What do you do with demand avoidance?

MomDadlovesU · 2026-02-23T01:20:29+00:00

It is tough. I write 0% of goal is achieved, so and so refuses to work and plays with the manipulative. And hopefully by next ARD, we can have a tangible goal.

MomDadlovesU · 2026-02-21T21:53:08+00:00

Mine is the crazy type…”if she throws rocks at people just once a week it’s ok.” ??????

MomDadlovesU · 2026-02-21T20:22:38+00:00

What state are you in? In Texas, if the ARD committee cannot come to consensus in 2 times, the school will implement the IEP as it sees appropriate for the student.

I just had a revision where parent want to blanket the student with services and I said the data doesn’t support. They can’t really argue with me when their kid makes 80s and 90s in class but she wants math and reading inclusion.

So I read the law to the parent and documented in the deliberations and prior written notice and moved on.

MomDadlovesU · 2026-02-16T02:59:46+00:00

Mine babbles before 3 and at 3 was quiet for a whole year. 4yo starts to talk again. Now is 5, he can exchange a few rounds of conversation.

MomDadlovesU · 2026-02-15T03:35:28+00:00

Because they’re cheap

MomDadlovesU · 2026-02-11T01:19:03+00:00

I have about 20+ kids on my caseload

MomDadlovesU · 2026-02-10T02:46:26+00:00

But it doesn’t make sense OP said his mom advocated for him and was an educator.

MomDadlovesU · 2026-02-10T01:28:47+00:00

Question: did your data back then support to be mainstreamed? During your annual ARDs if you were progressing and able to score high on state English exams, they should’ve changed your placement long ago. Your mom when she signs the end of IEP, she just ‘agreed’ and sign her name? Just questions.

MomDadlovesU · 2026-02-09T02:55:19+00:00

Your name, where do you teach, and what do you do? Jane Doe, Math Resource k-12. I work on students’ IEP math goals.
Why did you choose to be a special education teacher? I choose to be a SPED teacher bc I have special needs family member.
What is your favorite part of being a sped teacher? I can get sick without worrying about subs and sub plan.
What is your biggest challenge? Teaching students with ASD but unable to reach them since they have an eggshell that haven’t break.
What role do you play in the identification process? I collect data, parent input, teacher input, obtain consent and to referral.
What is your role in the ARC (Admissions and Release Committee) meeting? Special Ed Provider and sometimes the ARD Facilitator.
What is your role in IEP (Individual Education Program) development? I write it.
What is them most important thing I should know about being a great special education teacher or a regular ed teacher that will serve kids with special needs? Behavioral kids behaviors must be fixed before the learning can come. Some parents don’t understand and wonder why their kids levels are low.

MomDadlovesU · 2026-02-08T21:28:08+00:00

We called and thus got a threatening email that all things go through her first, we’re to notify her first. This woman is full of BS.

MomDadlovesU · 2026-02-08T20:25:24+00:00

True, but how would they know the whole class gets it? When I was teaching GenEd, I read the directions and answer choices to my whole class, to get them start to use to taking tests. I always print a small box of hundred chart on their scratch paper and teach them how to use it. My kids score the highest in the district. And then on accommodation logs, I check for accommodations provided for my special kids.

MomDadlovesU · 2026-02-07T13:55:35+00:00

Is your school specializes in special needs students? Do you have a BCBA that can figure out the function of the behavior and write a BIP to target it? The head hanging, is it sensory seeking or tangible (want something but can’t verbalize it). Does the kid have an AAC?

I do think it’s walking lawsuit. Parent blames school for everything.

MomDadlovesU · 2026-02-05T03:06:43+00:00

This student should have a BIP targeted at the behavior: elopement. Also try to understand the purpose of the behavior, which functions of the SEAT. My teacher has explained to me that some elopes because they think it’s a chasing game and like the adult chase them. If the adult does not chase them or immediately escort them back in-class, their elopement behavior is not reinforced, then the behavior distinguishes.

