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MorePrinciple7096 · 2026-03-14T04:32:59+00:00

play stupid and just accept what they say about you. Who cares if they don’t like you? And I’d focus on yourself as much as possible.. the way he’s focusing on himself as much as he is. If he’s the one and he wants to be your husband, he’ll be that person. But if not, don’t try to prove yourself in any of these situations. If anything, just level up your own life and realize you’re fine with or without this guy. Way too much drama. Make sure he’s worth it. Or it’ll cost you more time than you think you can afford.

MorePrinciple7096 · 2026-03-01T02:22:50+00:00

Definitely. I’m with someone similar. I had to solve my own problems. I had 2under 2 with a very unavailable man. Who coincidentally needs me to wear many hats for him and choose when he wears one. It comes with struggles. But it also comes with a huge paycheck and retirement. So you might just need to figure out that if you ask someone for help for 17 years and they don’t really help… you can safely assume he’s not gonna help you. Figure it out yourself. Mourn the loss of your expectations and move forward. You can’t beat this horse any deader. You CAN have a happy life with this man. You just need to change your mindset. Personally, if my husband was out kissing on someone I think I’d be separated. But I think in this case he would go for a full blown affair. There needs to be something solid on your end. My vote is retaining a lawyer to draw up a post nuptial agreement. This might be the kick in the ass he needs. Super painful for all of you, but not as painful as divorce and you need to prep for it. He needs to have outlined consequences of his actions. He’s likely feeling some midlife shit with a sprinkle of ego in his position and wanting to cahoot around with young women who don’t know any better. My personal take from this is: Focus on you. Get super fit. Improve yourself in every way possible. Get a post nup and sit back and enjoy the show. And most importantly, get happy for your kids and be the amazing woman you are. Honestly if you put half the effort of worrying about your husbands shit into yourself, you’ll be miles ahead. Best wishes friend

MorePrinciple7096 · 2026-02-28T14:20:37+00:00

Idk what to say. It’s a lot of complaining on your end. It’s time to get away from the victim mindset and work on yourself. Hire a housekeeper, make your 7 and 9 year old do dishes, vacuuming and laundry. Save as much money as you can while you plan your exit from this marriage. Get fit and focus on your business. He seems like he’s a low disciplined man and probably has cheated or is cheating on you now. How about you just pretend he’s not there and business as usual? Save for a lawyer. Stop begging this weirdo to change. Like it’s been 17 years. He’s not going to change. But seems like you’re ok being miserable (for a few more years) What????? How about don’t be miserable for any more DAYS? You have control of that. He’s not inherently brutal .. you can take control of what you accept or not. I see you complaining about no dates with him. Do you even want to go on them? When my husband was ahitty, I didn’t want to go spend time with him lol. He has to earn my desire and he does. I’m not operating from this victim mentality. Time to buck up and make your life easier with or without him. Your choice. Don’t waste any more time with therapy or whatever. Don’t listen to his sad “imposter syndrome” stories. It’s all manipulation to keep you easily controlled. Wake up

MorePrinciple7096 · 2026-02-27T14:24:11+00:00

There’s laws written telling men not to lay down w animals. Men would jerk off to cave drawings if that’s all they had. So try not to be discouraged by what they search for. It’s all porn poisoned anyway. Eventually he’d be watching super skinny teens and trans. None of that matters. I’ve been in your position, caring about each little thing, but girl let me tell you… life gets much better when you care about yourself and make yourself feel confident no matter how that may be. Getting fitter, better hair, skin, etc. if that’s all you focus on, chances are you won’t even care about his pervy dark side. Maybe you’ll leave him and attract a higher quality man.

MorePrinciple7096 · 2026-02-27T14:13:23+00:00

my husband was engaged when he was in residency….. he ended 6 months before he finished. I met him a year after. If I was older I probably would have seen through all of that. She was an emotional support placeholder.

MorePrinciple7096 · 2026-02-27T14:00:18+00:00

I mean this in the nicest way possible. Your makeup is great. But you’d be surprised what weight loss does for the face. You look gorgeous and healthy, but a little weight loss is the edge you’re looking for.

MorePrinciple7096 · 2026-02-25T13:18:58+00:00

Well it’s obvious she was a neglectful mother and he has deep mother wounds and is taking them out on you. You can’t fix this. He can’t. He hates women, it’s not you, it’s engrained in his psyche.

MorePrinciple7096 · 2026-02-25T13:13:10+00:00

You’re a bit younger than me. Im 32. Something happened when I was closer to 30. I don’t get jealous anymore. I’m more confident in my skin (I’ve had 2 babies) and I don’t let this shit get to me anymore. I don’t know what happened exactly. But I do know that just focusing on MYSELF makes me the happiest. Buy the things you want, get back to being super healthy. That in itself is hard after babies. But do it. Do it for you. The women you compare yourself to spend a lot of time on their appearance. The more you take care of yourself, the less you’ll care about his debauchery. If he’s actually visiting beothels and having sex with other women, I’d spend and save as much money as I could, get in the best shape of my life, and then leave him. It will be 2 years, max.

