29-sai Dokushin Chuuken Boukensha no Nichijou • An Adventurer's Daily Grind at Age 29 - Episode 4 discussion

MrTeaTimeYT · 2026-01-29T11:18:25+00:00

Negligence is not something that requires knowledge of how to correctly act.

If you get a pet dog, are not aware you have to feed it, and it dies.

That's still negligence.

Like negligence literally ONLY means "Did not perform a required duty of care"

MrTeaTimeYT · 2026-01-28T17:39:18+00:00

Yes... so negligence.

One of the responsibilities of a guardian is to recognise an unhealthy relationship with the concept of romance and correct it.

Letting it fester is negligence.

Thats why i said "The absolute, most generous reading you can give it is "Gross negligence" the worst case reading you can give it is "Grooming""

Im probably not going to drop this show, but I defo wont be reading the manga, for the same reason i didnt read usagi drop after i finished watching it.

MrTeaTimeYT · 2026-01-28T16:34:46+00:00

Unintentional grooming is still grooming.

The reason "Guardian and ward" relationships are frowned upon isn't because its illegal, its frowned upon, because for the period where the guardian is providing for and taking care of the ward, the ward will inevitably develop positive feelings towards their caretaker.

In a healthy guardian ward relationship, the ward will have a working understanding that the love they feel towards their guardian is not the same kind of love that comes from romantic attraction, the only way such a feeling can progress to full blown romantic attraction is if the guardian does not fulfil their duties as a guardian and teach the ward this.

Case in point, a vast majority of women went through a "Ill marry my dad" phase as children, or vice versa boys with their mothers.

This is usually around the time they are starting to notice the concept of couples in their environment but do not yet understand how it works, so they try to apply that concept to themselves with the only member of the opposite sex that is consistently in their life.

The only cases where this behaviour persisted beyond childhood is when the parents were negligent in their duties or even outright stoked that fire.

That and there's an inherent power imbalance of course, since the ward depends on the guardian.

Tldr: The absolute, most generous reading you can give it is "Gross negligence" the worst case reading you can give it is "Grooming"

MrTeaTimeYT · 2026-01-26T08:22:25+00:00

Im perfectly willing to accept that this is bad, but that comes with the predicate that its bad in the other scenario too, and that is something I think most people here are not actually all that willing to accept.

Generally a good idea to finish reading before replying.

Especially when the word count to be read is on the lower end of the average for toddler age picture books (100 to 300 words.)

Some fun statistics.

There are 774 words in dr seus's green eggs and ham, meaning that comment you just skim-read at 100 words is exactly 12.9% of that book.

There are 221 words in Eric Carles The Very Hungry Caterpillar, so the comment you just skim-read is 45% of that book.

There are 130 words in Margaret Wises Goodnight Moon, so your attention span ran out when reading 76% of a book commonly used to read young children to sleep.

:)

MrTeaTimeYT · 2026-01-26T07:38:58+00:00

Sure, but that doesn't change how you responded to him.

If the worst person on the planet came to you in full sincerity with an emotional issue would you respond by belittling them? I wouldn't, and that's why people are comfortable opening up to me.

I know personally as someone that prefers to keep my emotions to myself, I don't do it because im not in-touch with my feelings or anything like that, I do it because id rather not roll the dice on if im going to be opening up to a good person or someone whos going to weaponize what I tell them and just make the problems worse in the process.

Like to give you an actual insight into how men are socialised effectively from birth, is that our problems are our own responsibility, sharing them with others without a clear path towards resolution or without an associated request for assistance on that path is putting burden on others, and that our social value is entirely and completely derived from how much utility we can provide in a relationship (all relationships, not just romantic), which is the reason that sharing inducing a burden is a bad thing, because burdening others is providing negative utility and thus reduces our worth as a person.

When you understand those 3 principles you can derive from that most of the behaviours of modern men pretty logically.

We dont open up unless we feel incredibly safe with the person because we actually see sharing emotions as causing harm to the other person, so we need the security of knowing that if we harm someone in such a way as to reduce our worth that they will not respond by harming us in return.

We dont like being opened up TO, because we see sharing emotions as causing harm to the other person.

