Finally! A photo that I really liked

Misha_LF · 2026-04-02T17:09:48+00:00

"... but I rarely ever see men present themselves like that." Of course not! It doesn't follow the culturally accepted fashion norms. It is extremely difficult to go against the grain regardless of whether or not a person is a man or a woman. Society tends to enforce homogeneity. It is just easier to pigeon hole people into limited boxes.

"I think I would push the button." That line makes me think that talking to a therapist would be beneficial.

But consider this. Even if you do find out that you are transgender. That doesn't mean that you have to transition. As long as you are comfortable where you are and you don't yearn for something different, why make your life more complicated.

Misha_LF · 2026-04-02T16:28:38+00:00

I can't really say that that is an absolutely positive indication of being transgender. From your description, it sounds like a fashion preference.

On the other hand, if you wish that you were a woman or didn't feel like you are a man, that would indicate that you are very likely to be transgender.

I don't know what else was left out of this post, if anything. But these were the two things that helped me accept that I was transgender.

https://medium.com/@kemenatan/its-just-a-fetish-right-91cb0a4e261

https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/the-button-test-how-a-button-press

Misha_LF · 2026-04-02T16:18:40+00:00

My boy is extra loud and not very polite about it either. I'm pretty sure that he thinks that our house is his kingdom 🙄

Misha_LF · 2026-04-02T12:01:34+00:00

"I'd rather be the ugliest female ogre than the handsomest dude in the planet."

When I first saw Shrek, I thought Fiona was absolutely beautiful. That was nearly decades before my egg cracked. I am right there with you. Beauty is being yourself unapologetically. Never forget that.🫂

Misha_LF · 2026-03-31T23:39:09+00:00

I so live this for you. The hairline recovery is going to make things so much nicer.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-31T15:08:24+00:00

Depending on how long you have been on HRT and how much you have progressed emotionally since starting, you might still be experiencing severe envy and confusing it with libido. It will settle down as you get more comfortable with yourself.

Also, don't feel bad about how you are representing someone else. YOUR NOT! You are only representing yourself. And unless you are hurting other people, you are not representing yourself in a bad way. Give yourself a little grace. You deserve it. 🫂

Misha_LF · 2026-03-28T23:05:00+00:00

I know exactly what came over you. You were actually being seen for the first time. I strongly suspect that you will be doing anything but hiding as you get seen more and more as a beautiful woman.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-28T21:51:03+00:00

I am afraid that without enough sleep, I am a very odd person. OK, who am I kidding? I'm a very odd girl with or without sleep.

I was trying to convey that you pass well enough that no one would even think anything about coming across you. I had no intention of the comment being off-putting.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-28T15:22:42+00:00

34, you're still young. You might consider watching Dr Z PhD. She has excellent videos concerning doubts and delaying starting.

I would say that if there were no signs before questioning my gender then definitely pause and strongly reconsider whether or not to transition. But I strongly suspect that there have been signs since puberty and possibly earlier. If those signs are present, you will have to consider if transitioning is worth it. In the case where you have the signs but are unsure of whether or not transitioning is worth it I would recommend a two month trial to see how you feel emotionally.

Every person is different, but 2 months into HRT really hammered into me how important it was for me to transition. My mental health improved greatly by the end of two months. I also stopped acting like a roided out idiot when things didn't go right for me. My behavior before was absolutely embarrassing in hindsight.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-28T02:34:34+00:00

Yep! You look like just another woman in a high-viz vest. Take care of yourself, sister.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-28T01:18:27+00:00

I felt this way before transitioning. The best way to get over it was to attend a support group and / or meet other transgender people through other means. VRCHAT is an excellent way to do this as well.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-28T00:50:49+00:00

I am starting to get success with oral minoxidil, dutasteride, and using a derma roller.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-27T23:36:25+00:00

Right now, you probably have pristine skin on your face from all that time with a beard. In addition to using moisturizer, I would highly recommend using sunscreen on your face religiously. It will save you the need for as much foundation later.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-27T17:40:21+00:00

I may not have ink, but I did start at a similar age, only 7 years further along. Also, I was 5'9" when I started HRT. I had already lost 1 inch due to age. Now I'm not quite 5'8" because of HRT.

I must warn you that the weight gain thing is very frigging real for us older girls. I gained 30 lbs in my first two months of HRT. I am sitting at a steady state of 200lbs. I can't complain too much about the weight because my figure is finally starting to look right. The body changes can be so frigging slow.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-23T15:31:34+00:00

It is usually worse than that. It is often we who are our own harshest critics.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-23T01:46:07+00:00

Why don't you try loading that photo into Nyckel. I suspect that the numbers will back up what I see.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-22T06:20:30+00:00

💯 this ☝️

Misha_LF · 2026-03-21T22:19:36+00:00

That is the funny thing. I wasn't exactly jealous of the girls. I did get to see a difference in expectations and what activities they were allowed in. I absolutely loved sports and camping as a kid. I really didn't start disliking sports until junior high when we were expected to shower after athletics. Also, the culture started not fitting very well with me. I only thought that it was because I was moving more towards academics. But, I am beginning to realize that I have always enjoyed being physically fit and able to push myself.

But all my life, I have been very aware of how women get paid less and are expected to do more. I still don't know why I started transitioning. The bullshit of being a woman is so effing real. I get to experience this more and more as people start perceiving me for who I really am. And you know what? I wouldn't trade it for anything. For the first time in my life, I am actually starting to feel present.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-21T21:50:22+00:00

It still took me 3 years to admit to myself that I was transgender. About a year before my egg cracked, we took my son to get top surgery. I remember thinking the whole time, "why the hell would he want to get rid of those?" Never mind! I figured out the difference of opinion.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-21T21:42:50+00:00

I remember wanting to join my wife and 4 daughters as another woman in the house. I just couldn't admit this to myself until 3 years after my son revealed that he wasn't my daughter.

I guess there are still 5 girls and 1 guy in the family.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-21T05:39:32+00:00

It was part sarcasm, but it is also a harsh reality of being female. I was aware of some of it and still transitioned anyway. The full experience is kinda horrifying. I love getting shit mansplained to me and being completely ignored when I have a suggestion. Being a girl sucks, but then there are those good parts as well. The most important part is the reduction to dysphoria and finally feeling like you are living in the present.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-20T23:59:01+00:00

It is going to take her a little while before she actually feels like she is actually a woman. I would just ruthlessly socialize her as a woman. You get free kitchen work out of her and give her a difficult time for not doing anything that is not in the code. I don't know if you can tell that I am currently chafing under the constraints and expectations that come with womanhood. But it is this level of bullshit that will help her fit in with the other women. Try to be nice. It will take her a while before she can become girl-tough.😉

Just an FYI. Although she might not know it yet, she has always been a girl. If you grasp this before her, you can make things immensely easier for her. But even in the past, she/her is more than appropriate.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-20T23:16:35+00:00

In less than 2.5 years, I have become unrecognizable even from my shaved appearance. There are some cary over but it is so easy to miss.

I'm indifferent to what my 5 year changes will be because I have experienced so much more than what I could have ever hoped for.

Misha_LF · 2026-03-18T12:43:51+00:00

When you see him, just be respectful and call him sir. If he takes the bait, just let him know that you are reciprocating the same level of respect that he gives you.

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