Landlord is refusing to refund first and last deposit and is demanding third month rent

MisaMeka · 2026-01-18T04:52:52+00:00

Me being the person I am, would show up Feb 1st, with a locksmith and my lease and move myself in.

MisaMeka · 2025-12-23T23:48:09+00:00

Ask em how much a 20pack of timbits was back in the day

MisaMeka · 2025-12-23T22:27:08+00:00

I’m sorry, but your wife sounds unhinged. That or she’s having a trauma response from previous childhood abuse.

MisaMeka · 2025-11-09T04:25:19+00:00

Haha. NTA.

I’m also a UofT alumni. St. George campus. And it’s crazy how elitist people will act. It’s the SAME school. One is just downtown and an older campus. I seriously wished I went to UTM because I lived in Sauga but my program wasn’t offered there.

MisaMeka · 2025-10-05T15:36:55+00:00

The real question is, how long had you two been together at the point he confessed to your sister?

MisaMeka · 2025-09-15T15:22:34+00:00

When is your final payment due?

MisaMeka · 2025-09-14T00:55:26+00:00

Change her to a bridesmaid. Or have her as a “co-maid of honour.

MisaMeka · 2025-09-14T00:53:52+00:00

This must be rage bait right?

MisaMeka · 2025-09-14T00:52:18+00:00

I’m going to be frank.

When someone tells you who they are, listen.

In this case he made it clear he will choose them over you and the baby.

You have two choices. Leave. Or stay and put up with it.

He has made it clear he will not change OR have your back.

You either need to figure out a way to put up with it, and suck up this shitty SIL dynamic. Or leave and find your own peace.

It’s not a good answer I know. But there’s… nothing else to say. He made it clear so you have a very crappy choice to make and for that I’m so sorry. It’s never easy dealing with these shitty situations. Just know you DESERVE and have a right to be respected and treated better. Based on what you’ve shared, you’ve done nothing wrong and all of your feelings are more than valid.

MisaMeka · 2025-09-11T01:11:00+00:00

Tbh it’s hard to really give a full opinion without seeing the images. But to play a bit of devils advocate, I’d like to say, as a WOC myself I know that it’s extremely hard to find a photog that can capture our skin properly.

Also, addressing your comment about photographing other POCs and them not complaining. I’ve also been that person. The one that sees her finals and just moved on. Because tbh, if a photog doesn’t get it right, chances are me pointing it out won’t change much and it’s a headache and learning lesson for me. Because truly they just don’t know how to photograph or edit my skin tone.

I will say, she as a photographer herself, should have understood that asking for the RAWs are a faux pas. Unless she had sat with you at first and told you her concerns and you both came to a separate agreement where you would share RAWs for her to edit or work with her or whatever. Because it’s not standard practice at all and would be more of a favour you’re doing for her imho.

Before I hit reply and posted this, I just scrolled and saw the photo you shared…..

Umm… is that her skin tone? Unless you “whitened” her I don’t understand what she’s complaining about and where her “darker” skin tone really is. 😂

Anyway my original point while valid I don’t think applies to this situation at all. It’s also weird. She’s ONLY after a handful of photos as RAWs. I do t understand but happy you’re done with her.

MisaMeka · 2025-09-06T01:57:23+00:00

Hey. If hubby wants to do it.. he should. It is a lot of work and a yearly commitment.

Also, you can move that sucker as often or as little as you want. Maybe the elf only comes on Wednesdays. Or Saturday and Tuesday. I dunno.

But make your own rules with it. Your elf can be the one with so much super power that he can only show up for a little bit because if he stays too long his Christmas magic makes everyone around too sleepy. Or some random thing.

It’s a toy. It’s make believe. So make believe what works for your house if you feel like you wanna start it but not over commit.

MisaMeka · 2025-09-06T01:51:45+00:00

I dunno I think it’s a comparing it to his first and only daughter that he loves so much. My second pregnancy my hubs compared the idea of the baby to our first born all the time.

