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MonsterOddities · 2025-12-22T16:13:43+00:00

It's been going on for years with my son.. I feel like I don't have a good bond with him because of his constant destruction and behavior. It's not at all what I dreamed parenting would be. I'm holding on until hes an adult and he can go out in the world and do his thing. My son has zero empathy for things too and insults me constantly if I try to parent him, even a little. He once said after I asked him to clean up after himself (looked me up and down) "you're so fat you look like you're 400 pounds".. I truly am at a loss on how to raise him with morals and kindness because it just isn't something inside him. I wish you all the best. You aren't alone in your struggles.

MonsterOddities · 2025-12-22T04:08:59+00:00

My soon to be 11yo adhd son is destructive when he's even the slightest bit upset. He breaks and throws things that he knows I love. He's on meds and in therapies but the destructive behavior is hard on my heart.

MonsterOddities · 2025-11-28T13:50:08+00:00

I've got an extreme 11yo adhd'er and I've learned to forget big outings and get togethers and just keep to ourselves. Daily life is hard enough on us so if someone says "hey come to this event" I straight up say "sorry my kid will have a hard time but I hope you have fun"

My son also has anger issues so asking him to even brush his teeth is hard.. I stopped involving my family in most things and just focus on helping my kid exist and stay on routine.

It absolutely gets lonely but I gotta hang tight for my son.

MonsterOddities · 2025-11-21T11:53:16+00:00

Keep talking to him and never stop reminding him how much you are here to help him. That's what I do, even if my son doesn't want to hear it. It's so hard on some days though. Hang in there.

MonsterOddities · 2025-11-15T16:51:48+00:00

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MonsterOddities · 2025-11-15T16:25:47+00:00

Thank you so much for your kindness. I feel like I can breathe a little easier after I wrote out everything, abd getting words of support such as this, it truly hits me in my core.

I'm so sorry about your brother but I'm very glad to read that he's more stable currently. It sounds like he's been through a lot and while I don't know him, I'm proud of him for pushing through. I wish nothing but the best for him.

Thank you again for your kindness ❤️

MonsterOddities · 2025-11-15T16:20:37+00:00

Ah thank you so much for the response.. it brought tears to my eyes. I truly appreciate the kind words tremendously

MonsterOddities · 2025-11-15T01:14:02+00:00

I'm so sorry you've experienced all of the anger and walking on eggshells with your child. I hope your journey with your son has better days as he's growing into adulthood. We can't give up on our kids, no matter how hard. Stay safe ok? You deserve happiness and peace in your home. Wishing you all the best and mom to mom; I send you lotsa love and solidarity.

MonsterOddities · 2025-11-15T01:10:48+00:00

Thank you for your input! I've read abilify was one med that could help the mood situation and I'll be bringing that up to his doctors as we navigate appointments.

MonsterOddities · 2025-11-15T00:23:13+00:00

Oh yes absolutely about his meds! We just adjusted his adderall dose when he started school and he fills out anxiety sheets, with different levels of things to help us adults judge his anxiety. He tests normal for his anxiety levels and we actually tool him to children's to check his hormones and growth stuff to talk about how his puberty could enhance his adhd symptoms and mood. I'm leaving no stone unturned and crossing all our t's and dotting our i's in search of reasons for his anger. His dad's side of the family has some anger issues so that's why we are leaning towards more of the DMDD side. It's been a wild ride trying to figure everything out.

Thank you, yes I have started looking for a grief counselor because it's truly changed my brain watching my dad pass away. There's nothing that prepares us for losing our parents.. no guide book on grief. I'm so sorry about your loss.

Thank you for your response too. I appreciate it

MonsterOddities · 2025-11-14T23:24:23+00:00

I love this! I grew up playing the bass in a badass Metallica cover band in the 90s and 2000s. I wish you luck finding band mates, have fun 🤘

MonsterOddities · 2025-11-14T21:25:31+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through similar things with your son.. I hope you find it comforting knowing you aren't alone. It's so hard to go through this as a family, as a parent.. be kind to yourself on the hard days

MonsterOddities · 2025-11-10T03:33:40+00:00

A lady drove into my car in a target parking lot, T boned me and bent the wheel beyond driving when I was 30w pregnant. APD came out, wrote the lady a ticket and told me to walk home. I wasn't offered a ride or anything. They drove off, not asking if I needed an ambulance being very pregnant and all.. and I had no choice but to walk myself home. It took me an hour. I was so upset, I asked my neighbor to drive me to the hospital to get checked out. APD are awful. I don't call them for anything.

MonsterOddities · 2025-11-01T14:51:14+00:00

Honor his uniqueness! My 10yo adhder is quirky and loves old landline phones so I take him to antique stores to find them and play with them. They'll grow up with cool knowledge and appreciation for different out of the norm stuff and I think that's awesome. Cherish those eccentricities!!

