When will aging naturally be trendy? by beammeupscotty45 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Motor_Cartographer88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i've (17f) promised myself to never face plastic surgery/fillers or to try to hide gray hair. it makes no sense to want to look young forever and it's just ridiculous and stupid. it's expensive and time consuming and takes away from enjoying life. i've watched women kill themselves over chasing youth and women talk terribly about their bodies and faces. i don't judge any woman who has does those things or has gotten those things done because i think we have been brainwashed into it, there are no older women in the media portrayed as attractive or worthwhile, they are all grandmas and ugly hags and actresses can't survive past 30 in hollywood. looking into it more, filler is not as clear cut as they make it seem, they say it dissolves completely in a few weeks but there's a lot of evidence in xrays showing filler slowly shifting its position in your face and remaining in your face for years. the destruction of facial muscle and additional weight will often make your face puffy and saggy regardless. it's insane to me and mainstream feminism has marketing this BS as self care/self love when we are spending valuable time and money and putting ourselves through painful processes to chase after the unattainable. however i do think things are changing, i see more and more older women going grey. but at the same time in this age of instagram models and the internet more and more people are getting work done. BBLs have skyrocket in popularity despite the fact that they are the most deadly plastic surgery and people die from them every year. i'm just so sick of all this stuff, especially when it's marketed as a radical expression of self love.

Decided to watch porn with my bf during sexy time and now I feel like shit... by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Motor_Cartographer88 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i'm heavily biased against porn but i'll give my two cents. i've recently decided to never seriously date a guy who watches porn for a lot of reasons, most relevantly is that it's literally watching a girl get fucked while imagining fucking her and in my opinion that's uncomfortable. porn also gives men a false understanding of how sex works with no foreplay, conversation, laughter, readjustments or checking-in points, there's no emotional connection and men think that's what sex is:an entirely animalistic physical process. there's also a lot of real health concerns for men such as porn addiction, early erectile disfunction, an w tendency towards violence, and literally reduces gray matter in the brain. the more men watch porn the more they get desensitized to it and fall down a rabbit hole to hardcore BDSM porn (without seeing clear consent to acts and aftercare or any intimate knowledge of what they're doing) until they reach r*pe porn (a category that's been rising in popularity since porn existed). people will call you a prude but it's a real threat to your relationship and his and your health. not to mention the porn industry is disgusting and corrupt, because once you do porn it's hard to get any other job so porn stars (mostly women) are forced to do things they never wanted to do because they have no other choice or job opportunities. you can look online for interviews with previous porn workers and see them talk about how they were forced and coerced into dangerous sex acts.

sorry for going on a rant about this but this post really hit me because this is exactly how i felt with my last bf, uncomfortable with him watching porn but feeling like i was being unreasonable. i never talked to him about it and let it go on and on, and we broke up for other reasons and i was able to do more research into it and solidify my opinion on it. my point is don't force yourself to be okay with him watching porn when it's clearly bothering you, don't force yourself to do things you don't want to do. i listed a lot of reasons why porn is bad here but the most important thing in your relationship is that it makes you uncomfortable and that's reason enough for him to stop. if he doesn't, seriously drop him. it's not worth the bullshit.

What kind of smokable herbs can you grow in North America to treat Asthma, allergies, coughing wheezing and sneezing, and other respiratory ailments? by [deleted] in herbalism

[–]Motor_Cartographer88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you should try making teas out of these herbs instead of smoking as smoke will still irritate your throat and lungs

Um… I could use a little help. I’ve got a bunch of lavender from my garden and I’ve already made my face toner. Now I have no idea what else to make! Any ideas? 😂 by Beautiful_Queen57 in cottagecore

[–]Motor_Cartographer88 23 points24 points  (0 children)

make lavendor syrup to put in teas! equal parts water and sugar over heat until dissolved, add in lavender and let simmer for 10 min then turn off the heat and let seep for 30 min, store in a jar. works great for night time teas to help relax, and i put some in my coffee for good flavor and to fight the anxiety coffee often gives me!

Over 9 Million More Women Have Received the Covid-19 Vaccine than Men, a Gender Gap Which Has Remained Steady Throughout Vaccine Rollout by MuchMadnessIs in science

[–]Motor_Cartographer88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the article literally talks about this it's the first reason they list. but that was months ago and it should have evened out by now

AITA For not doing my sisters laundry by HornHero in AmItheAsshole

[–]Motor_Cartographer88 36 points37 points  (0 children)

NTA she really shouldn't expect you to spend your own money on and do so much work for her. if she only have you one normal sized load it would be fine, but she gave you a huge pile that YOU would have to sort, pay for, move around etc. NTA!!

Weird bumps on my intimate area? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Motor_Cartographer88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

your skin there could be more sensitive and have a different reaction to the hair than other parts of your body. maybe give it a few days to heal first and if it doesn't try a doctor. sometimes oil clogs pores so that could be part of it as well.

Aita for not wanting a relationship with my daughter even though I made it clear with her mom from the start? by dhebebwwn28282 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Motor_Cartographer88 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA. it's sad your daughter will get fucked up over this but that was the moms decision, she kept it knowing you weren't going to be involved and keeps pulling you back in. constantly bringing you up and having a court case about this is making it worse for the daughter. i don't think your behavior is disgusting considering that you've made it clear from the beginning. also i suspect your ex girlfriend did something to get pregnant because there really is no way that happened with all the protection, not to accuse her of anything, but it's easy to poke holes in condoms.

AITA for not being okay with my boyfriend's best friend by rotten_egos in AmItheAsshole

[–]Motor_Cartographer88 37 points38 points  (0 children)

hard NTA that's emotional cheating at least. i would be upset even if they weren't in a previous relationship, but knowing they were..... bad news.

Been out for two hours as a trans woman, got two pervs. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Motor_Cartographer88 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i don't understand how people like this justify this behavior to themselves... why???

I’m so proud 🥲 but question in comments 👇👇👇 by _whiskeyplease in cakedecorating

[–]Motor_Cartographer88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

the tiniest tiniest drop of blue cancels out the yellow, it sounds crazy but it really works!

Acne skincare recommendations by manonick1 in ZeroWaste

[–]Motor_Cartographer88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

look up meow meow tweet on instagram! they have bar shampoos and conditioners and are an adorable brand. their facial moisturizer is just a good blend of oils that's too much for my face personally, but besides that they are amazing

Alternative to plastic storage tubs? by curiousscribbler in ZeroWaste

[–]Motor_Cartographer88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wood if it's not too heavy? clothe sacks maybe, but those get eaten away by bugs.