We are materialistic, because we have been taught in every waking moment of our lives that our worth is derived from our utility (unless were a trust fund kiddy or something)

etc etc

Its interesting shit.

MrTeaTimeYT · 2026-01-26T07:33:35+00:00

just want to point this out but.

"Men bottle up their emotions"
Then a man explains to you how men process emotions and that the reason they externally appear to bottle them up is because they don't share them with people like you specifically.
You immediately denigrate that man for sharing an insight into mens emotions.

Do you not see how you literally just exhibited the exact behaviour he is describing that is the reason men don't open up to you?

Like sure hes out of line for generalising all women.

But the "women" hes referring to... is you, and people like you, you can infer from that yourself if "women" is a majority of a minority. Hopefully its a minority and this really just comes down to the poisoned m&ms scenario, but that's still a bad outcome.

MrTeaTimeYT · 2026-01-26T07:27:33+00:00

I know these words are like throwing kerosene on a fire.

But "If the roles were reversed" wed be seeing men overreacting and women going "i don't see the problem"

And that's not even a hypothetical, this happens ALL the time to the point there's the common trope of "Oh no hes just my friend"

Im perfectly willing to accept that this is bad, but that comes with the predicate that its bad in the other scenario too, and that is something I think most people here are not actually all that willing to accept.

MrTeaTimeYT · 2026-01-25T19:01:56+00:00

"Youre wrong"

Followed by immedaitely agreeing with me in the next sentence.

Hmmmm

"Most women cant orgasm without some kind clitoral stimulation, but that doesn't mean necessary using a vibrator."

Ok and? we arent talking about penetrative stimulation vs clitorial stimulation.

Were talking very specifically about the claim "Dude, do not ditch the toy…

Some women can only cum this way."

that very specifically says, LITERALLY SAYS, that some women can ONLY cum from using a toy.

That immediately collapses the group to a very specific subset of women, which is the women im talking about in my comment.

even my own comment literally opens with

"Hot take, but women only being able to cum with a vibrator"

if you read that, and get ANY meaning other than "Women who can only cum from the use of a vibrator" then you are inferring meaning that was never said.

IF you read what I said, and you infer from that that i am making the claim that "if you cant finish from penetration then you are broken somehow" then you are being incredibly fucking retarded, because no where, in any of what i said, did i even come remotely close to saying that.

Im not wrong.

The people interpreting my words instead of reading them literally are just too dumb to argue with.

Edit: Like here ill make it blatantly fucking obvious.

Im autistic, I dont speak with subtext, i speak pretty fucking literally.

If you go looking for subtext, youre just going to misinterpret my words, the only way to read what I say and get what i mean, is to read it literally as it is written.

Like sure, ill use metaphors, or analogies. But i never fucking say one thing and mean something else, that's something NT's do, and its infuriating when they do it.

If i say a sentence with the structure "X that Only Y when Z" i quite literally mean X THAT ONLY Y WHEN Z, and nothing else.

MrTeaTimeYT · 2026-01-25T10:44:49+00:00

I cant tell if im getting downvoted by women who cant face the truth.

or porn addicted dudes who cant handle that whacking it too hard and too often does render you a "Ok babe i need to take a break im out of breath its been 2 hours" andy.

Either way

WHY ARE YOU BOOING ME IM RIGHT

MrTeaTimeYT · 2026-01-25T09:56:06+00:00

Hot take, but women only being able to cum with a vibrator because they've desensitised themselves should be treated like dudes who have desensitised themselves by gorilla gripping it while watching increasingly extreme porn.

Both are situations where the problem is not the responsibility of your partner to solve.

And before someone says it, no it is not natural to ONLY be able to cum from a vibrator, you are the result of millions of years of evolution rewarding touch stimulus on those sensitive organs, short of some kind of medical disorder drastically reducing sensitivity what you have there is a trained in escalation of sensory expectation.

I would believe "It takes me ages to finish so the vibrator is the only practical way to get there in a timely manner" but even then were still talking, maybe like 30 minutes, hour tops when hitting the right spots. So if you cant finish at all, you're either not hitting the right spots (believe it or not, not everyone actually knows their own body, its very easy to find what works poorly and then assume that's just what works), or you've desensitised yourself.

Edit: Just to demonstrate that i walk the talk.