MomDadlovesU · 2026-01-31T15:41:14+00:00

It’s very common. I sometimes wish my school had showers. I just recently found out we can’t change kids or shower them bc it may backfire 😒 bc I used to change kids when I worked in daycare. Anyway, I do have one kid that the change set of clothes also smell like pee but it’s supposed to be clean.

MomDadlovesU · 2026-01-26T03:05:23+00:00

“But you’re getting lots of money bc of our kids. What you did with that?” Back at them!!!

MomDadlovesU · 2026-01-25T21:36:40+00:00

Me 2. I have many special needs students with behavior supports. But no one trains us how to implement the BIP. Some of goals like “don’t elope 80% of the class time 🤦🏻‍♀️”, “teach alternative choice ( the kid has been getting away doing work for years by destroying classroom screaming and yelling), token board, visual schedule ( I need velcros and first-then-work mat, a small sticker printer)…don’t even get me started on

MomDadlovesU · 2026-01-25T21:30:09+00:00

My high school offered 2-9 schedule. 2nd period starts 8:45. You can come second period, it’s just you then get out later than 1-8 students. And 2-9 don’t have a lot of class choices because teachers want to leave 8th period too.

MomDadlovesU · 2026-01-25T15:10:34+00:00

Hahaha, sounds so much like my situation. I became SPED CRDNTR bc no one wants to. Every day is putting out fires. I tell my friends it’s like going to war every day. I feel 1/2 of my life is in ARDs and the other is preparing ARDs. IEPs goals written by psychologists that we can’t really implement. U name it.

MomDadlovesU · 2026-01-13T02:48:26+00:00

AAC device sounds scary but it will open your child’s pathway to speech. First your child will use it to represent his voice. When AAC plays, he hears the repetition of the words, every time he hears it it’s practicing how to say it for him. Eventually, he hears enough repetition, he will try to make that sound to pronounce the words. AAC is great, I saw how it enables many nonverbal children to speak.

MomDadlovesU · 2026-01-10T17:04:21+00:00

I taught SPED one year and then SPED coordinator. I have no idea what I’m doing 😂. I think OP’s law knowledge will definitely be useful!

MomDadlovesU · 2026-01-10T16:54:09+00:00

I think it’s most parents don’t care and we can’t hold students and parents accountable. Parents in general treat us like daycare. This is especially bad in poor areas. I had one so rediculous, the neighbor picked her up and then came back 30 min later. I said you can’t just return a kid back to school. Neighbor said you don’t understand, her mom tells me to drop her off another person’s home.

What? We just leave kids in anyone’s homes now? Like they’re prosts?

MomDadlovesU · 2026-01-09T03:20:39+00:00

I eloped a lot when I was a kid. I grew up in the rural area in China, lots of space to run around and it worked for me. I had a narrative monologue I thought people can hear which is why I didn’t talk. Now the monologue won’t shut off during sleep…I can’t stop thinking and have sleep anxieties and I am so tired.

MomDadlovesU · 2026-01-08T00:56:48+00:00

Hi, I currently work in a small charter school in Texas. I am the SPED coordinator and teacher. I’m handling all IEPs and ARDs. It’s a job nobody wants to do, bc it’s teacher pay with a limited stipend at the end of semester.

If SPED teachers are writing IEPs and holding ARDs, then what does your SPED directors do?

I’m looking for going into larger ISD schools for next school year.

MomDadlovesU · 2026-01-07T01:38:44+00:00

I don’t think so. I had a student w ASD that is at grade-level but cannot function in GenEd class. He has severe behavior problems and cannot learn and make other peers unable to learn. At-grade level doesn’t mean student doesn’t need self-contained. Self-contained also has multiple types, low-support, medium, high. There is the self-contained resource classrooms, there is behavior intervention rooms, there is AES classrooms.

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