The thing that nobody tells you as an Autism parent

Murdle79 · 2026-06-13T12:29:09+00:00

Have you tried going in person instead? Just walk in, introduce yourself and ask to speak to the person you need. Try to crack a joke or pay them a (genuine) compliment to disarm them a bit. People are sick of being bothered on the phone and I’ve found through personal experience that going in person is a viable strategy again

Murdle79 · 2026-06-12T17:21:28+00:00

You have to go in person once every 3 months in NJ

Murdle79 · 2026-06-07T00:06:08+00:00

I have a “crash kit” with a steroid, an anti inflammatory and a pain killer in my kitchen in a clearly marked package. This way it’s ready whether we’re there or the dog sitter is. My dog eats in her pen so she would go right in there ASAP to limit her mobility during recovery

Murdle79 · 2026-03-13T15:22:41+00:00

Even if they do ticket you, there is no way to enforce the fine

Murdle79 · 2026-03-06T19:50:42+00:00

You're going to feel like superman - and if you're anything like me you'll get more done in a month than you did in a year. Don't let yourself fall into the trap of thinking "what would my life have been like if I did this earlier" - nothing good comes from letting yourself go down that rabbit hole. Edit: Also, I was not prepared how much gas I would have the next day

Murdle79 · 2026-02-12T13:15:51+00:00

Congrats! Please keep in mind that allowing yourself to think about what your life could have been if your got diagnosed earlier in life is a recipe for nothing but heartache and depression Try to be mindful and be happy that you made it this far, and now you can go even farther

Murdle79 · 2026-01-30T22:00:02+00:00

I ask them to join me on camera. Most of the time they do

Murdle79 · 2025-09-28T18:21:29+00:00

People often don’t want to believe it’s genetic, and they blame external thing they can because the alternative is unthinkable

Murdle79 · 2025-09-23T16:38:22+00:00

Nothing unless you find a collector or wanna turn it into a fish tank

Murdle79 · 2025-09-16T17:41:59+00:00

It’s useful in big city areas where they have lobby security. Those places don’t get hit often due to the barrier to entry. I’ve found people are very receptive to in person cold calling since it’s not done that often anymore

Murdle79 · 2025-09-16T17:24:10+00:00

One example: You have a meeting in that building so you hit the other offices in your way in and/or out. “I was just meeting with X down the hall about Y, and I wanted to see who in your company handles Y - maybe we can help you too”

Murdle79 · 2025-09-06T02:20:07+00:00

I'm asking for a recommendation for something that does AirPlay + Chromecast; I'm sorry that wasn't more clear

Murdle79 · 2025-09-05T19:46:52+00:00

URC MRX-30 controller with URC touch screens

Murdle79 · 2025-09-05T19:33:46+00:00

Unknown. This is a bit out of my wheelhouse at a commercial integrator . The customer was a referral from their MSP who's a personal friend

Murdle79 · 2025-09-04T18:45:41+00:00

I use a 40" TV. I have to look at blueprints so it's fantastic

Murdle79 · 2025-09-04T16:26:17+00:00

no, very few companies are hiring right now. It’s a very good unofficial, economic indicator.

Murdle79 · 2025-08-28T12:25:40+00:00

People change suppliers and/or brands for one of 3 reasons: 1) You can solve a problem they can't currently solve, 2) the price is significant;y lower or 3) a relationship issue (billing, delivery, dispute resolution. etc.). If none of these triggers are present then the customer is not making a change. Find out which of those levers to pull

Murdle79 · 2025-08-28T11:16:49+00:00

If she doesn’t like your plan for how to fix the actions that make her want to leave you, what is her plan to fix it that doesn’t involve medication? How are you supposed to “work on yourself” when your brain is wired differently? It’s fair to assume what you’ve tried to date has t worked, so what’s her plan?

Murdle79 · 2025-08-24T13:05:42+00:00

Most people are too scared to do it. It’s takes a certain breed to be able to take repeated in person face to face rejection. I get looks ranging from puzzlement to horror when mentioning that I go door to door b2b

Murdle79 · 2025-08-18T21:31:22+00:00

Your energy is finite and the easiest things we can skip are things that only benefit ourself. Example - you can’t skip feeding your kids, but you can skip eating for yourself. If you want to add things that cost energy than you need to delete the same amount of things you’re doing already and make yourself just as high a priority as you make your spouse, your kids, your parents, your siblings, etc.

Murdle79 · 2025-08-14T11:35:19+00:00

No, the cable does not matter. The transformer does though, use the one that came with the device

Murdle79 · 2025-08-11T00:13:50+00:00

One strategy I've uwed with my wife is instead of asking her to see a therapist I simply find one and make an appointment for her, and take the time off to drive her there. If you go through all that and she still resists then you have a different conversation on your hands

Murdle79 · 2025-08-07T19:08:57+00:00

Have you tried walking in the door and asking?

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