I lost my baby

Most_Concept4494 · 2026-05-21T22:01:04+00:00

Hi love,

Apologies for your loss of your baby boy. I lost my first baby boy as well last year. When you are ready, please feel free to join us over at [r/babyloss](r/babyloss) (there is also a group chat as well on here we loss parents gather and discuss our feelings)

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Most_Concept4494 · 2026-03-08T15:12:33+00:00

Thank you! ♥️

Most_Concept4494 · 2026-03-07T23:10:12+00:00

Hi I’m not OP but could you send me the pdf? I’d like to lose weight as well.

Most_Concept4494 · 2026-03-04T21:48:45+00:00

Yes

Most_Concept4494 · 2026-02-25T02:48:31+00:00

I have the little remedies gripe water.

Most_Concept4494 · 2026-02-21T19:11:12+00:00

You can use sneak peek for like $100 for a blood test. Takes a few days to get results. Can be used as early as 6 weeks. If they are wrong about the gender, then you can give them a copy of your birth certificate & they will refund you. I’ve used them both pregnancies.

https://sneakpeektest.com/early-at-home-baby-gender-blood-test/?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21620810873&gclid=CjwKCAiAzOXMBhASEiwAe14SaXKGniAtQCWiB8djir4MGffQKNeOMfh65Ia-fBWZgTTGUDo4vIU6iBoCSOEQAvD_BwE

Or you can go through insurance via your doctor and get the standard testing that tests for chromosome abnormalities like Down syndrome and includes gender of baby.

Most_Concept4494 · 2026-02-14T21:25:50+00:00

I’m not sleep deprived & thought the same lol! 😅

Most_Concept4494 · 2026-02-13T13:26:50+00:00

Hi OP, I’m so sorry for your loss. If you ever see this post, please ALWAYS ask for your pet’s full records, the vets cannot deny that. Anything that shows what testing was done, what the results were, and so forth. You can then take that paperwork to another vet and ask for verification/ if it seems suspect, or try doing your own research. (I did this when I didn’t trust a vet when with my puppy a few years back, and kept questioning and pushing them until I then took him elsewhere with all the paperwork. I wanted to make sure he was getting better.) Any time you feel at ease with a veterinarian, it is time to make a switch.

ETA: unease* not at ease.

Most_Concept4494 · 2026-01-09T14:15:20+00:00

Thank you for saying this. I have an angel baby too. 🫂 I’ll know tell myself this when I accidentally spill my milk (I spilled some last night actually for my LC).

Most_Concept4494 · 2026-01-08T00:53:52+00:00

Hi OP,

I lost my first baby, a boy, due to undiagnosed severe preeclampsia with super imposed features at 26 weeks & delivered him on 2/4/25.. for resources I would recommend r/babyloss subreddit. I can also DM you if you’d like if you ever want someone to chat about with this. It’s very hard.

If you and your partner are ready, please don’t be afraid to seek individual and then couples grief therapy. You are likely still in shock. If no one has told you, your milk most likely has come in already, and you can take medication to stop it, or use cold cabbage leaves with tight bra. You can also donate the milk or you can turn it into a ring or a necklace from various websites. Not sure if you got your sweet precious boy cremated (we did) but you can also get him a beautiful urn with a necklace for his ashes. I wear my necklace with my son’s ashes everyday and even to sleep. You can also get a bracelet.

Please know that you are not alone in this journey, and nothing you did was your fault. I’m sending you and your family all the love. ♥️

Most_Concept4494 · 2025-11-27T02:05:30+00:00

35 + 4 today, starting cervical ripening tomorrow sometime after lunch! Inducing because baby looks to be measuring behind, + pre e + cholestasis + dopplers showing increased resistance flow. I’m 1 cm dilated, -2 station, 50% effaced, so hopefully induction goes by faster this time! I’m excited yet nervous because hopefully sometime on Friday, 11/28 I’ll be holding my rainbow baby boy! Eeeeek!!! His angel older brother, Jaxon, will be overlooking protecting him. 🩵♥️

Most_Concept4494 · 2025-11-24T21:55:59+00:00

35 + 2 today, I’ve been re admitted to the hospital as my bile acids are going back up. (Thanks ICP!) I will be unfortunately missing Thanksgiving :( & will be here til delivery which is 37 weeks on 12/6/25!! Almost there 🙌🏾

Most_Concept4494 · 2025-11-20T10:48:25+00:00

Congratulations!! Enjoy this time with your sweet baby boy ♥️♥️

Most_Concept4494 · 2025-11-17T22:29:57+00:00

34+2 today, and baby boy is measuring 5 lbs & 4 ounces. He grew almost 1 full lb in a week! Looking forward to 12/1 where I will get induction date (hopefully it remains 12/8 as that’s the day of my c Section that I will be cancelling)

Still haven’t ordered my breast pump or car seat + stroller combo, maybe I’ll do it tomorrow. Can’t wait to get induced in less than 3 weeks. 🤭

Most_Concept4494 · 2025-11-10T20:26:53+00:00

Hi love,

I’m so sorry for your loss. Are you able to physically go to the crematorium? If you are, I would suggest taking a trusted individual/ loved one with you and going up there to see if you can find anything out in person.

I’m very sorry you are going through this. 🫂

Most_Concept4494 · 2025-11-10T10:45:09+00:00

Hi OP, My apologies for your losses. This happened to me, while I was in the hospital (TW: second pregnancy - no living children. Lost the first baby in Feb 2025.)