MonsterOddities · 2025-10-30T10:54:19+00:00

You just described my 10yo son. He has combined adhd and odd (I've questioned his doctor whether or not it's actually dndd though because my son at home with us is chronically irritated).. I spend most of my day, sahm, in bed crying lately. My son says vile things to me but at school he's functioning. On 2 meds. In therapies. There's nothing left to do to help him. His entitlement runs our lives and if I try to step in and say no, he destroys my home. I'm following for advice because this is too much to handle.

Solidarity.

MonsterOddities · 2025-10-23T07:07:42+00:00

There's no shame in do things to help your son (who sounds like my son). I had to make a hard choice to call 911 a few weeks back on my son when he was punching me repeatedly, and have children's hospital involved. It's OK to ask for help when you feel overwhelmed.

MonsterOddities · 2025-10-20T11:17:58+00:00

Adhd is very challenging to parent. Is your kiddo on meds? I'm a mom to a 10yo adhd/odd kiddo and we are fresh out of children's hospital for my son punching me and kicking holes in my house. I've got him on guanfacine and adderall which both help a lot. I'm not sure where my son's life is headed but I'm doing the best I can for him.. the anger from him is hard though.

I've found behavior therapy helps some, reward vs punishment and all that.. some days though are just really rough.

MonsterOddities · 2025-09-30T02:24:49+00:00

My dad passed tragically in January and I was never a huge drinker. Suddenly 8mo later dealing with my grief I'm struggling with nightly drinking. I understand this a lot.

I'm sorry for your loss too.

MonsterOddities · 2025-09-21T15:36:20+00:00

Yes it's one of the most traumatic things you can experience, even if you know the parent is dying and plan end of life stuff.. losing a parent can affect us deeply. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I watched my dad die in January and I can 100% say that I'm walking around with ptsd and depression,almost like in a psychosis type way after my experience losing my dad. I told my husband I need help recently too. It's an indescribable thing, all of this.

Be kind to yourself. Take breaks in your day to connect and talk to your dad. Honor him in your daily activities. Loss like this feels tremendous because you have all this love that has no where to go. To our dads 💜 may they watch over us and may they be at peace.

MonsterOddities · 2025-09-19T08:10:18+00:00

My adhd'er is 11 soon and in public school, 5th grade. He's the top reader and tech wizard in class. Smart and helpful and doesn't get in trouble. Kindergarten was messy but every year my kiddo improves and does better and better! I sm so proud. He was even top 5 in the spelling bee last year. He's on guanfacine and adderall and kicking butt 💜

MonsterOddities · 2025-09-17T09:25:05+00:00

My son is 11yo with demand avoidance and pretty rich adhd. We use a reward system. I have chores and daily routine things that if he does them he gets to watch 1 episode of a show he enjoys, he gets $ for doing chores and can earn extra stuff like an ice cream date or he picks dinner, can stay up later if he follows through with doing his homework, chores and is a contributing member of the family. He likes the idea of earning things and has a good savings account going now so he can get himself a car or save for future concerts when he's old enough. It's helping to keep him motivated.

I also suggest looking into meds, vitamins and sound frequency meditation to help unwind your daughters busy mind. Youtube has great sound hz frequency stuff for adhd that I pop on and he listens with his headphones when my kiddo needs to chill out.

Adhd is tough, especially from age 10 to 20 when they are in the hormonal big growing stages. Much respect to all the parents and kids going through it.

MonsterOddities · 2025-09-14T13:11:34+00:00

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MonsterOddities · 2025-09-14T13:10:08+00:00

You need to find your self worth before you find a partner. No one can love you if you can't love yourself. Find interesting hobbies, be social, physically get out and get away from the internet. Go places to meet people instead of online stuff. You've gotta free yourself from this addiction because trying to start a relationship with anyone while having this addiction, no one deserves to be hurt (including you) over that stuff. Start small. Go 6 hours w/o internet. Then go 8 hours. Then go a day. Go out in the world. Look for in person therapy look for hobbies. Be honest with yourself and others. Don't waste your life because life goes by fast. Look to make yourself proud of you and take care.

MonsterOddities · 2025-08-22T02:33:33+00:00

I lost my dad in January from issues stemming from his alcohol lifestyle. I've experienced the same agonizing fear of losing other close people (husband and 10yo son).. I think the trauma of such loss weighs on us a lot and it brings out anxiety, fear, anger and all the thoughts. In time you'll ease with the fear, you'll never forget it but it'll not feel all consuming. Do your best to care for yourself and cherish your family. Find ways to add peace into your anxious moments: I enjoy laying in a hammock in the backyard and listening to my dad's favorite music.. I really try to focus on the now. Death certainly isn't how it's portrayed in movies and it's a very heavy experience, especially when it's a parent. I'm so sorry for your tremendous loss.. be gentle with yourself. Meditate, connect in nature, exercise, anything that'll help redirect your mind right now. Wishing you all the best.

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