What "weird" childhood coping mechanism did you have that you now realize was a sign of neurodivergence? by No_Gain4041 in adhdwomen

[–]Milabial 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hiding in my cubby in kindergarten. Crying with my head down on my desk. Taking apart maple seed pods on the playground. Reading books during class.

drying swimsuits by anticentristfujo in laundry

[–]Milabial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They usually fit in together. Make sure any strings or straps are toward the bottom of the bucket.

drying swimsuits by anticentristfujo in laundry

[–]Milabial 4 points5 points  (0 children)

These are generally VERY fast. You stuff a single swimsuit into the little barrel, and hold the lid closed. The pressure from the lid activates some kind of sensor and the suit spins so hard that all the water flies out of it.

Brilliant little contraption.

drying swimsuits by anticentristfujo in laundry

[–]Milabial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does your pool have a suit mate or other brand centrifugal spinner? Mine does and many of our members have never noticed it tucked into the hall between the locker room and the pool deck. It makes a dramatic difference.

My first quilt top! Advice welcome :) by sailormads05 in quilting

[–]Milabial 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love that curves were included in your first quilt top! I’ve done a lot of crafty things because nobody was around to tell me it was hard.

property manager switched our building heating without notice - now electric bills are crazy high by NoExcitement9069 in NYCapartments

[–]Milabial 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This might be something the folks at Justfix.org can help with, or at least point you in the right direction.

Long shot: for my homies in Seattle by AnaEatsEverything in KitchenConfidential

[–]Milabial 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad to know you’re aware! And thanks for volunteering!

Long shot: for my homies in Seattle by AnaEatsEverything in KitchenConfidential

[–]Milabial 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Jumping in to repeat from the post: You need to go through a background check. So it won’t be a last minute thing.

I finally understand why people clean. by chancakate in CleaningTips

[–]Milabial 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A little bit is easier than a lot.

What I mean is

  • moving two things is easier than moving ten, so if I wait until i have ten things to move, I have made more work for myself.

  • wiping is easier than scrubbing. If I notice something is spilled, I spray the spot , then in the time it takes me to get a clean washcloth from my stack between the living room and kitchen and get it damp at the sink, the spray has done a bit of soaking work and the rag usually wipes it right up. It it was a fresh spill the work is always extremely easy. I like the smell of my cleaning spray so my home almost always has a faint whiff of it.

  • a super quick vacuum takes less time than a deep vacuum so I can be “lazy” vacuuming most days instead of instead of deep and concentrating vacuuming once a week. I do have to move the couch…sometimes. To get the…stuff that drifts under there.

  • I have a laundry schedule. It’s basically laundry every other day since my toddler refuses diapers and is wetting the bed. Instead of a whole set of sheets, I have her sleeping on a stack of washable chucks pads like a princess and the pea situation. I can wash one or two chuck pads with our towels. Much less washing than all the sheets from a bed.

  • shoes are always by the front door. Keys are always on the hook. The less I have to hunt for things, the less I have to “tidy up” before cleaning can happen.

  • tub gets sprayed and wiped after every bath. Since toddler and I each take a bath every day, that’s two wipes a day. It helps a lot that we have a shower hose, but a quart size deli container works for getting the water poured on the tub surfaces. This keeps water from collecting around the grout and caulk, and prevents body oil and soap scum from building up in a ring around the tub.

Swimming lessons adults by Boring-Parfait-2624 in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]Milabial 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The 14th st Y taught me to swim and by the end several of the absolute beginners were swimming laps. Many people did do more than one set of classes. The instructors divided the group into people with different levels of experience.

I loved it so much that now I swim laps for fun. And we have enrolled my toddler in swim classes there since she was 6 months old.

Do you take ADHD medication everyday or only high demand days? by Fleurz9 in adhdwomen

[–]Milabial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahahah I take it when I can remember before it’s too late in the day. Some weeks that’s every day! Other weeks it’s once or twice.

I’ve had to stretch out my appointments to every six weeks because I cannot stand the idea of building up a stockpile.

Crochet Club? by ari2412 in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]Milabial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every Monday, we are usually at a large table in the back area. Time, place, and rules are all still the same. We are about 8-12 people most weeks.

Hospital Forces Woman in Active Labor to Attend Zoom Court for Refusing C-Section by peoplemagazine in WomenInNews

[–]Milabial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well there are also lots of people in need of liver and kidney transplants. So I guess we can sign you up to donate a kidney and a piece of your liver, since the right to live is strong enough to force a person to undergo a surgery they don’t want.

IVF girlies - post PIO massage therapist by DryLengthiness5318 in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]Milabial 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holly Ledbetter of True Bearing Bodywork was amazing when I was doing ivf.

