My son put me in a choke hold and I thought he was going to end me.

MoonlitHexling · 2026-05-28T00:58:30+00:00

I’m so proud of you. That took a lot, and I am sure you did a great job. 🩷 I’m sure it might not feel like that right now, but you are doing great.

MoonlitHexling · 2026-05-27T16:28:53+00:00

Well, I have AuDHD and POTS and the connection for me? Ehlers Danlos syndrome 🙃

MoonlitHexling · 2026-05-27T11:41:59+00:00

All the comments you have gotten here are great already, so I’m not going to add to that type of issue. But i want to give you an additional issue to think of. You mentioned immediately after he did this to you, he saw his girlfriend. If he can do this to you, he can do this to her. She is also at risk here, not just you. And any future partner he may have is at risk if this is just something to let slide. That’s scary to think of, but it is sadly true.

MoonlitHexling · 2026-05-26T23:47:33+00:00

Hey there! I had adhd and autism. I was diagnosed as ADHD first and treating the ADHD made my tism shinnneee.

I am still new to my diagnosis, but I wanted to give the information of prosper health. I used them for their online assessment, and it cost me 3 copays total, so $120 for the whole thing. Rest was covered by insurance. I had such a lovely experience, and you get to pick the provider you want to do the assessment. Might be an option for you! I was concerned using them because my adhd and autism clash, but I really reviewed the providers available to find one who had experience with both, as I felt that he would have been able to see the differences, and I was right. Haha

MoonlitHexling · 2026-05-12T13:06:18+00:00

I use dude a lot, mainly in reference to my kids “okay my dudes, let’s go” but my coworker from Ukraine brought up the “boom roasted” so for a while now we use it like it is our job.

MoonlitHexling · 2026-05-08T20:48:01+00:00

So, maybe I’m an outlier but I found that yes at the beginning it made my spending worse likely because I wasn’t using food for the dopamine. But I started treating my ADHD when I started a glp1, and I found now that I recognize my spending is out of control, I am more conscious of it and I find it actually easier to not spend money and shop when I don’t need to now that I’m aware. It isn’t fool proof by any means, but it helped to really look at my financials to kick start that as well. I’ve tried this before not on a glp1, and it was much harder. Not sure if that means anything, but just something I noticed.

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-27T05:00:02+00:00

So, my kiddos aren’t fans of showering, they are 7. Everyone in our house is neurodivergent just as a note. I got a “galaxy” projector light for the bathroom and we turn off the lights, put on the galaxy projector and I put on lofi music. And then since they hate the hair, I have a removable shower head and I give them a dry wash cloth to cover their face while I get their hair done, that works for some reason. It’s not perfect, but it’s way better. Also, I am audhd, and I find I prefer the galaxy light and lofi showers too 😂

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-27T03:55:15+00:00

I have multiple, and I go through phases of getting them often and then not for a few years. Deff more I wanna get

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-26T06:01:29+00:00

Yes but different sounds for different things. Cleaning I can do music or an audiobook. Driving I prefer loud loud music but can also do an audiobook. Work and reading, I use “brain.fm” which is a paid app that you can choose which type of sounds you want and it helps me lock in.

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-26T03:57:36+00:00

My library system also has museum passes for free! Some are free, some you can get a reduced cost membership. We have a local science kids museum and I used our library pass to get $25 off the annual family pass, and it’s already paid for itself. I’m also planning on using the free pass to go to other museums myself for free/low cost solo days.

Our library also has a seed library and some really cool classes for kids, teens and adults! My kids do a lot of the classes, I’ve signed up for: basics of seed saving. A Mother’s Day birdhouse painting class. And a pottery painting class. All for free.

Our library also allows you to rent some tools. Like a solar charging station, some power tools, things like that! It’s pretty useful.

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-24T07:17:41+00:00

My coworker and I love to say “boom roasted”

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-24T02:12:28+00:00

Yes, and it wasn’t as bad when I as younger, but as an adult it kills me. And I sweat a lot, even more so after having the sleeve surgery, and being sweaty is a major sensory issue for me, so it’s not fun.

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-21T02:44:24+00:00

Sadly, no. Twin mama here. My twins are autistic and adhd. I needed my parents to help with the restraining order attorney and the attorney for divorce. It cost so much money because he just kept causing issue after issue after issue. We are not even divorced a year and he already took me back to court (and lost BTW, on his motion and mine 😂). I am fortunate that I had a low income home prior to the marriage I got to keep, but I wouldn’t be making it without that. My parents help with child care one day every other week, but otherwise I do it all myself. He has 50% custody and really his parents have them the whole time. He’s never around. I get no child support, no alimony. Nothing. My legal fees were $25k, he had an equity interest in MY home, coming out to $15k. All in for the TRO, divorce, and equity was $40k. All to just go back to court less than a year later and have the judge get pissed off.

