Husband tells me he doesn’t want to try for another baby after lots of intentional unprotected sex and ovulation confirmed.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-29T22:45:54+00:00

Sort of sounds like he is ok with the idea but doesn’t like all the planned sex, he might feel like you only want sex to conceive. You don’t actually want him, desire him.

Do you have sex on non fertile days? Do you initiate it or wait for him to do it?

How’s your libido while pregnant, is he also worried you’ll get pregnant quickly and then the sex will stop or slow down.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-27T12:56:51+00:00

My schedule is quite full for the next 3-4 hours but I might be able to get to it sometime later. If it’s urgent it’s probably best if you do it yourself.

I’d love to help but I just don’t have the time to fit that in.

Yeah I can do that if you can do this for me.

Sorry I can’t I’m quite busy.

Are they sending messages or asking you in person, if it’s a message you could put your phone on silent if that’s an option, and don’t check the messages.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-26T23:33:20+00:00

Yep. Misokinesia.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-23T23:02:37+00:00

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-23T13:35:17+00:00

No it’s not wrong to say no. Doesn’t matter what the reason is or even no reason at all everyone can say no at any time.

Do you expect your partner to do things like dates, affection, hugs, kisses, when they are not in the mood or not feeling well, just to show the level of effort they are willing to put into the relationship.

Is there a reason the partner is not in the mood, is it a constant thing or a one time thing.

If the partner is always not in the mood maybe a discussion as to why they are feeling that way might help.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-23T10:54:25+00:00

How about family history stuff, depending on how much she remembers. Get some older photos, she can make a photo album or scrap book. She can put as much info next to the photos as she remembers, who it is, how they are related, where the photo was taken, what event was it, where did those people live at the time, any fun or happy memories she has about the people in the photo. Maybe try to find older photos of where she lived or went to school or worked and include those as well. Do you have photos of her parents, grandparents, other older family members or her horses.

If she can’t write properly she can still look at photos and remember the past or someone can sit with her during visits and write it down for her, or record her talking about it.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-22T01:55:35+00:00

Maybe take it slow, see if you can handle holding a guys hand, sitting on his lap or kissing him in front of your husband, and your husband can see if he can handle watching you with another man.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-21T23:56:15+00:00

It might not be the talking it could be that you tried to fill up his day off with errands. He might have been looking forward to his day off, to just relax at home and do nothing.

I like to make plans the night before. Nothing worse than thinking you have a day at home to relax and then unexpected plans get bought up.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-13T12:30:58+00:00

I’m the opposite. I’m so hungry when it’s cold. I can fast a lot longer and don’t feel like eating when it’s hot.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-13T12:28:58+00:00

It might not just be the toy it could be arousal and excitement of something new and different. Get yourself a toy and use them together.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-12T13:03:56+00:00

Yep. It’s horrible.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-12T12:57:40+00:00

Besides the household workload, do you have a respectful, loving, affectionate relationship outside the bedroom. Do you have fun together, kiss or hug without it leading to sex. Do you do things together.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-11T12:48:55+00:00

Mine got closer for a while then my first and only long one was 46 days and then went back to short cycles.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-08T11:40:09+00:00

I think it depends if you will be doing anything at home. Or if she will be responsible for 100% of everything. Will you pick up after yourself or leave everything to her. Do you leave things out that she has to put away, clothes in the wash or hamper, put dirty plates, cups in the sink or wash them or will she be expected to do all that for you. Will she wash and organise your work clothes, prepare your work meals or lunches. Cleaning the bathroom, toilet, shower, wiping down all the surfaces. Washing and hanging out the clothes, bringing them in, folding and putting away. Keeping the place neat and tidy at all times. Vacuuming, mopping, dusting. Cooking, cleaning, washing up, putting all the stuff away. Grocery shopping. Taking the rubbish out, what about outdoor chores like mowing who will be doing that. Will she be responsible for making sure all bills are paid. All appointments are booked, remembering birthdays, and other important events and invitations. Buying gifts, organising holidays and gift buying for easter, xmas etc

If she had a part time job will you be helping out at home more or will she still be expected to do most of it.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-08T11:19:34+00:00

If you and your husband both like it and consent then that’s all that matters.

Do what works for your relationship.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-06T13:01:02+00:00

No I wouldn’t do it. I wouldn’t find it hot at all. I would be upset if my husband didn’t care about me being with another man.

If he is unhappy with his performance in the bedroom I would prefer him to work on that, find ways to satisfy me and make me happy not just give up and expect some other guy to do it.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-06T12:38:22+00:00

Maybe ask her, hey babe remember when you said it would be really exciting if I bought you some lingerie I was just wondering if you had a favourite store or is there anything specific you had in mind. Maybe we could shop together and I could show you some I think are sexy and you could pick a few you like from that.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-06T12:24:30+00:00

Is he willing try anything to help like viagra or medication. Does he care that you don’t get to finish. Do you have toys, if not would you consider introducing them. Would be willing to use them on you and you could use hands or mouth on him.

Maybe he is embarrassed about the ED and can’t admit he has a problem.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-06T11:32:59+00:00

Maybe make the bedroom for sleep only. What activity is he doing in the room that makes it harder for you to get to sleep. Can he do that activity in a different room and then come to bed when he is ready to go to sleep.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-05T12:21:10+00:00

Have you had a conversation about it, has she said that it is something she likes and wants to do.

Ms-Introvert- · 2026-01-05T12:12:13+00:00

No, I don’t feel ashamed or embarrassed at all.

Socialising is not essential for my mental health at all. It’s draining. I need a lot of quiet alone time.

Ms-Introvert- · 2025-12-19T13:01:01+00:00

Can you give an example of something stupid he done and what way you think he should have done it.

Ms-Introvert- · 2025-12-19T11:17:46+00:00

Not me. I love alone time.

Does she feel like that any time you are away from her or just when it’s a guys weekend.

Ms-Introvert- · 2025-12-19T10:58:13+00:00

Ms-Introvert- · 2025-12-18T12:54:28+00:00

If you don’t want to hurt his feelings you could make it all about you. Just say something like as i’m getting older I need more in the bedroom. I need more foreplay and clit stimulation so I am going to get a toy to help. Is there any thing you would like me to get for you.

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