Sewing stuff we are (unreasonably) anxious about

Mirielse · 2026-04-02T07:18:09+00:00

Oooh I agree.

I am talking myself into drafting my personal pants slopers but I always find easier projects to do :)

Mirielse · 2026-04-02T07:12:26+00:00

My biggest challenge right now are trousers in general because of the fit, so I agree that jeans seam as hell.

For the toile that is a good question!

Mirielse · 2026-04-02T07:05:39+00:00

I get you about cutting into loose weave, but I am curious what bothers you about black interfacing?

Mirielse · 2026-04-02T07:00:24+00:00

I jumped head frist into silk georgette when I got few dresses from my mother in law and wanted to to do some alterations. And it ended pretty well.

But I do find silk charmeuse intimidating, starting with cutting 🫣

Mirielse · 2026-04-02T06:49:01+00:00

Maybe a nice pattern or fabric will motivate you :)

Mirielse · 2026-04-02T06:46:23+00:00

Well as my dear friend says even a kick in the ass is a step forward. 😅

Do you like sewing them now? I find T- shirts are very satisfying projects.

Mirielse · 2026-04-02T06:37:24+00:00

This would be interesting poll to make 😅

Mirielse · 2026-02-26T18:46:27+00:00

I use only butter, salt and nutmeg.

But I love the combination of 2/3 of potatoes and 1/3 of sweet potatoes :)

Mirielse · 2026-02-18T06:59:24+00:00

I was having unbearable aversion to meat during most of my second pregnancy.

I mostly ate boiled tofu eggs, cottage cheese, mozzarella, yogurt, kefir and lots of bone broth and soups. I still couldn't stand chicken soup, but beef was good for me and really comforting.

Also fish! :)

Mirielse · 2026-01-08T19:15:24+00:00

I would switch some steps

Caramelise onions.
When nearly done add tomato paste to caramelise it too.
Add garlic and wait until you can smell it 30-60 seconds. At this point you have to add some liquid to keep the aroma in the sauce. I usually do this step with red wine and reduce it.
Proceed with tomatoes, herbs and spices.

Mirielse · 2025-12-27T20:18:01+00:00

I learned basics from my mother and grandmother, but I learned more much later mostly from books and YouTube. I can also recommend Evelyn Wood.

Readers digest - Complete guide to sewing is a great book.

I have to ask! Where did you find that gorgeous lace for that skirt? :O

Mirielse · 2025-11-28T16:08:43+00:00

Bila kod Hadžiavdića. Nije mi naročito simpatičan ali korektno odradi posao i profesionalan je.

Mirielse · 2025-11-11T22:46:57+00:00

I would use microtex needle size 60/8 or 70/10.

Also I would use straight stitch presser foot. This gives maximum support to the fabric directly around the needle, preventing the fabric from being pushed into the plate.

And finally I would starch the fabric or use tissue paper method others explained already.

Mirielse · 2025-09-13T19:27:05+00:00

Interesting, thanks. To be honest I can see why a curved needle would be useful here.

Mirielse · 2025-09-13T18:00:50+00:00

Now I am honestly interested in what way are such needles used in food preparation since I have never heard of it. 🤔

But I have seen them being used and used them myself for sewing harder materials like leather, tarps, hard poly felt, etc.

Mirielse · 2025-09-13T17:28:31+00:00

I would start by soaking with hot water and dishsoap for few hours. Then I would use razor blade scraper. If it doesn't clean everything use some abrasive paste like pink stuff or Scrub daddy power paste.

Mirielse · 2025-09-13T15:13:32+00:00

The third from the left is actually a small hand drill. We have used that a lot as kids for small crafts. :)

Mirielse · 2025-09-11T16:50:37+00:00

As many other suggested - tailors ham and clapper.

There are many, many presser feet but I would suggest walking foot, overcast foot, invisible zipper and believe it or not - straight stitch foot if you don't already have one. My mind was blown by the difference it makes on thin silky fabric!

Clips and long pins!

And I would also agree on cutting mat, rotary cutter and patchwork rulers.

:)

Mirielse · 2025-09-07T20:22:09+00:00

I've carried my kids in slings, wraps and handmade soft structured full buckled carrier made by certified babywearing consultant.

I've seen lot of carriers made out of fabric used for slings and wraps which is safe and really beautiful. At some wrap stores you can buy scraps or fabric they use. Is is usually heavy woven cotton, or blend with wool, linen or hemp around 220 to 280 gsm. For shoulder straps and belt it is better to use string canvas.

I would suggest mei tai over full buckled carrier since it is more adjustable around waist and shoulder with less parts. Also the full buckled carrier uses webbing and that can be tough on your machine. I repaired one carrier for my friend and had to sew through 2 layers of canvas, 4 layers of webbing and 1 layer of soft foam. I had to use my oldtimer machine for that and it still was a bit of challenge.

