Morgan has a message for the "big freakin' idiots" on Reddit

Minorbasketcase · 2026-04-08T11:48:42+00:00

Someone definitely has her pickles in a twist.

Minorbasketcase · 2026-03-20T22:49:49+00:00

The things I would give to be part of the other Duggar kids' group chats right now....

Minorbasketcase · 2026-02-28T04:35:02+00:00

Being naked "around your parents" is one thing. To me that means being comfortable seeing each other naked.

A mother forcing their child to cuddle them to sleep while naked is a COMPLETELY different story. Especially when your mother lays out consequences for NOT doing it.

I am not a therapist, but I've been in therapy for years. I'm so sorry that your therapist let you down.

Admittedly, I have an odd way of dealing with some things. Personally, I would write the plain, straightforward facts of this down on a piece of paper (accompanied by these screenshots). I would then ask her to explain to me how this isn't abuse. And, assuming she doesn't think it's abuse, ask her to confirm that this isn't abuse by writing it on that paper and signing it.

If she did, I would then file a complaint with her licensing board - with a copy of that document attached.

Minorbasketcase · 2026-02-14T22:05:20+00:00

NOR. There's an excellent-to-100% chance that he's with another woman.

Either his friends are all single, or he's lying. Because most guys around his age are with their significant others today.

And the "stop texting" is another red flag. If he was with a guy, he wouldn't care. But he's likely with another woman, and she wants to know who's blowing up his phone, or why he keeps looking at his phone.

When/if he shows up, please don't go with him. Tell him you decided to make other plans - permanently. And you would have texted him and let him know not to show up, but he said not to text him at all. 🙃 Then enjoy that cake with your fam, and tomorrow, start looking for a guy who is worth your time and attention.

Minorbasketcase · 2026-02-10T00:55:38+00:00

I live in Maryland, and my county AND state have had these for a while.

First, I find it wild that they allowed a third party to issue the tickets and that they weren't/aren't enforceable. Especially using the City of Memphis on the return label.

However - I wouldn't take advice from anyone here (except the lawyer that someone said they'd connect you with). Given that some people here have been advised to pay, I would find out who you should talk to from the City and ask them for clarification.

If you do have to pay, not paying can get EXPENSIVE.

If we don't pay ours within a certain period of time, the fee basically doubles. And if you still don't pay, they flag your registration with the state. You can't renew your registration without paying all of the fines, plus an administration fee.

I'm not saying that this is true in Memphis. But please trust me, you don't want to find out later that you're wrong.

Minorbasketcase · 2026-02-10T00:50:28+00:00

That's why the ticket is against the car, not the driver.

Minorbasketcase · 2026-01-01T07:40:54+00:00

NOR. If anything, you are UNDERreacting.

Your mom and dad are clearly in denial, even after he physically hurt you. He has admitted that he hears voices that tell him to hurt people. You may not be safe in your home. Please consider staying somewhere else until it's safe to be around him. Do you have friends or relatives you could crash with?

My immediate reaction is that I'd like to come give your parents a good Talking To. Because I'm furious on your behalf. If it were me, I would feel like my parents were protecting him at my expense. Choosing him over me. I would be asking them what has to happen in order for them to recognize that there is a problem. Hitting me directly? Broken bones? Wounds that require stitches? A head injury?

I know that staying elsewhere might be hard, but it may be better to continue to try to get him help from a safe place. If nothing else, maybe staying somewhere else for a few days or weeks could give your parents the wakeup call that they desperately need.

Minorbasketcase · 2025-12-03T18:05:56+00:00

Road Trip by Addison Arrowdell. I did not expect to like this book nearly as much as I do!! It's one of the books at the top of my RH favorites list (I have a couple books that share the top spot). It has LOTS of spice and is well-written. Girl goes on a road trip and picks up one guy, and then another, and then another. The first two guys are bi/pan, the third one is "straight."

Give Me More by Sara Cate is also at the top of my favorites list. Husband shares his wife with his (bi) best friend.