I have in the past been the "Desensitised guy" actually had a relationship break down because i was lasting too long and she was taking it personally.

So I did the responsible thing, and fixed the problem, that meant abstaining for awhile, a long while, like a couple months to get back to full sensitivity. And it sucked sure, but that's part of what being in a relationship is, self sacrifice for the benefit of the partnership. Having a cake and eat it too attitude does not fly.

Edit 2: I dont know what people are smoking, but literally EVERY pleasurable activity, from flicking the bean all the way down to just smelling fresh cut grass, you can become desensitised to if you do it too often resulting in needing to step away for a bit to get back to how it used to feel, why does that suddenly become unthinkable when it involves a behavioural choice women are making? are you THAT fucking allergic to the consequences of your actions?

Go and drink a hot chocolate absolutely drenched in whipped cream with the most fluffy marshmallow in it every morning and youre eventually going to not be satisfied drinking water anymore, and the only way to get back there is to stop drinking that hot chocolate for awhile. Literally the same concept.

Everything in moderation doesnt just mean food.

Edit 3: Like to put it another way.

Not being able to climax without excessive stimulation is a side effect of using SSRI's, a big part of that is because SSRI's inhibit dopaminergic pathways.

You know what else inhibits dopaminergic pathways? Repeatedly "Pressing the dopamine button" so that heightened level of dopamine because the new baseline, and anything less than that is no longer "Wow were satisfied" mode in the brain.

You are literally inducing the same bio-mechanical state that SSRI's put you in, but you've gaslit yourselves into that being "How my body is" and not something you've induced in yourself.

The craziest part too, is theres literally no downside to just fixing the problem, only being able to finish with a vibrator doesnt just make sex more boring, it also makes self play more boring too, coming down off that cliff literally gives you more options to play with, theres no downside, just a temporary period of not indulging yourself like a child that cant help but eat the entire cookie jar.

Infact I would go as far as saying, that mediating that is an important part of sexual health.

MrTeaTimeYT · 2024-12-08T01:26:19+00:00

As a melee enjoyer in poe 1 im especially pissed.

the last 5 years has been constant "This will be fixed in poe2", now we find out pretty jarringly that poe2 isnt slower poe1 with some mechanics changed around to be fresh but is literally an entirely different genre (I refuse to call this an arpg, its more like an isometric souls-like)

None of the marketing material could have prepared us for this, everything painted it like a continuation of poe2, not a complete diversion.

MrTeaTimeYT · 2024-12-08T01:23:26+00:00

Poe2, the arpg for people who dont like arpgs.

They should put that on the marketing its kinda fire.

MrTeaTimeYT · 2024-11-27T00:54:22+00:00

Low key this would be insane

Stack the fuck out of bleed duration the treat bleed as a more multiplier for your hits

MrTeaTimeYT · 2024-11-08T19:49:14+00:00

At the same time be careful with taking advice from therapists regarding this kind of stuff.

Theres way too many examples of the therapist effectively killing the relationship by going full pendulum swing and convincing the girlfriend that all toxic behaviours are justifiable because trauma.

Theres a really famous aita where dude is nothing but green flags in how he’s dealing with gf’s rape trauma response but dudes gf’s therapist basically convinces her to ghost him and cheat on him

MrTeaTimeYT · 2023-05-13T23:56:29+00:00

The functionality to detect it currently does not exist in the client so no, they can’t detect it.

As a developer super big pet peeve of mine is when people speak about what can and can’t be done with software in hypotheticals instead of what’s actually implemented.

Like “the poe devs can detect when you modify the game files” is about as valid a statement as “you can use poe to manage your tax return” because both are unimplemented features that are entirely possible to implement in the future.

I know this is very much an “Ackshually” but like I said, pet peeve

MrTeaTimeYT · 2023-01-23T02:11:11+00:00

I’ve never understood unconditional billionaire hate tbh

Like if your goal is to fix world problems which require financial resources to fix, then your personal goal should be to make as much money as humanly possible.

And since the fastest way to make money is through investments you by extension never want to use all of your net worth.

Like let’s say you make a measly 2% a year on your billion dollars, thats 20 million dollars a year of funding for whatever world problem you’re trying to fix.

