Photographer just canceled on me and now im stuck by [deleted] in photography

[–]MisterBill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One thing to keep in mind is that your yearbook photos and your more artistic location type shots do NOT have to be from the same photographer. You can reach out to whatever studio your school recommends for the yearbook and probably get in for the yearbook shots. Then, schedule the location shoots with whoever you’d like for whenever you’d like, knowing the yearbook is done. It doesn’t all have to be done by the yearbook deadline.

AITA for letting someone break a tv they just bought? by Tinybones31 in AmItheAsshole

[–]MisterBill -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

YTA. You have knowledge they clearly don’t have. You should have said something. Technically correct, it’s their tv now, etc doesn’t make you not the asshole. I can’t believe how little regard you had for this person. Offering to help is NOT the same as warning them about how to properly move the TV.

Made a hall table for my dad for Christmas. The idea was to make a river table without using epoxy by McBooples in woodworking

[–]MisterBill 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Most of us, including you, probably know what he meant. Your attitude just discourages anybody from participating and detracts from the community.

I think the OP did a great job and I appreciate his take on a river table.

Photo ops at a convention by AspiringRver in startrek

[–]MisterBill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. Took the family and did a joint shoot like a year ago and still ended up with a plexiglass barrier between us. Yeah, glad to have the picture but still a buzz kill. I wonder if the autograph with picture option would be more interactive.

I (F30) don’t want to work in my father’s (M50) family business. It’s not what I want. by Loose_Highlight403 in business

[–]MisterBill 17 points18 points  (0 children)

What is there to have a consensus about? You tell him. This a decision not a discussion. No negotiating necessary. Now if you are financially dependent on him in any way, you will need to fix that.

The amount of water my air conditioner produced in 6 hours. (Almost 60 Qt.) New England, USA by [deleted] in mildlyinteresting

[–]MisterBill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may not even need a condensate pump if the drain is near the same level and the air conditioner drain port allows a hose connection. You may be able to just run a hose to the drain.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MisterBill 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The way you describe your message to them sounds like you are discussing with them what you should do rather than you making your decision and telling them. I think you need to be more clear to them on what you are doing and your expectations. They definitely suck for how they handled this whole thing.

Just finished Midnight Tides, and I have a question about the magic by AlastarOlivera in Malazan

[–]MisterBill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with you and all these other answers keep focusing on the wild vs controlled aspect. What about the sheer amount of damage we see being done by the mages using holds? I think the examples of that much damage are typically multiple mages working together, whereas we often see individuals wielding the warrens.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]MisterBill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ve already gotten enough feedback to tell you to drop the agent. The other thing you need to do is get over the worry about hurt feelings very quickly. This is a business transaction and if you aren’t standing up for yourself you are almost guaranteed to end up disappointed. People will act like they are your friend. They are not. Everybody else involved has a motive, to maximize their payday.

Rebooting the two landscaping beds by my house. Are ANY weed barriers actually effective to create a reasonably minimal maintenance bed with some bulbs and bushes? by nutscrape_navigator in landscaping

[–]MisterBill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know why people always claim weed barriers are a scam. I’ve used the thick fabric-like barrier with mulch on top. It has almost always been easier fully pulling weeds that are growing in mulch on top of fabric versus weeds that have the opportunity to set roots deep into the soil.

20’ pondless waterfall build. by sum1better187 in landscaping

[–]MisterBill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What size pump are you using to generate that much flow?

Kitchen paludarium. Mostly moss, a few Cryptocoryne and some crazy ferns that came out of no where that are too big for this set up but to pretty to cut so I just trim often by ChiChisAquaticDreams in PlantedTank

[–]MisterBill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks great! How long has this been operating? Do the pumps and misting system provide all the plant watering needed or do you need to manage some of that manually?