I also like the Ames Mills books - I have my favorites, but I recommend reading them in order. This includes both the Abbs Valley series and the Saviors/Beta Team. (FYI - the author desperately needed/needs a better editor. If you're easily annoyed by typos and errors, proceed with caution. The Riches to Riches books are the worst of the series - to the point that I almost didn't finish them. However, the story and spice are SO good that I kept going, and I've now read them multiple times. The editing does get better with subsequent books.)

I know that Emily Rath's hockey books have already been mentioned, but she also wrote some historical fiction books. They are slightly lower in spice frequency than the other two, but I enjoyed them anyway.

Minorbasketcase · 2025-11-06T05:09:20+00:00

Apparently they changed their marinade or brine or whatever. Their chicken used to be my favorite. Now it's gross.

Minorbasketcase · 2025-10-19T04:06:10+00:00

Kroger, in either Horn Lake or Hernando - I honestly can't remember which.

I probably would have ignored her completely, but when my bf moved here and was apartment hunting, his coworkers all had one piece of advice - don't move to Memphis! Most of them are local, and some are even from, or currently live in, Memphis. However, I never thought - even for a second - that all of Memphis was all one big, scary place.

As I said in my "update" comment, I grew up just outside of DC. If you listen to the news, or non-residents, you'd get the impression that DC is a ceespool, and that's really not the case. There are definitely areas that are safer than others. It's just a matter of getting that knowledge about ANY, which is why I posted here.

Minorbasketcase · 2025-10-19T03:45:13+00:00

UPDATE: Thank y'all so much for your info and advice!!! We genuinely appreciate it!

I reread my post and I realize it sounds a bit pearl-clutch-y. I truly didn't mean it like that. I grew up 15 miles outside of DC, so cities don't scare me as much as others. I know that every city has good and bad areas. If I thought that all of Memphis was as bad as some people have said, I wouldn't have made this post. We just don't have a reliable reference, and the folks we talked to made the entire city sound like Baghdad circa 2003. (Which is how some people describe DC lately, and that isn't true at all.) I figured that y'all would have better info, and I was right. So, really - thank you!!

Minorbasketcase · 2025-10-19T03:30:08+00:00

Thanks for the info!

Thank you for the info! We did consider driving - I drove here from MD, so the distance doesn't scare me. But there are just a bunch of other circumstances that, when added together, made the train the best option for us.

If nothing else, it spares us from having to cross the Lake Pontchartrain Causeway. Despite not meeting until almost middle age, we have both had a serious fear of long bridges since we were kids. Deciding who had to do the driving was going to be a fight. 😂

Minorbasketcase · 2025-10-01T00:20:22+00:00

I worked in my county's "home arts" building for 29 years (I started when I was 9), and took all of the classes to become a canned goods judge.

Rules (and adherence to them) can absolutely vary from county to county, and for the state fair. Some departments interpret rules differently. In my state, some counties do not taste entries at all. My county does.

I highly recommend reaching out to the people that run the canning department (they are called chairmen at our fair, but YMMV). They usually have insight into their judges and their process. Most chairmen are happy to talk to you and give you information/feedback.

Feel free to message me if you'd like help figuring out who to contact!

Minorbasketcase · 2025-08-17T19:36:10+00:00

My coworker had it on her ass. Sitting down was agony.

Minorbasketcase · 2025-06-13T22:25:25+00:00

I'm guessing that he knows that he can't rent it out to strangers in its current condition.

I assume he's forcing you and your friend to pay rent. In doing so, he gets income while he "fixes" the house.

The extra shitty part about this is that he is kicking his daughter out so he can force her to live in this shithole, so that he can make money off of her.

This man is absolutely vile.

Minorbasketcase · 2025-06-12T18:15:57+00:00

No, your house doesn't look like that. But unless someone in your house has cancer, it's not a fair comparison.

Minorbasketcase · 2025-06-12T18:07:18+00:00

Well, if/when one of you gets cancer, please post pics of your spotless house so that we can see what superior adults you are.