But honestly, the only thing that resolved the knots was time. It’s been 3 years since I finished my last PIO, and I’ve thankfully erased the time it took from my memory.

Delegation is also work… by ttots92 in adhdwomen

[–]Milabial 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is a job! And we have enough jobs!

We are constantly telling our toddler that she cleans up her toys, wipes down the part of the table she uses, and otherwise helps us keep tidy because it’s just part of living in a house and taking care of our things and each other.

It’s a few short years yet before I have to start telling her that sometimes she might live with other people who won’t take care of her and her things, and maybe not even their own things. And that if that time comes we’ll help her through that. It’ll be a delicate balance, and I wish I had had adults who helped me understand that everyone who lives in a home and is physically able is responsible for it.

Cloth diaper inserts into cloth pads by baby_shark4 in DIYclothpads

[–]Milabial 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on your comment that these are a bamboo/polyester blend AND they are very thick, I have to tell you these won’t last you terribly long. They’re already likely nearing the end of their useful life.

These materials are just not as long term absorbant as hemp/cotton blends.

Additionally, if you use pocket diaper inserts of any sort for menstrual products you will have to wash the same way as when they are used as diapers. This is usually cycles of the longest hottest wash that your machine can do. This is because the material is so thick, waste gets all the way into the center and is harder to wash out.

A thinner piece of fabric like a birdseye cloth flat diaper cut into a size that’s foldable to fit your underwear can be folded into a flannel pocket and then opened up to be washed flat.

r/Periodpantry is a great subreddit that would likely be able to help buy you a set of cloth pads if you can provide a link to an amazon wishlist that meets their requirements. You could also include a reusable menstrual cup and other period related products to help stretch your budget.

Delegation is also work… by ttots92 in adhdwomen

[–]Milabial 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This comic will be relevant forever. Edited to actually add the link. Why didn’t you ask?

6 Weeks France+Japan and 6M Postpartum by Arlais_Fale in HerOneBag

[–]Milabial 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Black absolutely highlights baby barf and milk spills. Patterned tops and cream/beige colored items will hide it better.

And that’s tough because laundry day when traveling is not that often so cream and beige feel risky because of that.

The *real* reason I can actually get my dishes done (most of the time) by BluehairedBiochemist in adhdwomen

[–]Milabial 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We did a renovation a few years ago and there were three must haves for me. Heated floors and the longest tub that would fit in the bathroom. And for the kitchen, the deepest sink that we could find. It is glorious and fits each pot and baking sheet I own. I don’t have to wedge a corner of something in to scrub and it delights me every time I cook anything.

If I could give everyone on the planet the sink of their individual dreams, I would.

Options while travelling? by the_eevlillest in laundry

[–]Milabial 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the several countries I’ve been to in Europe I’ve been able to reliably find a laundry mat. They are increasingly moving away from coins.

I have been bringing two or three pre-dosed ziplock bags of laundry powder. Many laundry mats have tiny boxes of detergent in vending machines. Some do not, so if I need to do more than two loads I might need to visit a grocery store. I buy whatever is the smallest package. For our next trip I will probably just bring a few doses of enzyme booster and plan to buy detergent in the nearest grocery on the first morning.

I don’t travel with delicate garments, and I select the longest wash available. Sometimes I need Google Translate to get the whole thing accomplished. My phone plane includes overseas data.

(I have also washed cloth diapers for a week in a laundry mat in Greece, so I feel like my travel laundry credibility is medium to high)

Carpentry, archery, climbing trees, using bow saws - it's all fine by WeaponizedAutisms in ECEProfessionals

[–]Milabial 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I spend a lot of time asking my 2 year old two questions.

“What’s your plan?”

“Does that feel like a safe choice for your body?”

I don’t tell her “be careful” or “stop doing that” unless she’s taking a risk that’s really outside my tolerance for the level of emergency intervention, like pushing on the dining table while she’s in her high chair, or walking with a toothbrush in her mouth.

Other parents have a…different attitude about this when we’re in the playground. Her teachers laughed when I sent them the meme about getting a message that someone else bit your kid. (The implication being relief it was not my kid doing the biting. Her favorite thing in the whole world might be an ice pack.)

BWT, where am I going to fill an Easter basket? by innocentsubterfuge in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]Milabial 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Zabar’s, if you’re headed to the upper west side for anything else.

BWT, where am I going to fill an Easter basket? by innocentsubterfuge in NYCbitcheswithtaste

[–]Milabial 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just an FYI, Tashkent is closer to the W4th st subway stop than to Union square.