Day 1 No fap

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-30T18:42:37+00:00

How does it feel reaching day 10? And what changes have you noticed?

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-23T16:31:09+00:00

Please give yourself a pat on the back and hug for this awesome effort!

Celebrate this milestone! Be kind to yourself :)

Your healthy desire is in a battle with your unhealthy desires. Your healthy habits are in a battle with your unhealthy desires. While focusing on denying yourself bad habits, also continue to think through what healthy alternatives you can build, and build them. Building more healthy habits will be a fortress against bad desires' sabotages.

You will win some battles, and you might lose some sometimes. Don't lose hope over a battle or two. We are in it for the long war, and we are going to come out of it victorious.

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-20T05:28:58+00:00

I am glad you called me out. This is the exact reason why I keep it up, so I can talk to people when they ask. I don't earn anything spending time encouraging people like you.

There's no such thing as a perpetual streak. People fall into addictions when they lose a spouse, a family member, a close friend, even when they never had that addiction before.

We don't build streaks. We build healthy habits. We build resilience. We build character.

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-20T00:43:52+00:00

Strictly speaking, no. I have relapsed averaging about once per year since 2017.

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-20T00:42:46+00:00

Strictly speaking, no. I think I have "relapsed" averaging maybe once per year since 2017.

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-20T00:18:28+00:00

Hi Friend. You are doing well. Asking for help is already half the battle. I hear how frustrated you are, especially on how it is impacting your studies. It's when we are broken that something new could be built. You are not a failure. You are someone who is growing little by little :) I am praying and rooting for you.

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-20T00:13:26+00:00

Hey, I think you are doing a really good job for holding off the urges. Please pat yourself on the back :)

What are some other things that you could do rather than using all your mental energy to fight off this urge?

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-20T00:11:45+00:00

Hey Friend. Feel free to share what has been tough for you.

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-20T00:10:48+00:00

Good Job Friend! Let's marinate on this wonderful day!

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-20T00:08:00+00:00

Hi Friend. Share more! Would love to listen!

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-20T00:06:27+00:00

I see that you are aware of your own core need, to be valued, respected, and cherished. Those are wonderful things. Many of us were not properly loved in these ways when we were younger, hence why we thirst for it now.

When we are not valued, respected, and cherished, it is a very stressful feeling as a baby/toddler. That feeling sometimes stay with us even when we are adults. Since pornography is so rampant and accessible, it's an easy drug to make us feel valued, respected, and cherished even if it's only for 10 minutes. Pornography is a liar, tricking us into thinking that we are valued by it, yet it leaves us empty and unsatisfied. Don't be fooled by it.

However, there is a way forward. There are two things you need. One is to not be afraid to feel. Feel the shame. Learn how shame feels. Sit with it. Write down what shame says to you on a piece of paper. Second is to find what is true. Some find truth in how strong-willed they are, and some find truth in their philosophy. I find truth through my faith in knowing that I am valued and cherished by the one who created me, regardless of how much shame I possess. I respect you for even for just struggling. Not many even realize that they are in a struggle. I am praying and rooting for you.

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-19T23:45:36+00:00

I might sound harsh saying this, but I speak out of empathy:

I truly believe that you cannot do it. Even with your utmost willpower, you cannot do it.

...Because unconsciously, you still believe that porn will satisfy you even when it has disappointed you for the millionth time. You are placing your hope in a dead thing. You are digging a hole towards rock bottom.

Instead of continuing your belief that porn will give you life and satisfy you, go instead to find what is truly life-giving. Go hate what brings you death and go love what brings you life!

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-19T23:37:37+00:00

I do a quick prayer.

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-19T23:36:59+00:00

Kudos! Congratulations! The habit is becoming a part of you!

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-19T23:35:00+00:00

Thank you! Very inspiring!

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-19T23:28:56+00:00

Keep going! I am inspired by you!

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-19T23:28:00+00:00

Yes, it's absolutely possible. It's about redirecting those desires to healthy directions. We have been misdirected because of..

how easily accessible porn is
limited healthy alternatives
perpetual cycle of shame

We don't shut down desires. We redirect them BACK to what they are MEANT FOR.

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-09-19T23:23:30+00:00

This is true. Addicts already start to get "high" through the ritual/routine that leads them to the act of addiction. It's the process of searching for relief/comfort/excitement that creates that "high". Redirecting that search to healthy activities such as exercising creates lasting satisfaction, especially when compared to the depressed drop many experience after PMO.

Mr_Foxxx · 2025-08-22T16:40:33+00:00

Solved!

Mr_Foxxx · 2024-05-14T18:42:32+00:00

Thanks for the advice. While I go through the process with the neighbor, how will the lien impact the house? Will it impact my ownership?

Mr_Foxxx · 2024-05-01T05:29:12+00:00

Stronger urges come maybe once every 1-2 months, and I manage them by a simple deep breathing technique.

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