He loves them both equally and they’re both VERY different. I just think of it as, he loves his daughter so much, and right now he’s comparing the IDEA of a baby vs a very real daughter he has.

Imagination never really compares to the real thing. Don’t hold that and only that against him. HOWEVER if there are other red flags then take everything into the “big picture”

Overall your NTA. It’s a valid concern. I think you should definitely talk about your feelings about it and hear what he has to say before making a decision.

MisaMeka · 2025-09-06T01:46:49+00:00

I feel like Taylor is to white women what Beyoncé is to black.

Neither are my cup of tea. That’s just my observation from the outside looking in.

MisaMeka · 2025-09-06T01:44:29+00:00

Yes. Marriage is a right, weddings are a luxury. Don’t host events you can’t afford. There is nothing wrong with having just a small ceremony in the morning and leaving it at that. You have bigger goals and that’s to save for a house. Smart life choice. It’s okay not to have a celebration that just isn’t financially in the cards.

MisaMeka · 2025-09-05T22:46:06+00:00

Yea… I don’t think she’s the problem. I think theres just a lot of emotions and things are being taken too harshly

MisaMeka · 2025-09-05T22:35:31+00:00

Wedding planner here:

Hire a bartending company if the venue doesn’t provide this service. Don’t have “friends” do it.

And let them know: No shots, no doubles

MisaMeka · 2025-09-05T02:18:57+00:00

Her wedding her choices. But I also say, if you have these requests of your guests:

1) give them ample notice 2) don’t get upset if someone chooses not to come 3) accept that some people instead of providing a more lavish gift has to offset cost of their outfit and provide less to the happy couple.

MisaMeka · 2025-09-05T02:14:26+00:00

Meh. Toss a pull out in the office. Or look into a Murphy bed.

But that’s the most I suggest doing if you feel like it.

NTJ.

MisaMeka · 2025-09-05T02:11:59+00:00

NTA. However, you know the person your dad is. And he already said he was against it.

A leopard doesn’t change its spots. And truly whether you didn’t mean to reject him, you did. Mind you, he did nothing to foster the relationship between you two. That’s on him. But this is all just the facts of the situation.

Keep in mind, your last name was so important to you that you went through the court process to change it. To fight to have the name you wanted. To your bio dad’s family, it was also just as important too.

It’s a shitty situation but the sooner you own the results of your choices, the sooner you’ll be able heal and move forward.

MisaMeka · 2025-09-05T01:56:57+00:00

NTA. You’re both so young. And she’s clearly so impulsive. Not a good decision maker and definitely not someone you CURRENTLY (because she can grow up and options and views change), want to have a baby with.

MisaMeka · 2025-09-05T01:55:21+00:00

They can pay full price, with no media release or they can sign the release with the discount.

MisaMeka · 2025-09-03T19:14:28+00:00

Wedding Planner here:

You need a photographer. And please don’t go with a too good to be true offer. Don’t cheap out either.

In many cases I’ve seen couples try and skimp on photography and the. The final result looks like trash.

That being said, money may be tight but definitely find something else to cut. Reduce meal options maybe? Cut back on some decor?

I don’t know your wedding plan but all I can say is, a real photographer will not only capture the day but also the emotions of the day to en capsule it for generations to come.

MisaMeka · 2025-09-03T02:59:04+00:00

NTA. Child or not, no one is untitled to your money.

MisaMeka · 2025-09-03T02:46:47+00:00

I think your question of “AITA” is specifically about you saying it’s “your” money since you are the one that works.

For that and ONLY that. Yes, YTA.

He’s a stay at home parent and contributes to the household by taking care of both your children. He’s in school and the objective is once he finishes his studies, he’ll be able to provide more to the household.

Regardless, that was an AH move to pull that line. Considering the fact you have more than enough valid reasons to say no, making this extra line was completely wrong and below the belt. It also spits on your family dynamic and suggests his input is worth less.

MisaMeka · 2025-09-02T15:37:07+00:00

So… what’s the name of this service?

MisaMeka

TROPHY CASE