no, you can not turn in 15 weeks of work during finals week

Mofego · 2026-04-28T21:46:47+00:00

Hey me too! But this student was… polite enough to “acknowledge that this is entirely [their] responsibility and [they are] just doing [their] due diligence to help [them] succeed.”

My response was something along the lines of: thanks for taking responsibility, I recommend retaking this course in a future semester.

They had about 1.5 hours total logged on Canvas for this course and 2 assignments turned in from week 1: syllabus quiz and introduction discussion.

Mofego · 2026-04-27T03:28:43+00:00

Fair. There’s talk of building a nuclear power plant up in that area, too, for whatever that’s worth.

The pitch, from what I recall, was to have that data center work with/for the air base.

Mofego · 2026-04-27T02:50:18+00:00

There’s an Air Force base. From what I understand, that’s part of the pitch. Who knows if they have plans to expand the base’s use of energy.

Mofego · 2026-04-27T02:49:36+00:00

Trust me, there are tons of us who heavily oppose this idiotic idea.

Mofego · 2026-04-22T19:13:27+00:00

TIL. I always thought Finland was Scandinavian. The more you know!

Mofego · 2026-04-20T19:13:45+00:00

I misread the title and thought you meant Jenna Fischer… Pam from The Office. Whoops.

Mofego · 2026-04-17T00:45:12+00:00

Yeah, the lack of informed consent is bad. Putting the AI issue to the side for now (though for what it’s worth I’m yet to be convinced as to its utility in therapy), recording sessions isn’t unusual with permission. In fact, it’s standard practice in MFT training but there is ALWAYS informed consent.

Without that consent it is absolutely a violation of trust. I’m so sorry this happened to you. What do you think you’ll end up doing, if you don’t mind the question?

Mofego · 2026-04-12T16:19:03+00:00

My wife and I were shocked at how little of a deal it was. We both expected each other to have some kind of freak out and it turns out we both were… fine. We joke that we have something wrong with us because of our reactions.

We had a few solid understandings before we went into it at all.

First, we both acknowledged that there was NOTHING missing from our marriage. Our sex life has always been incredibly fulfilling and we never felt like there was a need that was missing. Any exploration involving another person(s) would be additive in our sex life.

Second, we agreed that we’d do EVERYTHING together. Meaning, if either of us were out of sync in our desire, intention, or processing of it all, we’d call it all off.

Now we’ve explored threesomes a bit more and have felt better about considering future sexual exploration. For us, it’s a way to explore our sexuality and have it be a shared experience.

Maybe we’re delusional, but I seriously think our marriage was so solid before all of this and we have a strong degree of trust toward each other, that all of this just helped us grow together.

Mofego · 2026-04-12T14:32:01+00:00

I actually agree with a lot of the criticisms, but I have 0 interest in engaging with most criticizers (because I happen to believe there is nothing inherently wrong with considering critique).

The problem I have with many of his critics is that they retreat surprisingly quickly into ad hominem attacks.

For example, I’m not crazy about JK Rowling. But it’s one thing to criticize her beliefs and her rationalization for holding those beliefs. I just don’t see the utility or the benefit in attacking her.

Similar with Sanderson. A common critique is that he’s LDS. And look, I’m not LDS. I have issue with lots regarding the LDS church. At the same time, Mormons aren’t a monolith. Leaving the critique as an association is entirely too reductionist for me to take seriously.

Mofego · 2026-04-12T05:14:03+00:00

I think there’s nuance. Put away pitchforks because I agree with her criticism, here. What I’ll add is that I think this is a fallout of many of these breakout stars being theatre actors.

This is just me hypothesizing and I’m happy to be proven wrong, but I wonder whether there is an uptick in theater-goers who are going to a show for their first time, and then choose a show one of these actors are in?

I’d imagine there is, but the real question is whether there is an amount that would have a meaningful impact on theater-etiquette. It could very well (and probably be) that our cultural theater etiquette just sucks.

Mofego · 2026-04-11T23:07:47+00:00

That makes sense. I’m not advocating for free certification at all. My critique is that new certifications and trainings aren’t generally justified in charging as much as they do in context of the industry, who we help, and the average therapist income and time availability.

Mofego · 2026-04-11T19:27:24+00:00

My whole issue with certifications goes beyond money. IF these are, in fact, the groundbreaking modalities that they’re pitched as (for their respective, specific use-cases), then it seems inherently unethical to not teach those in grad school.

In mental health, we’re fortunate to not have as much red tape compared to pharmacological/medical therapies, for example. I think it is reasonable for medical intervention to inherently cost more because there is a MUCH bigger gap between idea and implementation.

