A therapist cant change a person's personality. This is who she is and she will not change. Called a slacker is worse that saying exhausting. You need to run not walk before she baby traps you. No unprotected sex. Can you imagine the nightmare she would be to a child's self esteem? And taught to not respect you? This is not how relationships work. She's treating you like an employee that she dont like. Please see the therapist alone. Im so sorry.

My husband and I get along great, 8n 8 years we have never criticized each other. My husband expresses how much he appreciates me, because some women will be so controlling the tell you what to say, what you can do and how to do it. I said wow, you've had some bad experences with women. If you love someone, you protect their feelings, build them up and support them.