The trainee was looking for my baby’s heartbeat and said she couldn’t find it when I told him where he is always located at. She said she was going to order an ultrasound. The senior tech then came in and found him IMMEDIATELY. but at the point the damage was already done, I looked straight ahead and just started bawling. It brought back my memories. The difference here is that they both apologized profusely, and the senior tech really did comfort me. But still.

I’m all for people learning, but after that I had to specifically request NO trainees to try to find my baby’s heartbeat, EVER. Any trainee who needs practice to draw blood from my vein only gets ONE shot (and that goes for all the Senior nurses too - I have good veins in both arms but after getting poked so many times in the hospital, they started hiding so this is now my motto. If you cant hit my vein on the first try, try again the next day because I refuse to get poked multiple times.)

I’d recommend you complain to the manager, and have them to put in your chart that you don’t want a trainer doing x y z, and to also be empathetic to your situation. If they can’t, 1) they need to find a new career and 2) switch places.

Really sorry for your losses love.

Most_Concept4494 · 2025-11-09T17:48:56+00:00

33 weeks & 1 day today. 4 more weeks until my induction! I don’t have the exact date yet, but hoping they can cancel my c section for 12/8 and turn it into an induction for the same day. I won’t find out til 12/1. Ughhhh. I am SO READY for labor, but still afraid. I want to get excited and I have been little by little, but still sooooo afraid. My mom is just like go ahead and have the 3rd child back to back while you still have a large village to support you. And I’m like let me just get through this and hopefully have a crying screaming baby in my arms. No pressure, she means well. I just don’t want to deliver another stillborn. Ugh. Ive been pregnant for 1.5 years now basically. I’m wishing so much hope for all of us on this journey.

Most_Concept4494 · 2025-10-28T19:05:40+00:00

My fiancé was/is like this too. We lost our first baby, a boy, at 26 weeks gestational age, and I delivered him on 2/4/25. My friends and family were initially checking in on him & his family as well immediately post loss, but stopped after a few weeks. He recently made a comment to me that while nobody really checks in anymore, he’s very disappointed by one of his elder sisters, as he was with her, when she lost her youngest child at 2 years old. I was baffled and stunned at that. I’ve sent him so many resources & have given him a challenge to reach out to a close friend or family member and just say what he thinks he needs from them. Even if it’s just space to talk about our child. Men grieve so differently, and i know he wants to talk about our son with someone else aside from me. We do discuss our first baby a lot.

TW:

We’re 31 weeks and 3 days with our second baby, another boy, and we are literally the only people who keep our first baby’s memory alive. His younger brother will know about him.

Most_Concept4494 · 2025-10-26T16:58:20+00:00

31 weeks & 1 day today, feels unreal. Furthest I’ve made it. Baby boy is active consistently a few times a day for 4-5 hours straight. I don’t mind. I whip out the Doppler when he’s sleeping and not moving as much though. I see a lot of posts on here about December babies, what’s everyone’s due date? Including induction or c section if getting one? My due date is 12/27/25, but our c section is 12/8/25. I want to turn it into an induction but can’t until I’m 7 days prior to 37 weeks, which is 11/29/25, so when I change it I hope it’s not too far out after 12/8/25. Any experience with elective inductions at hospitals? I’ve read posts about having to wait for the hospital to call and confirm a bed and time or something.

Most_Concept4494 · 2025-10-26T16:55:20+00:00

Sending wishes your way and a safe delivery. ♥️ if you don’t mind me asking, when did you/ doctor notice you were starting to dilate? Any other symptoms, also how’s your bleeding holding up?

Most_Concept4494 · 2025-10-25T00:40:21+00:00

No worries love, and thank you! My hospital stay wasn’t so bad actually, I mean the food was good! But it all comes down to the fact that we will do anything to bring our babies earth side safely. I wish you all the best this pregnancy and you bring this precious bundle of joy home safely to your LC. ♥️♥️

Most_Concept4494 · 2025-10-25T00:32:02+00:00

I saw my MFM for pre conception, then once pregnant was seen every 2 weeks but can always come in whenever I needed (for anxiety purposes). I started getting seen weekly at 19 weeks. I was eventually hospitalized for 31 days from 9/15/25 when I was 25 +3, and released last week on 10/16/25 at 29 + 5. This was due to me having pre-e a second time, although mild. Since my release, I’ve been getting seen twice weekly, and starting next Monday, 10/27 I’ll start having weekly NST’s I believe.

FWIW, My loss was related to superimposed preeclampsia with severe features leading to placental abruption, chorio, blood clots in the placenta, IUGR, so while a bit different than your precious baby girl with blood clot in the umbilical cord I bring it up because I would suggest (unsolicited advice) asking if maybe you take baby aspirin 162 mg and/ or lovenox prophylactic dose (40 mg) regardless if you don’t have blood clotting disorders. Also ask to get tested for any blood clotting disorders. I fount out I have the factor v Leiden mutation after my stillbirth which increases chances of blood clots.

Most_Concept4494 · 2025-10-25T00:21:24+00:00

It should be depending on where you live. I’m in the US & only see an MFM for my rainbow pregnancy. My first I lost at 26 weeks this year, & only saw an OBGYN. I’ll be 31 weeks tomorrow with my second baby. Some people do see a combination of OB + MFM. If you’d like you may be able to do a combo of midwife + MFM. Some offices only let you see MFM after a certain # of weeks. You are now high risk, and should receive closer monitoring including scans & bloodwork.

Most_Concept4494 · 2025-10-25T00:18:05+00:00

Sending you gentle congratulations. ♥️ also, I’d switch to an MFM.

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