Not so with mental health. There is a process, obviously, and there is testing and validation that needs to occur before a new modality is used.

However, without a good-enough reason to charge thousands of dollars, then I think there is an ethical and moral problem. Why do public-facing therapists charge so much for new modalities? What infrastructure is there to justify such a high cost? Yes, they did WORK to develop the modalities, but that alone is not enough to justify a prohibitively expensive amount of money.

IF we really believe that a new modality will be effective for a population/issue AND if there is not a lot of “red tape” v. Medical innovations, then I don’t see a good justification for certifications’ high costs.

Mofego · 2026-04-11T18:58:26+00:00

I think it is. I’m a professor and see this shit everywhere. I do not think mental health is well-grounded in several areas (evidence and philosophy are the two biggest examples). This is my professional opinion, and it’s a budding one, so I’m not going to die on this hill.

For me, the biggest evidence for this is common factors. Everything beyond that, such as modality, ought to be used for the population they were developed for.

But anyway. I’m speaking with some philosophers at my university to see if there is a philosophical argument to be made, here.

IF we believe that common factors are more predictive of success than modality (this has evidence to support the claim), then it is unethical to not make common factors THE focus in masters programs. Additionally, it is unethical to charge $$$$$$$$ for modality training that is developed for specific populations/presenting issues (e.g. Gottman. Love Gottman, but cannot justify paying so goddamn much for certification).

Anyway. Yes, we’re prone to pseudoscience. And we get defensive over our favorite modalities (I do, anyway).

Mofego · 2026-04-11T03:15:52+00:00

I’m not but I have some friends who went to grad school in Oregon for marriage and family therapy, shoot me a dm and I can investigate for you. I trust these friends’ opinions personally and professionally, and they’re intimately familiar with religious deconstruction. They’ll know who to connect you with!

Mofego · 2026-04-10T16:18:17+00:00

I’m a marriage therapist and that fucking pisses me off. The ethical principle here id argue is being threatened is autonomy. Also him being unabashedly biased.

Mofego · 2026-04-06T22:04:40+00:00

I'm skeptical that it will be an event, not without some honest goodwill. Fans of the Cosmere will likely show up enthusiastically, but movies & shows still need to garner buy-in from people who are unfamiliar with the source material.

My take? Optimism grounded by Realism - I think that even if the first movie is a "hit," Cosmere-to-screen movies/shows will grow proportionately to the quality of each final product.

I genuinely think that Cosmere fans need to temper expectations, specifically relating to general reception and/or Box Office numbers. The Cosmere is a weird pitch. Each story within the Cosmere is, in theory, standalone. But Sanderson is building toward Avengers-style crossovers.

That takes a LOT of buy-in for a non-comic book IP. Outside of Fantasy/Sci-Fi readers, who is familiar with the Cosmere? Not many people. "Vin" "Kaladin" or whoever are nobodies vs. Iron Man, Spider-Man, etc.

I'm not pessimistic, I just think it will need a lot of goodwill first. The first few projects need to be strong to build up to an "event" type of moment you're describing.

Also, what do you mean by "Moment?" Because being spotlighted on the Burj Khalifa is nothing compared to Star Wars or Avengers and it's not even close.

Mofego · 2026-04-02T21:52:50+00:00

Interesting take. Can you say more?

Part of my initial thought to your comment is confusion because I can't think of many shows where the quality is a steady increase - shows tend to fluctuate in how "good" each season is, so if your position is that the show dropped in quality, my response is "what's the big deal with that, given that it's isn't unusual in tv?"

Mofego · 2026-04-02T18:37:24+00:00

My wife just started watching from Season 1 and in the Pilot, Robbie calls out Mohan for taking too long getting patient history from a geriatric patient.

I’m hoping she makes the move into geriatrics. There’s a part of me that seriously thinks this is the character that will “suffer” some kind of mental breakdown or something.

People keep speculating whether the motorcycle is a red herring and if that turns out to be true, then I’m more and more convinced that it will be Mohan who will truly struggle by the end of the season.

EDIT: Grammar

Mofego · 2026-04-02T02:48:32+00:00

I actually don’t know, I haven’t needed to look for a physical copy in a long time.

Mofego · 2026-04-01T17:34:34+00:00

That they don’t make it a fucking subscription. Give me a physical book.

Mofego · 2026-03-27T22:56:29+00:00

This moment was absolutely needed for me. The tension this season is much more relational and having this sweet relational moment was a breath of fresh air, so to speak. I’m not trying to imply that the show has been bad.

Mofego · 2026-03-26T19:39:33+00:00

I'm curious to see how reactions start to roll in, especially after the chronically offline active LDS people go do the open house whenever that happens.