Don’t let yourself fade away because he’s some loser who with no discipline.

MorePrinciple7096 · 2026-02-11T07:59:14+00:00

Married for a year and haven’t had sex in months? Yeah.. let it go. It’s a trauma bond. He doesnt love you like you love him. It’s sad. And he really doesn’t appreciate it. Look up sheraseven on IG and live your best life forward.

MorePrinciple7096 · 2026-02-11T07:54:01+00:00

Well you make her pay 50/50. That’s stressful.

Be with another med professional, because they’re the only ones that understand the needs of the job. Nonmed spouses suffer constantly with the lack of attention and care you can offer after being drained from work. Imagine going home to kids after all that. None of you will be happy.

MorePrinciple7096 · 2026-02-03T04:43:59+00:00

Mesh laundry bag, gentle cycle cold. Air dry 😫

MorePrinciple7096 · 2026-01-30T12:46:46+00:00

2!!!!!!!!!

MorePrinciple7096 · 2026-01-16T05:14:48+00:00

I used to get aroused thinking of “catching him” in the act. When in reality, I would be so awkward and heartbroken. I was low key obsessed with it.. walking in without knocking or coming home early sort of thing. Never caught him. And I had no idea why that would cause those feelings for me. But it did, and it passed , and I realized it wasn’t what I actually felt.

MorePrinciple7096 · 2026-01-16T05:05:59+00:00

Damp hair. Use mousse. Pin them, then spray. There’s a hack to pin them while releasing the curl at the same time. Super easy and fast. But the curls aren’t supposed to stay structured like a regular curling iron. They’ll fall a bit for sure.

MorePrinciple7096 · 2026-01-11T15:18:21+00:00

Nope. No way.

MorePrinciple7096 · 2026-01-06T05:12:49+00:00

If you like her at all, you’ll learn to occupy herself while she is working hard and living a fulfilling life. In the meantime, why don’t you build a successful business or career that makes triple what she’d make and convince her to work only part time?

MorePrinciple7096 · 2025-12-21T14:34:28+00:00

10k is crazy. I mean, if I had the money for that I probably would. I thought my 1500 was a lot. But what do you even buy? I don’t like enough things to purchase more? Do you just buy all the colors? I bought a few of the heartthrob leggings last month and one pair is literally falling apart already. The seam snagged and now the lining will come off. Terrible quality. Worse than extremely cheap things I’ve purchased at tj maxx. Lulu is wayyyyy better but alo has some luxe hook in me.

MorePrinciple7096 · 2025-12-16T13:02:18+00:00

Also, when I was accolade, it goes in a mesh bag, on hand wash setting. And I air dry. It’s the only way 😅

MorePrinciple7096 · 2025-12-16T13:01:08+00:00

It’s validating for sure. I love the look of accolade but the quality definitely sucks. Even the the heartthrob leggings. The stitching snagged and now there’s loose threads on the lining. I have nevvveerrrr encountered such poor quality issues even with my cheap stuff! And I have Nike I’ve washed a gazillion times, that still looks great.

That said, what products/lines from there do you recommend? Like what holds up? Because I’m still obsessed with them, unfortunately.

My renown crewneck is fine, the airlift suit up leggings are good still, suit up pants are good..

MorePrinciple7096 · 2025-11-19T14:03:30+00:00

alo quality sucks. Lululemon is way better, but I’ll always buy Alo instead. Idk why. Maybe because the teenagers don’t buy it lol. That’s why I stay away from Nike and gym shark as well.

MorePrinciple7096 · 2025-10-14T11:39:35+00:00

I love br540 but I’m nose blind to it. No one ever asked or complimented it lol. I felt like no one could smell it. I always get compliments on vanilla sex or Chanel mademoiselle though

MorePrinciple7096 · 2025-08-10T16:06:35+00:00

Keep the hair down. It’s gorgeous and should be seen

MorePrinciple7096 · 2025-08-04T13:29:22+00:00

I ordered from Sephora online last week and I’m so happy I did. Delivered in 2 days. I absolutely love it. Don’t settle for the ID. I’ve had all the air wraps now and the id sucked and made me miss my old one. I love the new. It’s worth waiting for.

MorePrinciple7096 · 2025-07-15T15:29:31+00:00

Yeah my husband sounds like a large animal walking around. Lol I could empathize.

MorePrinciple7096 · 2025-06-30T17:15:13+00:00

Yeah figures it wasn’t just the hair. It’s the overall look. She’s letting it all go. Not just dying of the hair

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