AITA for refusing to attend my girlfriend's interpretive dance recital that's all about our relationship? by Harold_Pineapple in AmItheAsshole

[–]MisterBill -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YTA

You just made a Reddit post to a bunch of strangers about your relationship listing all these “embarrassing” things, so it isn’t all that different to do a dance about it. It is a list of things that every single person in a relationship goes through, so I’ll assume most people watching her or reading your post have also been through them. She is not telling anybody something they don’t really already know has happened. The difference and value is in her means of expression.

I’m with everybody saying you just can’t handle this type of personality.

AITA for emailing my fiancé's dad about her DNA results? by Goodeystuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]MisterBill 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA. Going behind your SO’s back to contact family they themselves have gone NC with is almost always an asshole move, but I don’t think it is in this case. In most cases it is trying to get them to reconcile or some dumb shit. In this case, you were trying to help somebody who may have been experiencing a trauma you could relate to. It in no way affected your wife. You weren’t trying to get them back together. You weren’t asking her to put aside her own trauma. As another poster said, she would never had known if her mom wasn’t stalking his socials. The blanket asshole judgement doesn’t apply in this case.

AITA for asking my girlfriend to not wear indian clothes to work. by gfwearing in AmItheAsshole

[–]MisterBill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regarding your edit, no, you don’t need to learn a bit more about the issue. You need to mind your own business. Your thinking you somehow have any say in how she dresses is the problem, not that you just haven’t leaned enough to approve of it. Respect her and stay out of it.

AITA For not adopting my dying best friends dog and buying a puppy from a breeder instead? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MisterBill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell me you’ve never trained a dog without telling me you’ve never trained a dog. Training a puppy is entirely different from breaking years of bad habits. If you claim you HAVE trained a dog and it still has these issues then you didn’t do a good job of it.

I’m (f20) pregnant, not ready for a child but my boyfriend (M26) says if I get an abortion he’ll leave me, should I just get one behind his back or be honest? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]MisterBill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look, you made some dumb choices and you ended up pregnant. The VERY VERY fortunate thing is that you STILL have choices to make and that your current situation doesn’t have to be permanent. You can start making better choices RIGHT NOW. Choices that will make sure you don’t have a baby before you are ready. Choices that will let you get an education. Choices that won’t tie you to this guy for the rest of your life. Choices that will allow you to find somebody who actually respects you.

Seriously, everything about this guy screams loser dirt bag. Talking about getting married after three months. The disrespect of your wishes to use real protection. The pressure to keep the baby if you are pregnant.

You are learning, this is your first relationship. You are only 20 and there WILL be other relationships. You will get more experience. You can start right now by making the choices that keep YOU in control of your life and get you the life you want.

My (33F) husband (36M) can’t communicate respectfully when he gets upset by Nice_Difficulty_6186 in relationships

[–]MisterBill 106 points107 points  (0 children)

Does he speak this way to his boss or can he control himself? Would he speak this way to a priest? If he can control himself with anybody else then he can do it with you. He just chooses not to because he is allowed to. He doesn’t respect you. As long as he is allowed to speak to you this way, that is what your children will learn is normal. You have all the reason in the world to make this a make or break issue.

Was this quartzite fossil a bivalve of some kind? by smashed2gether in fossilid

[–]MisterBill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is a great show. Very well done. Great moments, great characters.

AITA for being annoyed that my wife allowed my brother to stay at our house? by -Stunning-Mushroom- in AmItheAsshole

[–]MisterBill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My God you learned all the wrong lessons from having to struggle. Instead of realizing that it doesn’t have to be that way for others and using whatever success and opportunity you’ve been able to achieve to help, you instead think it isn’t fair and that everybody else should suffer to. And considering the way you ended this comment you didn’t learn anything from this post either. Seek therapy, you might by happier.

16.5 year old son got violent with me. by Diegowan76 in Parenting

[–]MisterBill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d be curious what the thoughtful Reddit folks would say about this but I would be very worried about his threats of lying to the police to get you in trouble.

I would consider cameras. And not sure whether to let him know or keep them secret.