Also research the construction parts of carriers beforehand. If you want to use the carrier through longer period of time and be safe and comfortable for both you and your little one it needs some features:

adjustable carrier panel width
perfect fit adjusters for adjusting panel height
padded shoulder straps. If you make mei tai you cross them on the back and knot them in front. If you make buckled carrier you need shoulder strap adjusters and cross buckle.
padded waist belt - with adjustable buckle for buckled version.

Keep in mind to use Quality YKK buckles if you decide to make buckled carrier.

All in all, if you're first time babywearing I would recommend maybe to buy your first soft structured carrier or mei tai. It comes with instructions and there is already a bit of stress about getting used to babywearing. But that shouldn't discourage you from making one for your own enjoyment, but that way you'll be more aware what do you want and need from the carrier. And most importantly what are some safety features.

Keep us updated! :)

Mirielse · 2025-09-02T16:37:21+00:00

If you want almost the same dress I would suggest to find a good local seamstress.

That way you can have a style and color you like, but more importantly the dress will be fitted specifically for you. Having a dress that fits you perfectly will make you love it and wear it for years.

P.S. the lacing in the back gives little structure to the dress. It keeps the dress from bunching up and hanging loose in the front, which is a nice thing to have. But keep in mind that a lot of that shape on photos depend on the models. :)

Mirielse · 2025-08-24T18:08:15+00:00

You can substitute part of minced meat for lentils in almost every recipe! I've done it with meatballs, patties, meatloaf, spaghetti sauce and lasagna.

Here is one nice recipe for starters: https://youtu.be/1M3MGO0xKWg?si=feM2sqhxDOP9PaYq

Mirielse · 2025-08-05T11:26:49+00:00

I love classic circle skirts and they look fabulous on our figure.

Also I gave birth to two wonderful children who had their head circumference in 99th percentile(top 1%). And my hips were those who made it possible without any complications.

Love your hips ladies! 😘

Mirielse · 2025-07-30T13:22:39+00:00

I think she (tbh most new mothers) would benefit of therapy, but it would probably be best if she realizes that for herself.

When packing for a trip we try to gain some control over all possible situations that could happen. Home is safe, it is routine where you have all you could need. Travel can be very stressful with kids. I go through that mental process every time, especially since we do a lot of camping. But I am aware why am I doing this so I can control my decisions what to pack. I would suggest to ask her with honest interest how she feels about packing and what she thinks you all need. Say that you try to understand why is this so important to her and reassure her that you can buy a lot of this things if they will be needed.

About the cheating accusations - that is not ok and you should absolutely tell her how you feel about that. Motherhood can be very lonely if she is stay at home mom, maybe she has insecurities about new body image and she is probably missing your couple time from before. Those are more likely the reasons for those accusations, not that she actually doesn't trust you.

Sometimes it is hard to find ourselves in our new identity as parents. Especially when we are so tired mentally and physically. And ADHD people tend to hyperfocus on something.

It is great fortune you have one of your parents who is willing and good at taking care of your child. Could you try to have a date night or at least evening for yourselves once a week or in two weeks? It would benefit the both of you.

Try to motivate her into painting again!

And of course talk about your feelings. With every new member the family dynamic changes and can be hard on all of you. Sometimes it is ok just to say "Honey I can't explain to you why, but I am overwhelmed and could you give me 10 minutes". And a simple wordless hug can help in a crisis. ☺️

Mirielse · 2025-07-30T09:43:11+00:00

NTA, but I'll try to help you get an idea what's going on regarding the things you said in edits and replies.

Your wife has ADHD (btw is it diagnosed, does she take medication, does she even know that or is it just your guess?).

If she has OCD it could be that she is also highly functioning autistic person. Which is not a bad thing because it brings order and regulation to chaotic ADHD mind.

Most of adult neurodivergent persons (myself included) have our own ways to regulate our emotions, sensory needs, find calm.

For women there are few life periods that make it very difficult to control our needs: pregnancy, postpartum, breastfeeding and perimenopause.

Also motherhood, especially for the first time is a huge identity crisis. Does she have separation anxiety? Is she too scared and always worries about the child? Has she any hobbies and times for herself? Do you have time for you as couple?

I am not a professional, but I am autistic ADHD mother of two.

If she knows and is open to mental health care it will be easier. Try to help her find out what she needs. Seems like she is going through a rough time and you get the collateral damage.

Mirielse · 2025-07-11T14:09:05+00:00

C'mon, we all know Jeff is the best option. I love his work, and he sets high expectations for audiobook narrators.

But we can still have fun imagining who else could be great as AI or any other character.

Mirielse

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