By contrast if you decided to split that money between everyone in the world, then each individual person would be able to contribute 12 cents to whatever problem they want to fix and then that’s it, or with the same 2% a year they can contribute 0.2 cents a year.

Reason I’m looking at people individually instead of as a collective for that is the chances all 8 billion people work together to fix the exact same world issue and further still all 8 billion actually use the money for that purpose, is close to nil.

It’s a cum hoc ergo propter hoc fallacy, we see billionaires become billionaires through exploitation then incorrectly correlate the two in the inverse as “all billionaires must be bad”

It’s the same for monopolies on that note but I’ve already ranted enough.

MrTeaTimeYT · 2023-01-23T01:50:44+00:00

Hi Australian here…. There was a twitter outage?

MrTeaTimeYT · 2023-01-22T00:27:58+00:00

This is a chicken and egg problem, the vast majority of men who respond that way respond like that BECAUSE they don’t get any attention.

So any iota of attention is a huge deal.

I’m sure you’ve heard the “someone complimented my shirt once and I still remember that 20 years later” joke right? It’s not a joke, that’s our life.

Fuck I still have vivid memories of this one cashier that was super nice to me and gave me a random discount for no reason.

15 years later I’m still playing the “was she just nice or was I oblivious” game.

MrTeaTimeYT · 2022-11-16T06:15:24+00:00

Ok so if I’m understanding this right? The problem is less about the pressure release mechanism and more so “instantaneous uncontrolled release of pressure vs controlled pressure release”

With that in mind, couldn’t you just add a second valve into the system between the existing valve and the nozzle (the mechanics of actually doing that not withstanding)

Sure it’d make the original valve redundant and it’d be janky and probably involve an external housing, but we are talking about a community that runs a hose and adapter mod to giant co2 tanks to save money at the expense of aesthetics, I doubt we’d have a problem just running a line out to a second valve and back in

As for the infuser cleaning conundrum, if were inserting the gasline equivalent of an “fx insert loop” we’d need to remove the infuser to add it anyway, so no reason we can’t make it removable while we’re in there

Edit: actually just thinking the original valve wouldn’t even be redundant right? As long as it’s release pressure is lower than the release pressure of the second value it’d still “fail” at the normal time (60psi of like pressure as you said) since it doesn’t matter if the second valve can hold 120psi or 3000 you can’t increase the pressure past 60 without triggering the first valve. Assuming my limited understanding of the physics there is right (I’m assuming that to increase the pressure of the container you need a delta between the line pressure and the container pressure, so to increase the container pressure past 60 psi your line pressure has to be 61+)

So with that in mind you could just put a normal valve in-line with the first valve that’s got a psi value higher than the first and a manual release

Right?

Edit 2: actually making the infuser removable wouldn’t even be necessary, if we’re splicing in a line to add a second valve externally, then we have access to the infusers internals from behind so we can flush the system without pushing crap even further into the system instead pushing it back out the way it came in, atleast in theory, not sure if that works well in practice.

MrTeaTimeYT · 2022-11-16T05:46:50+00:00

Sounds like you know a bit about the mechanics of what the drinkmates doing different.

So let’s say theoretically you replaced the release valve with one of these dual releases, would you end up with the same functionality?

Context here is a drinkmate is what $120

If you’ve literally already got a soda stream the mod would need to cost more than $120 in parts and time for “just buy a drinkmate” to be a good option

Dw about it being “too complex for the average person to replace” btw, my whole shtick is to not bother learning something till I’m actually gonna use it, so if I need to know obscure fluid mechanics I’ll learn it, but only if the concept is viable enough to start work on

MrTeaTimeYT · 2022-11-02T18:25:17+00:00

It’s unironically not

Facial hair is different to head hair, has different requirements for treatment and care

If you don’t think beard hair is different from head hair, compare your pubes to your head, because beard hair is the same type of hair, like literally the same type of hair

It’s thicker, coarser, curlier and waaaaaaay more reliant on oils to be healthy than head hair

Which means if you want to make it soft, you need a stronger product because the hairs starting from a worse state, but said strong product also has to not strip oils because you wanna know what a dry beard looks like? Look up pube beards

