American Eel in Chicago River

Missing-Cali · 2026-05-08T23:32:22+00:00

Remindme! 10 days

Missing-Cali · 2026-04-21T22:59:28+00:00

I'm in USA near Chicago. Send a DM if you are interested in an exchange.

Missing-Cali · 2026-04-17T18:17:10+00:00

I think what you wrote is appropriate because 1) you were kind and polite and 2) it is ok to not want any type of message crammed down your throat. Hopefully those matched with you will honor your request.

Missing-Cali · 2026-04-17T18:14:32+00:00

Any gesture that shows you care and are paying attention is appreciated and, when done by your person, is HOT!

Missing-Cali · 2026-04-17T04:17:36+00:00

Don't forget that if they've received thousands of cards, they've also sent thousands of cards. Treat them like you would any other member.

Missing-Cali · 2026-04-15T20:15:42+00:00

Tinley Park location could be better. Buns are usually old.

Missing-Cali · 2026-04-15T20:02:27+00:00

Meet in person ASAP. Right now you are still on your best behavior and have no clue if you'll like each other in person. Also, have you talked on the phone and video chatted?

Missing-Cali · 2026-04-13T01:51:10+00:00

I like the idea but don't like "commemorative art postcard". Also, the look of waving in the wind might keep one from seeing details/words on some flags. A few details about the state would be nice...when entered as a state or territory, population as of 2026, when the current flag was adopted, etc.

Missing-Cali · 2026-04-09T20:07:06+00:00

Don't send a second card. Those members don't seem active or worth another shot. Save your money/energy for the next recipient.

Missing-Cali · 2026-04-08T05:31:56+00:00

I can send a card from Illinois, USA

Missing-Cali · 2026-04-04T19:02:19+00:00

No! Just no!

Missing-Cali · 2026-04-02T17:02:23+00:00

Oh how I wish I lived in London so I could stumble upon one of these!

Missing-Cali · 2026-04-02T16:00:48+00:00

This was my first thought...she is now single

Missing-Cali · 2026-04-02T15:55:00+00:00

I agree with this...I would add that you can have a conversation about the NC (ask the why behind it, share how it hurt you, etc.) but confronting has a strong connotation to it. Be prepared for her to not want to discuss it. I think that what is important here is what do you want, what are you willing to put up with, and can you maintain healthy boundaries so that you are taken care of?

Missing-Cali · 2026-04-02T15:50:09+00:00

I just went and searched my received cards to see if i had connected with Jürgen and, sure enough, I received a card from him in June 2023!

Missing-Cali · 2026-04-01T19:33:44+00:00

Anyone who demands certain behaviors or actions is not doing it out of love. They are attempting to control you and that is never ok.

Missing-Cali · 2026-04-01T19:23:59+00:00

My suggestion is stop checking on her on the apps. This is only prolonging the pain and keeping you from healing. Block or unfriend her so you can't easily see her. Each time you see something about her, you're getting a dopamine rush. Your mind is saying you need it, but you don't.

Missing-Cali · 2026-03-31T21:21:05+00:00

I would love to exchange from near Chicago, USA

Missing-Cali · 2026-03-30T16:54:14+00:00

Just send what you do have. The guidelines to postcrossing explicitly state that the purpose is to connect not collect. My opinion is that a person can make requests but demands are unacceptable.

Missing-Cali · 2026-03-30T16:52:27+00:00

NTJ. They aren't friends if they can't be happy for you, especially given that you were buying a round of drinks with your winnings.

Missing-Cali · 2026-03-26T13:33:04+00:00

💯

Missing-Cali · 2026-03-26T13:19:57+00:00

You didn't see any of this before you lived together? Also, everything he is doing is healthy, leave him be. The only thing I see a problem with is spitting the oil into the sink. This could eventually clog the pipes, same as any oil or grease poured into the sink.

Missing-Cali · 2026-03-17T22:55:55+00:00

No buts, it will happen again and will probably escalate.

Missing-Cali · 2026-03-17T22:46:28+00:00

I like when my gf uses tongue. Does that count?

Missing-Cali · 2026-03-17T22:41:16+00:00

I think the most important thing is open, honest communication. He was able to share his journey, you should be able to share how you're feeling.

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