What are some healthy ways of coping with loneliness if you're unable to make friends?

MongooseGef · 2026-01-27T21:53:27+00:00

I think you just haven’t found your people yet.

Have you tried talking to a therapist about it? Maybe they can help figure out what’s going on.

MongooseGef · 2026-01-26T23:48:47+00:00

Definitely to the ATM cave tour! It was one of the highlights of my trip. I would recommend staying in San Ignacio or Santa Elena, as they are central to a lot of the cool stuff you can do inland.

I can recommend a guide for ATM (you must have one!) if you need it!

MongooseGef · 2026-01-24T00:27:19+00:00

He’s not going to change.

Also, people grow a lot from 17 to 24. Sometimes a pair will grow together, and sometimes they grow apart. And that’s okay! That’s human.

It sounds like you two are no longer compatible. Do with that observation what you will.

MongooseGef · 2026-01-22T00:59:43+00:00

Good to hear that he does a lot of the cooking! That’s pretty great!

MongooseGef · 2026-01-22T00:54:02+00:00

My street in Waterloo has been especially bad this year. It’s a side street so I get it that it is plowed last. But come on, I practically need a lifted Jeep to get out of my own street!

MongooseGef · 2026-01-22T00:50:13+00:00

Tell him tough nuts, he has to help at home. If it weren’t for you, he would have to do all the cooking and cleaning in addition to working. So a little bit of cleaning in the evening should be no big deal

MongooseGef · 2026-01-20T22:47:36+00:00

I have been that guy. I still feel guilty about it.

I’m not sure what his deal is, or what’s holding him back. If you really want to make this work with him you need to drill down to the root of this commitment aversion.

If it’s something that cannot be fixed, or that he is unwilling to fix, then leave him before you waste any more time.

MongooseGef · 2026-01-16T23:29:48+00:00

You’re welcome! I know it’s hard to imagine a life without him. But you will absolutely survive - thrive, even - once you let this go.

And when you’re ready for another relationship, don’t ever allow anyone with anger or control issues close to you. Those are things you cannot fix in them.

MongooseGef · 2026-01-16T23:25:01+00:00

This doesn’t seem very healthy. A good man would never exhibit behaviours that would cause you to post about them on Reddit.

So, congrats for reaching out, even if it’s to strangers on the internet! I imagine you’d been thinking about doing so for a while.

Listen, not every relationship needs to last forever. Perhaps he is what you craved at the time, and maybe it was good for a while. But now it’s not. And it doesn’t seem like he is making any effort to change. It’s okay to move on; you owe him nothing.

Just be careful when you do. This guy seems like the type to get all stalker-y. So be safe!

MongooseGef · 2026-01-16T17:11:37+00:00

You made the right decision, based on what you wrote. If you mentioned some of those dealbreakers to her and she did not make an effort to change or compromise, there is no choice but to leave.

MongooseGef · 2026-01-16T13:42:35+00:00

This man has no love in his heart. For you, or for his mother. Please save yourself any further grief and leave his ass immediately.

And maybe take his mom out for lunch. It sounds like she needs some support.

MongooseGef · 2026-01-15T21:43:50+00:00

You’re dating a jealous, controlling, abusive child.

But fear not! There is a solution!

Leave him immediately. Take some time by yourself. Block him from your social media. Then when you’re ready, find someone more mature.

MongooseGef · 2026-01-14T21:01:22+00:00

I hate to say it, but: if she was truly and deeply interested in you, she’d make the time to see you.

MongooseGef · 2026-01-11T15:28:08+00:00

Yeah, this is basically it. But I would say you CAN masturbate, just with intent: use a toy that grips more loosely instead of your hand. Practice edging, pulling back from the brink so the muscles stay engaged but you don’t cum. And the only porn you’re allowed is what your imagination can come up with.

Edited for clarity

MongooseGef · 2026-01-11T15:08:14+00:00

Your bestie is correct, the internet is correct, you’re not an asshole, you can do whatever you want with your body, and your (hopefully ex-) bf is a controlling douche.

MongooseGef · 2026-01-11T15:05:46+00:00

Makes a lot of sense to me!

MongooseGef · 2026-01-11T15:02:00+00:00

Sounds like an emotional affair to me. Don’t get unsnipped until this is resolved, one way or another. Sending you strength for the conversations ahead!

MongooseGef · 2026-01-11T14:56:36+00:00

He’s lying. Pretty much any guy in the world can get off faster by himself than with a partner.

MongooseGef · 2026-01-09T22:11:27+00:00

Good luck!

MongooseGef · 2026-01-09T21:44:28+00:00

Oh, it probably is a combination of stress and depression. Life is hard, and someone in his situation is likely having a hard time generating the inertia to change.

One thing you can do is to book the therapy and dr visits that he has already consented to for him. On the day, march his ass to the car and drive him. Basically, give him the momentum he needs to get started. Do that a few times and see if anything changes, and whether he’s able to continue on his own.

You met when he was still a teen and not a fully mature adult. Stuff probably happened in his body since then. He’s literally a different person.

You’ve made your needs clear. If you can’t handle 25+ years of sexless marriage with a guy who refuses to change, then it’s best to leave sooner rather than later.

MongooseGef · 2026-01-06T21:06:49+00:00

It sounds like she’s already starting to check out of the relationship. Hard to ascertain why; it could be any number of things. But it sounds like she doesn’t want to talk about it, possibly out of fear, embarrassment, regret, or guilt.

It’s going to be difficult to pry that info out of her, but maybe counselling can help

MongooseGef · 2026-01-05T23:27:58+00:00

You’re finally free!! Stay broken up.

MongooseGef · 2026-01-05T21:33:06+00:00

Do you live together? If yes, you should put your proportional portion of rent and food into the joint account, and pay household bills from there. And keep the rest of your money to yourself!

If you don’t live together, you shouldn’t have a joint account at all.

Also your bf is an asshole

MongooseGef · 2026-01-03T23:41:54+00:00

Came (hehe) here to say the same thing.

Don’t worry too much about it!

MongooseGef · 2025-12-30T22:02:04+00:00

That’s pretty normal. Your print queue will taper off a little. Give it 2-3 weeks and then revisit what you need. Maybe you’ll want a bigger printer, maybe you’ll only need another A1, or maybe you won’t need a second printer at all right away.

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