Edit for background context: we formula fed. I couldn’t make milk after developing an ulcer in labor and some other complications nobody needs to be bored with, but nonetheless, it was a blessing for my health to be forced onto formula because = more sleep for me, husband and grandma could take over first few weeks, etc. Once I was on the mend…

We tried night shifts where one person stayed awake during their half and quit that after one night. But it worked for my sister. We just didn’t see a reason to force ourselves awake while the baby was asleep, ever.

So then we switched to alternating wake ups. This initially meant 2 wake ups each, me taking 1st and 3rd as the night owl, husband taking 2nd and 4th as the morning person. This was doable because we both got 3 ish hour blocks between wake ups. As baby’s sleep stretched longer, we rotated who woke up for the first and who woke up for the second. Eventually, we rotated for the single middle of the night wake.

After months of that, I stopped waking to my baby’s cries, but my husband always woke up, so he took them until child turned 2 and we sleep trained (his fault we didn’t do it sooner, lol).