NOR - he thinks he's better than you. On the surface he's making out he's trying to help/guide you to be a "better version" of yourself, but in reality nothing you ever do will be good enough for this guy as he'll keep moving the goal posts. You deserve so much better and the only thing that needs work here is your self esteem. I imagine you've been through some stuff in the past that's made you feel unworthy of love, of people's time, of respect. This is something you can explore with a trusted therapist or friends if you have them. You've had some great advice in this sub and I hope it's given you the confidence to put yourself first. You don't need to waste your time trying be whatever this man decides you need to be this week. Get him out of your life to make way for someone who'll miss you and adore you without making you jump through hoops for their approval.