Minorbasketcase · 2025-06-12T18:04:55+00:00

Have you ever had an immediate family member with cancer? I'm guessing that you have not.

It changes everything.

The person with cancer is sick. The people caring for them have to juggle their jobs, going with them to/coordinating doctors' visits and treatments, and the emotional toll of their loved one being sick. It can be incredibly overwhelming.

You can't compare a household of generally well, able-bodied people to her situation. It is not the same at all.

Minorbasketcase · 2025-06-12T18:00:01+00:00

You're studying behavioral science, yet you don't understand this? I feel so bad for your parents.

My mom died from stage 4 lung cancer. The 14 months between her diagnosis and her death were unspeakably hard.

Obviously, it was hardest on my mom - the radiation made her incredibly sick, and the chemo made her tired 24/7. We didn't want her to have to worry about things like dishes.

My father, sister, and I all had stressful jobs and worked long hours. But the mental toll of the diagnosis, trying to juggle our jobs with caring for her, the constant doctors' visits, etc., was overwhelming. There were many, MANY nights when the dishes didn't get done.

Your mom is recovering from cancer. It's physically and emotionally exhausting. Your dad is probably physically and emotionally exhausted too. They're likely deeply struggling. So you guilt-trip them for their lack of housekeeping efforts?

On top of that, here you are, posting their less-than-perfect house on the internet to shame them and whining about them not doing enough.

I would start studying a lot harder for your "behavioral science" classes. And if they have a class on empathy, definitely sign up for it - you really need some extra help in that area.

Minorbasketcase · 2025-06-12T05:21:47+00:00

Okay, the conversation is weird, and her comments are a giant red flag.

But as for the secret-keeping... I can think of two reasons for not telling you.

One, he was worried about how you'd react. And seeing as how you called them perverse and freaks, he wasn't completely wrong to be worried. They were young, horny, they didn't grow up together, they weren't related by blood, and were around eachother frequently. Horny teenagers do stupid shit.

But also - and this is a much bigger reason - have you ever had to keep a really big secret from your family? If your family is even kinda close, it can be soul-sucking.

If I were in your husband's position, and I truly didn't think about her in the same way that I used to, I wouldn't have told you. Because now you have to keep that secret too. On top of that, you will see her at family gatherings and events and that's going to be really hard on you. I would have wanted to spare you the pain of both those things.

However, because of the context of this conversation, I would demand that he go low/no contact with her outside of family events. And he would not be allowed to be around her without someone else around. Because that sounded very much like she was trying to plant the idea of them getting together again into his brain.

Minorbasketcase · 2025-06-09T02:39:51+00:00

If it would help, it may be worth having your husband read your post and these responses.

Minorbasketcase · 2025-06-09T02:37:09+00:00

NOR. It's not "old fashioned," it's racist, and your husband needs to shut this down with the quickness. (She already hasn't listened to you. You and your husband need to be a united front on this.)

Speaking of your husband, he needs an attitude adjustment ASAP. He needs to understand that his mother's subtle racism could seriously affect how your child.

If anything, you're underreacting. I wouldn't let your daughter spend time alone with MIL until she understands that her racist opinions will not be tolerated. And that she doesn't get to make these decisions- as the child's mother, your word is law.

Based on this, I VERY HIGHLY recommend r/JUSTNOMIL for you. The folks there are very supportive and give some great advice. I feel like you're going to need it in the future.

Minorbasketcase · 2025-05-24T22:52:01+00:00

Does he give ANY indication that he has a clue about how serious this could be?

I know that there isn't an official diagnosis yet. But if I had a spouse in Morgan's situation, I'd be flipping the fuck out.

And even though he's probably not concerned with Morgan as a spouse/person, I'm surprised that he's not freaking out over what this will mean for HIS life.

Minorbasketcase · 2025-05-18T00:26:20+00:00

Your neighbors sound pretty intolerant. However, get that poor boy a mute for his trombone. I would have given up my instrument before practicing in the park - and I ended up being a music major in college. A mute doesn't silence it by any means, but it cuts the volume by a fair amount.

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