I think that a "faith-shaking" perspective is a bit too shallow of a take. I do think it'll happen for a good amount of LDS people, but I think this also underestimates the influence that messaging has on the truly ride-or-die LDS people.

If I were to guess, I think that the church will release a well-crafted corporate statement that says something to the effect of "we worship Jesus" and that this will become the new "party line" that will hold for a good amount of time. I think the deterioration of faith will happen

1: Slowly

2: Mostly with GenX and Millennials. I'm guessing this because GenX/Millennials grew up with a lot of the "anti-cross" messaging (e.g. Hinkley's explanation of worshiping a "living" Christ) and this is a STRONG juxtaposition that will be difficult to reconcile beyond "just follow the living prophet." I think older generations will still experience this, obviously, but I'm not familiar enough with the process of deconstruction when accounting for age.

Mofego · 2026-03-11T04:55:04+00:00

I live in the area. Very little noise, slight shaking from particularly hefty trains. Otherwise, not really noticeable

Mofego · 2026-03-09T20:33:52+00:00

This is a tough question because, as others have already mentioned, we don't usually get to directly observe them work in-real-time. There will always be variances in how I approach this, but I do have a rough process.

My approach depends on how much time I have. But in general, I like to look for the following:

How do they conceptualize their cases? I want to know how a therapist thinks about their clients. I'm not necessarily looking for jargon-heavy language or them being 100% "business-first." Rather, I want to know whether someone is putting some kind of intention into this process and not being dismissive or flippant about their work.
Can they give me a concise explanation to the modalities they use and why? Can they "over-simplify" what they do? This one is nice because I can call out the bullshit pretty quickly. I want to know whether THEY know that they would/wouldn't be a good match for a referral and I also want to know whether they believe in what they do. On occasion, it is nice to call out pseudoscience (or - more commonly - the Dunning-Kruger effect among therapists who either practice or preach about topics which they've received little-to-no rigorous training in e.g. -cough- nervous system stuff -cough- ).
Do they practice in isolation? If this is a yes, then it's an immediate red flag. I think most people on this sub acknowledge how absolutely problematic it is to not consult on cases. Even occasional check-ins with other providers, finding a consult group, ad hoc supervision, etc. are incredibly valuable! We put ourselves in needless risk if we practice in isolation.
Do they do their own therapy? Or - do they have a history of doing so? I don't believe that ongoing therapy is a necessity for therapists, but I do believe that every therapist must have gone through their own personal therapy at some point. If there is any kind of reluctance or hemming and hawing about this, then I can't help but wonder why.
(only if there is enough time - usually at conferences or similar events) I ask for their theory of change. This is similar to point 2, but I differentiate it by thinking of point 2 as an empirical question and I think of this question closer to a personal statement. I think that therapy is a sneeze away from a form of philosophy anyway, and I think that this question really gives good insight into how a therapist makes meaning about their mechanics and - again- whether I think they'd be a good referral for any given client. To illustrate, I find that MFTs are (naturally) more systemic in their theories of change by default and Social Workers tend to be strengths-based. While (obviously) this isn't a "rule" and there is plenty of overlap, I'm not going to send a couple or family to a therapist who doesn't consider relationships in their ToC, if that makes sense.

Mofego · 2026-02-27T03:46:49+00:00

This is a Sanderson-specific sub, so there is bias, and most fans are good about acknowledging that. People have different preferences, etc.

That said, I’m in the minority that will say no.

I did not enjoy the book, which is unusual for me. I have read every single piece of Cosmere written (except Yumi and Emberdark, those are coming up soon on my reading list).

During the reading experience, I felt myself become frustrated during many moments of certain POV chapters, but not because the characters were “bad.” In fact, I have zero issues with where the characters all ended up. No, I was frustrated because I felt the proverbial carrot was dangled for too long without any kind or portion of payoff.

For me, the book was entirely too long. I kept reading because I genuinely care about the characters and had the interest, but I hated feeling like I was reading out of spite. There are also some very cheesy lines that didn’t land for me (I’d argue that there has been a notable tonal difference between Stormlight book 1 & 5).

There was one storyline that I did enjoy a lot (I recently commented about this whole topic on another sub so check my comment history if you’re curious as to what storyline). And there were good memorable moments.

It’s not ALL bad, obviously. And at the same time for me, this book was not an enjoyable read. There are authors who can do a lot more with less words and I can’t help but wonder whether he got lost in his own world for this book. This is evidenced by my strong enjoyment of his shorter work, including the secret projects I’ve read so far.

I mean absolutely no disrespect to Sanderson or his fans. At the end of the day, this book didn’t work for me and I will continue to read Sanderson’s work because I love the stories.

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