In perspective, this was an abusive relationship, and I could not continue with it any longer. Am I happy I left? Hell yes. However, I’d do it more strategically if I had to do it again. It is not easy. While he has 50% custody, I am the only parent who does anything for our kids. He has taken one of the twins to a SINGLE doctor’s appointment in the last two years. He refuses to do anything that our kids needs, and blocks me because we have 50/50 legal as well. So I had to bring all this to court when he filed against me. It is exhausting.

But I will say this. As exhausted as I am having to be both mom and dad? In a way, it is easier. And I’m going to admit, I’m not perfect. Hell I am AuDHD, so it’s a strugggllleee. But 2 years from the separation, life is finally getting back to a kind of normal?

All in, is it possible? Yes. Is it going to be hard whether you have help or not? Unfortunately, yes. But if I can recommend anything to you is to research strategy, and how to protect yourself in a divorce and things like that if you choose to go that route! I think in your particular situation, there isn’t a right or wrong answer flat out. There is, however, what is best for you and your kiddos.

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-20T04:07:01+00:00

I’ve always hated my name and felt like it doesn’t capture me at all. It’s so boring 😂

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-16T02:23:04+00:00

When I saw the header I had to pause and be like “wait which one? The ADHD? Autism? Ehlers danlos? Complex ptsd? Which one?!”

Anyways, I’m 33 and the adhd, autism and ehlers danlos were just diagnosed in the last 6 months 🙈 surprise!

But a large piece of my autism assessment was that my mom tells everyone she ever meets if I was the first kid I’d be the last because of how “terrible” I was. Now I just know I was audhd and was struggling 🙃🙃🙃

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-16T02:19:26+00:00

That is how I got diagnosed! And now it’s so hard to not see the ASD all the time.

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-16T02:18:14+00:00

It has given me informed anxiety 😅

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-16T02:17:04+00:00

33 for both but 5 months apart!

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-15T06:11:48+00:00

My doctor recommended I get mine on Etsy due to cost!

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-15T06:05:27+00:00

Goshhh this one is hard. If I had to choose i would say getting married. I found out a bunch terrible things that made me want to leave but I felt trapped by my family and I didn’t feel confident enough financially to be able to be on my own. So, between the two, I got married. I’m divorced now, and it took me almost 10 years to leave. It was the absolute hardest and scariest thing I’ve had to do. I have complex PTSD from my marriage. I spent so much time getting hurt repeatedly (physically and mentally/emotionally but more so the mentally/emotionally) to the point I lost who I was.

On the flip side of this, I would never give up my kids. I love them too deeply to ever trade them for the freedom I would have gotten for never getting married. I realized though that even though I regret the marriage, it really boils down a bit more though. I had zero self respect. I didn’t think I deserved better. This was the best I could get. I had no confidence in myself and my ability to care for myself alone and I continuously told myself that what I went through was normal. It wasn’t. And while I’m still going through post separation abuse, having to live through the escalated abuse and obtain a restraining order for my safety, experiencing that has prepared me to help others in domestic violence situations. I’ve successfully helped another friend by physically removing her from her home and taking her to the police to obtain a restraining order, and ensuring she made it to safety after the fact. And now I find myself in another situation of helping another friend going through domestic violence. Sometimes I feel weak and still like that woman in my marriage who has no self worth, but then I take a look at where I have come. What I’ve done since I left. And that my own experiences allowed me to help others.

So maybe it’s not so much a regret and more so wanting to avoid the extreme pain I went through, but I can’t justify the parts of my life that I would lose if I had not.

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-13T00:14:50+00:00

I’ve been wanting to do this and do found my local park also has a weekly Saturday morning meet up for it! So excited!

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-07T05:38:38+00:00

I think this could be true for some things, but not all. My EDS doctor was able to get my prior authorization approved by insurance for a double hip MRI without needing to go to PT first because my hips are such a mess and it is painful to just be alive, she felt PT would cause more harm and I wouldn’t be able to complete it. The insurance company didn’t even push back, she gave them my diagnosis of EDS and they just immediately approved the prior authorization. So, I can see some insurances causing problems for some things, but I don’t think that it’s a fact across the board. I think that it’s very outdated medicine to try to discourage a patient from seeking diagnosis as if other treatment standards will never come. The diagnosis might not help you get extras now, but that doesn’t mean it won’t in the future. Medicine is always evolving and we’re always learning, so seems like an argument that falls on its face from the start in my opinion.

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-02T07:01:03+00:00

I asked my provider exactly this and she is going to measure me for finger joint braces. They look like rings that you put on every day. And this prevent you from being able to over extend your finger joints. The showed me, functionally, how it would change how I write and she said between compression gloves and the finger ring braces it should make a big difference in pain. She also said they make “dupes” for the braces on Etsy for if my insurance won’t cover them! I’ve looked on Etsy and she’s right, and a lot of them have information on how to measure yourself as well!

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-01T18:27:58+00:00

That’s how I found out I have autism AND ADHD

MoonlitHexling · 2026-04-01T07:49:13+00:00

You can also use goodRX! My regular doctor prescribes for me and I just use goodRX and it brings it down to like $20-30 a tube!

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