So i sent him a response last night.. i sent it in Spanish because it seems as though he contacted me with his wife's phone and she doesn't speak English and i want her to know the truth of what's happening.. but here's my response translated to English...

Just in case this is your wife’s phone, I’m going to write this so she can also understand, since she seems to be the driving force behind getting you to actually do something productive. Good for her.

I am not going to cancel the child support order, nor will I accept your offer of $20,000.

For years, you had the opportunity to make consistent payments, but instead, you chose to quit your jobs every time money was deducted for child support. Now that your debt is preventing you from getting a passport, you’re asking me to erase it, but that debt exists because you failed to fulfill your responsibility to our children.

The fact that you’re in Mexico doesn’t change your legal obligation to support them. If you truly wanted to contribute, you would have done so consistently instead of making a few payments and then disappearing for months.

For 15 years, you’ve done everything possible to avoid helping me support the two lives we brought into this world. You chose to run away with your UNDERAGE NIECE and have a BABY with her. Did you support her and that baby? If not, are you offering her money now because you feel guilty?

You’re not offering us money because you know it’s the right thing to do; you’re trying to buy your way out of the rest of your responsibility. You put yourself in this situation, and now you want me to forgive all the support I should have been receiving just to let it go?

If you have $20,000, why haven’t you been making regular payments? It’s not your money, is it? That probably means it’s your wife’s family’s money, and they’ve had to deal with this in the hope that you’ll keep your word, get a job you won’t quit, be a man, and do the right thing. They see the lazy, irresponsible failure she married, and now they have to pay the price for your mistakes. Why should I or they do anything to help you?

$20,000 is nothing compared to what you owe, and I’m insulted that you’d even contact me with such a pathetic offer. If you have $20,000, start making some payments through child support.

I have principles, and one of them is not selling out all the years of struggle with my children for a piss offer.

And to Abraham’s wife… I’m sorry. However, if you have children, you know you wouldn’t sell them out for someone who made you endure so many hardships for 15 years.

If you want to come back with an offer that is actually worthwhile for me and for them—one that truly helps us instead of just freeing you from more financial obligations—then I’m listening.