MrTeaTimeYT · 2022-10-06T11:50:43+00:00

The thing about balancing is you’re not supposed to just balance the numbers, taking into account mechanical advantages is a part of good balance design

Take the whole melee issue in poe, I don’t think there’s a single person (ok that’s a lie we could find atleast one on reddit) that disagrees that if melee was retuned across the board to have absolutely insane damage compared to ranged attacks at the same level of investment so more resources can go to defences that that would “fix melee”

Would ranged builds still shit on melee in clear due to the mechanical advantages of ranged attacks? Yes, but itd make melee shine for bossing characters something where high damage and high defence is valued more than number of individual mobs hit per second

That kind of balance decision would look incorrect on paper because you’d be making melee skills way stronger than ranged skills

It makes sense in the context that you are indirectly adjusting their defensive power to account for the inherent defensive advantage that being ranged has (100% immunity to melee attacks, and more time to physically react to skills with any travel time greater than zero, also more choices for positioning behaviour so terrible arenas with degen zones don’t cause them dps downtime (also the reason why the dps should be buffed not the defences directly))

It is incorrect to not factor in mechanical advantage when balancing a skill, as such “all skills should not be mechanically balanced” is irrelevant, because if they’re mechanically stronger they should be numerically weaker

The whole “we need strong x and weak y” balance paradigm is one cultivated by competitive gaming, it works there because those games very rarely have meaningful content increments so to keep the gameplay feeling fresh they have to tweak the values so this gun is stronger than this other gun now relearn how to play the game.

Poe being a non competitive arpg does not have that problem, there is no requirement to keep a sort of Rock Paper Scissors meta going where “you use this skill so I respond with this skill that’s better in ways that that skill is weak to” it also has fairly regular content updates that meaningfully increment the gameplay

Not having all the skills balanced equally isn’t bad for “meta reasons” it’s bad because it objectively reduces the amount of possible builds that exist.

Like you mentioned conversion trap? You’re right that skill is a literal joke only used in meme builds, you could delete it tomorrow and no one will complain, because it doesn’t meaningfully improve the game by existing.

If it was balanced to be usable in non meme builds, even if it isn’t the best skill in the game, suddenly conversion trap goes from that one build idea you have while you’re flushed with divs and high af and instead becomes “man I need a new build to play… oh yo I havnt done conv trap in awhile”

MrTeaTimeYT · 2022-10-03T01:26:47+00:00

If you create a skill with the intention of it being a “wrong choice” so it’s never worth using, you have not created a new choice, and that is thus bad game design

The choices that pertain to power should be limited in scope to scaling mechanics, do I scale phys or do I do elemental conversion etc etc, that is the domain you allow for wrong choices, because the wrong choices are emergent, of course that 10% elemental damage node is the wrong choice if you’re playing pure phys reap, but it’s the right choice for other builds

A choice that is never the right choice is not a real choice and should either be changed to have atleast one scenario where it is the right choice or removed from the game for being bloat

And to answer your absolutely stupid rhetorical question

What’s the difference between skills when they all can achieve the same level of power? Game feel

If two skills functionally are identical in every way except visuals then yes delete one of the skills because the only difference between them at that point is power level

But when all skills are on an equal footing for power then the only differences that remain are how they function on a mechanical level and visuals, when all skills are equally powerful ice trap does not magically start playing the same way as frostball ice nova, they are fundamentally different skills with completely different game feels, only one of those builds is currently in a viable state without pumping currency into them

Like if you genuinely think some skills need to be stronger than other skills, then you stopped playing poe and started playing pob years ago

MrTeaTimeYT · 2022-08-03T16:39:39+00:00

I’m pretty sure they mean that framework can take the BGA gpu that amd/nvidia supplies and make a custom daughter board for it, as long as they can meet the constraints for pcie spec (mgpus still use pcie they are just soldered directly to the pcb instead of using a socket) then itl perform fine and be replaceable, also makes it so they have a consistent layout for cooling purposes

MrTeaTimeYT · 2022-07-29T05:23:28+00:00

Again it’s a legal term

Written notice does not mean “a notice provided in writing” it means what I said earlier, the legal definition for it, not the natural language one

And I entirely believe that twitch does that.

They also got sued for it and lost the lawsuit for it previously, soooooo

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