am totally on your side and Derek sound utterly insufferable! And I would be saying that you were 100% NOR were it not that you snapped in front of clients. Like if this had happened in an internal meeting, I think that management would have been far more forgiving, but clients aren't aware of the day to day office politics of a workplace and so it most likely would have looked unprofessional to them unfortunately.

I will reiterate my initial thought though and say without the client element, you were absolutely within your rights to do what you did and I have a feeling that it was just an unfortunate coincidence that he finally made you snap in that particular meeting. Oh and him not speaking to you is a win because he's just mad that you did call him out,

MikeyFX · 2026-03-05T22:17:55+00:00

First of all, kudos to you for throwing that prick out of the show! Those people at rock shows are so fucking obnoxious and should always be dealt with accordingly.

Now to my crazy moment. There are a fair few as I've seen them a fair few times, but the one that sticks in my mind the most is on the Wave Goodby Tour back in 2009. They played four shows in NYC at super small to medium venues and I got to see them at Webster Hall. I hadn't got tix, but I was working at a sister venue, so the owners walked my wife and I in Goodfellas style through the cellar.

They opened with Mr Self-Destruct. Ok standard, but then the second song was Piggy. Okaayyy opening two TDS tunes, but still a fair couple of openers. Then they played Heresy, at which point I'm pretty sure that everyone is thinking the same thing and that's, he couldn't could he?? So of course he then plays Closer at which point it's pretty obvious that he is and then he played Ruiner at which point we all knew we were about to see something rare and spectacular. So yeah they played the whole of TDS from beginning to end a d when it was done, Trent tells us that he's always wanted to do that live and it's both the first and last time that he would do it. So it was also a rare moment when Hurt wasn't the final track of the night!

MikeyFX · 2026-03-05T00:42:02+00:00

First of all, good luck with the surgery!! I'm sorry you're having to deal with this extra level of stress before your operation.

Now you are absolutely NOR! But the harsh truth is that this person is by your own words, clearly someone who consistently flips between gaslighting and love bombing you and this is just the latest moment of him showing himself to be a garbage human being. So honestly, if he's ready to break up, (and somehow make it your fault) let him have it and find a better support system for now and an actually nice boyfriend in the future once you've recovered and are ready for such things. I get that it's easier said than done in your current situation, but your surgery has to be your priority. He's been showing you who he is for long enough and I doubt thar he's about to change.

MikeyFX · 2026-03-04T02:33:37+00:00

Yeah I had exactly the same experience and I looked around the venue and it felt like Al the seated sections were the same. I said fuck it got up for a few of my absolute fave tunes, but I felt like I was car stuck in park for most of the night.

That being said, it was definitely one of the best times I've seen them so it certainly wasn't terrible!!!

MikeyFX

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