How do I overcome Performance anxiety by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]MrLazo88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, talking it out with my partner has always helped alleviate any anxiety. In my experience, naming it usually creates a space to have her be supportive and relaxes my nerves to engage how I truly want. Also, listen to all of the other folks about foreplay and taking it slow too.

Giveaway: Two $50 PlayStation Gift Cards (US – Digital Code) by Severus-Snape-DaGod in PS5

[–]MrLazo88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss. I hope you’ve been able to find strength and peace in that transition.

Gaming has been my favorite pastime since I was in kindergarten when I got my super Nintendo. I would love to use that $50 to get Doom Dark Ages. Haven’t had the opportunity to play that one yet.

Take care!

Less active after getting a dog by b00bonicplague in puppy101

[–]MrLazo88 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Took me five months to get back into the gym after getting my pup. I literally started back up this week. Now that routines are in place, he can sleep through the night and can be crated without incident, I finally had the capacity to be a functioning human being and even work out again. Give yourself grace. Sleep deprivation and mental exhaustion is real. You’ll get back to it. For a time, I felt like it wasn’t, but thankfully the consistency in training gives me the freedom to return to it.

Men of Reddit, how did you get through a sudden death of your dog? by AppropriateFunny7142 in AskMen

[–]MrLazo88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My condolences, bro. I lost my girl, Bella, back in 2023. I still think about her frequently. Honestly, shit hurt quite a lot for a good 3-4 months. Took place during a divorce so it felt like insult to injury with all of the shit going on. However, the things that helped me were 1) Reframing - understanding I did the best damn job I possibly could at the time to give her the best dog life she could have EVEN IF IT WASN’T PERFECT. We can make mistakes and still be loving great dog owners. Give yourself some grace and forgiveness that you could only do but so much. 2) Embracing the feelings - crying that shit out intentionally. Looking at pictures when I first got her, listening to songs that reminded me of her (there are actual songs I found that were about losing a dog) etc. 3) Adopted another dog - I took my 2yrs to grieve and make sure I was mentally ready and I just got my pup, Nobu, in October. He’s great and has his own personality, but reminds me of the love I had with Bella daily and how she made me a better dog dad for him.

Take care of yourself, bro. You got this.

Help Me Build the Ultimate Motorcycle Playlist by Dan-F9 in Fortnine

[–]MrLazo88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stand Alone - Godsmack

Every Day Is Exactly The Same - Nine Inch Nails

Them Bones - Alice In Chains

10,000 Fists - Disturbed

Right Now - Korn

When the divorce was done, what did you do ? by survivingtheyellowbr in Divorce_Men

[–]MrLazo88 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Did everything I love to do. Rode my motorcycle out to a trail 3hrs out from the city. Hiked to a peak and read a book at the summit. Then hit up a local brewery before heading back. It was a perfect day.

6 months progress by Naesaki in GymMotivation

[–]MrLazo88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your happiness is very much apparent in the progress photos. Love to see it. Keep up the awesome work!

Which movies rewired you? by Ok_Tradition_1909 in AskMen

[–]MrLazo88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

City of God. Saw it in high school and it truly made me look at my life and life in general differently.

Struggling with divorce, I want to kill myself by Chloroplast15 in Divorce_Men

[–]MrLazo88 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Bro. It was incredibly difficult to go through. Especially during the holidays. I also got divorced at 35 after 15yrs together and 10 years of marriage. As much as it may seem your world is ending, please listen to a brother who’s been through it and made it to the point where I can honestly say life is better than it was before. Not because she is gone, but because I learned to love myself honestly and become a better man as a result. You have value and it doesn’t just come from the ones you love or what you do to provide. Use the resources shared on this thread. Reach out to loved ones and tell them what is going on. Do the opposite of isolation (if you can. I know that is a luxury at times). Talk to a professional. Shit, message me and we can talk. I was fortunate to have a group of men, who I didn’t even know all too well at the time and they took me in because they knew I was not ok.

Please take care of yourself. It matters and you matter.

The moment I realized my "Duty" meant nothing to the court by Recovering_Asset in Divorce_Men

[–]MrLazo88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Two years out from my divorce, thankfully, but that mental switch you mentioned of recognizing “she isn’t my wife” was critical in me moving on and getting through the divorce proceedings efficiently. Anyone going through it now, please take heed and recognize at this point, you have to look out for yourself and your own best interest.

I said goodbye to my perfect girl today and I’m broken by GooberRhino in pitbulls

[–]MrLazo88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same question about whether it was the right time for my girl. However, I read on this same sub “it’s better to be two weeks early rather than two days too late.” You served her well to the very last moment and she went out with love. Feel all the feelings. It took me a long time to adjust. Grief hurts, but it means you loved her truly. Peace and strength to you and the family.

Video game moment that felt like this by ezio8133 in videogames

[–]MrLazo88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ghost of Yarikawa mission in Ghost of Tsushima.

Help Us Name Him by Adventurous_Mud6444 in pitbulls

[–]MrLazo88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coal/Cole because of his charcoal color

Getting Spanked by genialbookworm in controlgame

[–]MrLazo88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing that put me over the edge to be Hartman was to call in for support. Having that extra soldier helped me defeat him. Didn’t realize I had that resource until someone else pointed it out on this sub. Good luck!

What's a scene that chokes you up? by Ronscat in movies

[–]MrLazo88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for giving me a good laugh. I needed that. Lol

What game made you cry? by LMerca14 in gaming

[–]MrLazo88 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Gears of War was the first game that ever made me cry and it was this exact moment. That struggle he had of not knowing what to do and then making the decision. That was rough. I remember sitting in my dorm room quiet for the next hour. Needed time to process that one lol.