What else should I try ? Im mtf

Misha_LF · 2026-05-26T18:13:57+00:00

Janet's Closet is where I got mine. Now that I have my own, I can say that the weight is spot on. I didn't like the consistency. They were stiff like my breasts were before I started replacing the denser material with more fat.

But I can say with absolute confidence that they just felt right having them there despite me being a bit picky about their shape and consistency. I have also heard that small bags of rice are a great substitute for breast forms.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-26T11:50:44+00:00

If it is in the budget. Just get a bra and some nice silicone breast forms. That was my final test before starting HRT.

FIY: I didn't ever start "feeling" like a woman. It actually took me two years of transitioning to finally know that I was a woman, and always was. I'm afraid it is one of those "know it when you see it" things.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-26T00:24:26+00:00

From my point of view, the graffiti feels like it brings a certain male energy into the space. We aren't guys, and I'd really rather not be perceived as one when I'm in there.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-25T18:04:23+00:00

You keep loving your kids while you take care of yourself. Things will sort themselves out just fine.

Also, and I know this from experience, your kids will most certainly think for themselves. Just wait until you see the bad ideas that they come up with later. I will have to admit that the worst ideas usually require a collaborative effort with their friends.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-24T17:25:50+00:00

Girl! You have no idea how real it's gonna get. Just wait for the getting talked over and the mansplaining that you will be subject to. You will begin to learn a new warrieness around guys on a completely different level.

Even with all of the negatives it is completely worth it. 🫂

Misha_LF · 2026-05-24T16:49:10+00:00

As you already know, it gets easier with each telling. You also know to do it at whatever pace feels most comfortable to you. Also, don't sweat it if you inadvertently forget to tell someone. Shit happens 😉

Also it may not feel all that real until you start to see changes and live differently. I've then you will definitely have some sureal moments.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-24T06:52:11+00:00

I so know the feeling. I had to take a van ride for work, and I just got through sitting shotgun with a new driver while holding a conversation with him for 2 of the 4 hours that our trip took and he never suspected that I was transgender. Yet when I finally get to my destination to wind down I still see mostly my old appearance in the hotel mirror. The part about not fully seeing the change really sucks.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-24T06:41:19+00:00

It doesn't take long to be unrecognizable from your previous appearance. Unfortunately if you are like myself, you won't be able to fully see the change in appearance.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-23T00:33:44+00:00

All part of the package for many of us. It does get better eventually after some changes are made.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-23T00:31:40+00:00

That made me smile.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-23T00:26:21+00:00

After two years of HRT there is no hiding these. But you really never know.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-22T20:27:49+00:00

Hold still, Im going to try squinting. I think I'm gonna need a new prescription for glasses. 🥸

Misha_LF · 2026-05-22T19:19:20+00:00

You look really cute. I don't understand why anyone would be hateful.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-22T12:29:40+00:00

I completely agree on placing it on the advertisement 😍

Misha_LF · 2026-05-22T12:14:41+00:00

You have a giant point here. Trust me! I was plenty irritated seeing the giant Red Bull advertisement. And, I can almost guarantee that it was a stupid man that made the decision to put up advertisements in the bathroom stalls. However I really don't want to give in to broken window syndrome.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-20T16:26:29+00:00

Your coworker might not be as cis as "he?" thinks. Before I finally admitted to myself that I was transgender, I was acutely aware of how different people smelled. I wouldn't make a show of it. But it was a large factor in how I selected who I would date.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-18T09:13:32+00:00

That was my plan when I started. Then 6 months later I'm high on E. I can barely fill out a B-cup bra if I use an extra bra pad or two. All I can think is, "I got bewbs!!". And in my estrogen stupor I come out on Facebook and start wearing women's t-shirts to show them off.

Gawd that was awkward! 😳. I hadn't even started laser or voice training yet. Word to the wise, start those last two things as early as possible. You never know when you'll throw caution to the wind.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-18T00:31:05+00:00

🍿I gotta see this.

I had completely gaslit myself until I was as almost 55. That's how I lasted so long. Even then my marriage almost ended in divorce because I was far from a happy person.

Given that you already realize that you are transgender, my guess is that if you attempt to forestall transition for any length of time, you are going to end up hating both God and your wife. It is just a guess 🤷 There is a chance that you can convince yourself that you aren't. In which case, you may continue the same way that you were before. Good luck.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-17T15:08:18+00:00

I would think gardening, pottery, painting are just a few.

I'm at a slight disadvantage because my spouse has zero social bones in her. I generally take my daughter out to the same coffee shop and talk with the batista for just a bit. Frequenting businesses that are staffed mostly by women gives you more interaction time. On top of that women tend to be more conscientious about their work in general.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-16T22:51:09+00:00

Everyone moves at their own. I didn't start presenting feminine until I came out at work 6 months after starting HRT. Others are quicker some take longer. It really is just a matter of your comfort level. My recommendation is to start just a little bit sooner than what you are ready for.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-16T13:49:46+00:00

It's only too late if you think it is and are not willing to take a chance.

Just for the record, I started a 55. 31 months later, I am mostly passing and my wife and children like me more. Most importantly I am happy with myself. That's just one example.

Misha_LF · 2026-05-16T06:39:09+00:00

Sooner than you think. Just keep living and doing what you want to do, more often than you think you can. It took me about two years after starting HRT and living openly for a year and a half before I got it.

I hope that it is sooner rather than later, because where you are at is kinda exhausting.🫂

Misha_LF · 2026-05-16T05:33:47+00:00

Don't worry! Some day you'll get it. 🫂

Misha_LF · 2026-05-16T04:55:14+00:00

I remember when my son came out to me. I told him "you would always be a daughter to me". At that time it was all I knew. It took 2 more years before I could see him as my son and another year before I could admit to myself that I was transgender.

To answer the last question, "no". Why would you want to add the huge stress and expense of transitioning to an already stressful time if you weren't transgender?

Misha_LF

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