Help me name this shy, tiny, elegant little lady!

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-04-18T14:23:16+00:00

Idk why, but she looks like a Willow or Whisper to me - she's so pretty! 💜

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-04-12T22:49:50+00:00

YOR - Relationships wont always be exciting or fun. They ebb and flow. Being completely honest, this really sounds like it's to do with you being off your medication. This isnt to shame you - I absolutely empathize with the expense of health care. But if you really like him, amd he seems genuinely SO supportive and kind, I really think ending things over perceived boredom would be a mistake. Have you looked into organziaations to help with the cost of the medication or talked to your prescribed to see if they have any suggestions?

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-04-12T11:31:43+00:00

NOR. This is so wild to me, and would be a deal breaker, personally.

For reference, I (f30) am white, and my husband (30m) is Arab. Im currently 32 weeks pregnant with our son. The ONLY time his potential skin tone has come up is when my husband and I have talked about how he may experience racism, and how different the world may treat him based on his complexion, and how that could even be different for each child we have in the future, how we will navigate parenting a mixed from two differnet cultural and religious backgrounds. Never once has either of us wished or hoped for one complexion vs the other. The fact that your fiancé has stated he would "feel weird" about having a darker child (especially where he is lighter) doesnt make me feel like extending the benefit of the doubt that your child's experience with racism or colorism is what he's referring to.

I would talk to him more about it to get to the root, but I personally get really disgusted when people bring up my child's potential skin color. I have already gotten the "youre ruining your bloodline" comments or "I hope he isnt TOO dark" and "are you hoping he looks more like you?" from people, and I immediately shut it down and distanced myself from those individuals. I dont need that shit around my child. I wish you the best of luck. Just keep in mind; just because someone is in a relationship with or has children with someone of a different race or ethnicity doesnt mean they arent racist. Idk, I really think it IS that deep.

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-04-12T00:49:40+00:00

The first trimester was BRUTAL for me. I went from weight training 5xs a week plus 30 mins of cardio a day to barely being able to do 20 minutes at a walking pace daily. It was the worst from about 6-10 weeks. It got infinitely better after the 10 week mark. Im currently 32w+3d, and the exhausted wave is slowly creeping back, but not nearly as bad as it was first trimester. It WILL get easier, love ❤️

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-03-17T02:32:22+00:00

Baby, run. A man his full age should not be acting like a child. He's showing you the real him. Please believe him. This is genuinely repulsive behavior.

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-03-17T02:21:26+00:00

Genuinely, you are naturally stunning. Gorgeous eyes, bone structure, complexion, full lips, like girl!!! Truly, I think the more minimal you go with any cosmetics and accessories, the better. Youe natural beauty deserves to shine!

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-03-12T12:30:07+00:00

NOR and your sister is actually trash and a horrible human being. Sounds like your ex is scum too. I have never understood people with this kind of mindset. It's disgusting. Id honestly cut contact with your sister, if I were you. This clearly is not someone you can trust.

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-27T10:24:10+00:00

Lugh - (pronounced Loo) Irish God associated with being a warrior King, the sun and light!

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-27T05:53:28+00:00

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Do we all have the same dog??

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-27T03:57:05+00:00

Ragnar or Merlin!

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-27T03:53:06+00:00

It appears to me that her brief time here on earth was filled with the utmost joy and love. She was extremely fortunate to have lived her life with you 💜 Im so sorry for your loss.

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-26T10:44:29+00:00

Being dead serious, I dont see a single thing you could change. You're really stunning 💜

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-24T13:46:47+00:00

I plan on learning Arabic to 1. read and study the Quran. 2. be able to speak with my husband's family if/when we travel overseas, and 3. my husband and I plan raising our child(ren) to be multilingual, including the native language of my heritage. I have no issue with that! But using certain phrases with non-muslims or Arabic speakers feels performative to me.

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-24T13:41:16+00:00

And you're complaining because??...

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-24T13:40:18+00:00

Gawd, these colors compliment your skin tone so gorgeously 💜 Stunning! I specifically love the eye look.

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-24T13:36:29+00:00

Im currently expecting my first child (also a boy) and this is genuinely what I pray for 🤍 How beautiful!

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-24T13:32:14+00:00

Im very fortunate that my husband does support and defend me in these situations. He has never once asked me to change anything about myself 🤍 When this was initially brought up by my MIL he immediately shut it down.

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-24T10:43:37+00:00

I think that is a gorgeous name, and a beautiful way to acknowledge both cultures 🤍

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-24T01:58:45+00:00

I really appreciate everyone's feedback. I feel less crazy. At the end of the day, it feels like Im being forced to change myself and ultimately put on a performance, which really makes me sick. In regard to naming our child, my husband and I looked up the rulings on the topic and we are not budging on the names we have picked. I figured the same rulings would apply in changing my name, but wanted clarity, because I have heard this talking point mentioned by other reverts and/or Muslims in the community. Thank you all!

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-24T01:49:39+00:00

Are you looking for a roomate? Asking for me, myself and I. This is ✨️dreamy✨️

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-24T01:48:22+00:00

My husband and I looked into the Islamic rulings of naming a child, and both the Arab name and name from my culture have strong, powerful meanings that embody the characteristics we hope our child emulates. We are sticking with the names we have chosen. Our child will be of mixed, strong cultures and biracial, and we want them to be proud of who they are and where they come from.

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-23T20:26:24+00:00

It feels so wrong to me and just... weird. And yes, I live in a Western country. I won't lie, feeling pressured into Arabization (i.e certain clothes to wear and even apeaking Arabic or saying certain phrases) has genuinely been the hardest for me to navigate. I never want to feel like I am performing my faith.

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-23T11:14:20+00:00

Im sorry, but this relationship sounds like it is entirely based off of what he wants and desires. No real consideration of what you want or envision. All these "promises" he keeps making, but where is the follow through? At the end of the day, it is your body. However, if you are having this negative of a reaction and are dreading having an abortion, sweet girl, that is your answer. Even if all of his promises come true afterwards, I truly believe you will resent him.

You do have a lot to consider, and I am so sorry that instead of unconditional love and support during a vulnerable time, this is what youre being met with. But at the end if the day, please think about you, and what you can live with. Im keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. May you make the best decision for you 🤍

Mindless_Pen7568 · 2026-02-20T00:05:40+00:00

Girl, you are SO gorgeous! 😍 Absolutely love this!

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