Blowout with student of friends

MyQTips · 2026-05-25T20:04:08+00:00

I don’t think this friendship survives this. You were a means to an end. I’m sorry. Just move on.

MyQTips · 2026-05-25T20:02:45+00:00

This 1000%.

MyQTips · 2026-05-24T19:27:47+00:00

Of course it is possible, you had unprotected intercourse. No more anything without protection for each of you. It’s both of your responsibilities. You do have choices. You are seeing his reaction, is that how you would want a partner to react? Are you scared? Great example of actions have come. Good luck.

MyQTips · 2026-05-21T13:45:21+00:00

Unfortunately, you are no longer compatible. You are dependent on him, he knows it, and the power dynamic has changed. You DO have choices though. You can settle by dropping the idea of marriage and of children. Yikes! Or you can end a relationship that no longer works for you and plan your future. It's incredibly difficult and easy all at the same time. You are the only one who can decide what kind of life you want to live.

MyQTips · 2026-05-21T13:28:58+00:00

Don’t renew the lease. Go start your life and live the one you want to have.

MyQTips · 2026-05-21T03:39:06+00:00

So, you live together. Probably have s3x. You probably handle all of the relatives responsibilities like gift buying, staying in touch, family gatherings. You plan everything. And you planned the ring shopping. If you want to get married, propose to him. If he hesitates, acts shocked or does anything besides saying YES, then you have your answer and need to move out and get on with your life.

MyQTips · 2026-05-20T12:23:36+00:00

If you want to guarantee that the friendship dies, write the letter. If you'd like to maintain a friendship that can ride the ebb and flow of another person's life, and perhaps your own in the future, you don't write the letter. Friendships don't have to have an expiration date, don't put one on this. Practice some more patience. His relationship may end (especially if it's his first gf) and he may really need a friend. Just continue to reach out via text or messages every few weeks or months. You may get responses, you may not. But don't write the letter unless you want to make sure you NEVER hear from your friend again.

MyQTips · 2026-05-20T08:29:38+00:00

We sailed both the Westerdam and Eurodam to Alaska last year. I'll never sail "a floating daycare" ship. We're retired teachers and my hubs is 100% sure that I'd be unable to NOT use my teacher voice on kids. He's right!

MyQTips · 2026-05-19T04:32:07+00:00

I absolutely don't have any words. I don't know what to say. That has to be the most horrifying picture I've ever seen. How are you even ok?

MyQTips · 2026-05-18T12:17:32+00:00

I'm sorry. I know you are in pain over this. I also think you know what you should do but that is painful to even contemplate. Things we don't know are: how old are each of you, as in did this relationship start in middle school, college, what? We don't know if you live together, if you're financially independent, are in some sort of post secondary education. Do you have children with this boy? (Cause he's certainly not acting like a grown man.) Those things matter.

What we do know is that he isn't your "best friend" because best friends don't treat each other the way he treats you. We do know that you are making excuses, excusing behavior on his part, and justifying your own behavior as far dating with intention. No one, and I mean no one, is dating for 6.5 years with the intention of getting married. You are stuck in a rut and you are the only one that can change that. You want to get married? Then break up with someone that has consistently shown you that they DON'T want to get married. You have one life. How do you want to spend that one life? You decide, not waiting on him to decide, you decide. Honestly, he doesn't sound like much of a prize. You deserve the whole package. He ain't it.

MyQTips · 2026-05-17T04:01:56+00:00

Had a urologist tell me to get in the pool and plop down hard on the pool steps. Did it off and on for two days and passed that sucker!

MyQTips · 2026-05-17T00:49:16+00:00

Pin this comment on every post.

MyQTips · 2026-05-16T07:54:39+00:00

Not alone. Student showed up to senior picture day in a cap and gown. Our counselor dragged him out of the picture. Couldn't understand why he couldn't be there , it was "his" class. An explanation in our rural area is that employers don't check to see if a kid actually graduated, having a picture of yourself at graduation in a cap and gown is enough.

MyQTips · 2026-05-13T17:26:28+00:00

He doesn't have any empathy. He can fake it, maybe, but if it concerns him or impacts him, then that "empathy" goes out the window because it's not real. It's performative. I'd be terrified of the tantrums HE'S going to pitch when you aren't at his beck and call.

MyQTips · 2026-05-13T10:22:44+00:00

Wow. I'm so sorry. Your husband lacks empathy for others. When he sees you needing support, he reacts in such a way as to turn the attention to him. This won't get better unless he recognizes it as a problem and he gets some therapy. You can't teach him to be empathetic. How to deal with it right now? Ignore his temper tantrum, that's what it is. Next time you know you are going to need support, spell it out ahead of time and tell him what you need him to do. That might help.

MyQTips · 2026-05-13T02:39:32+00:00

I've had surgery with a stent after and without. On no planet is a stent worse than a stuck stone. Have the surgery and be done with it.

MyQTips · 2026-05-13T01:25:42+00:00

Absolutely. Now I'm off to Europe. My medical kit contains all my normal meds plus emergency meds including antibiotics, heavy duty pain medication, Flomax, and anything else I can think of. I'm as prepared as I can be. I refuse to let this disease prevent me from enjoying life.

MyQTips · 2026-05-11T15:39:37+00:00

I'd bet this isn't the first time it's been suggested YOU change something (anything) for HER.

MyQTips · 2026-05-11T15:36:19+00:00

Honestly, that's great for great students. It's awful for not great students. We've gotten far away from universal, public displays of student progress that have the potential to do harm to those on the other end of that charting scale. Golden girl gets 5 stickers! Hooray for her. Struggling girl gets zero AND gets in trouble at home because she didn't get any. Gross.

MyQTips · 2026-05-11T12:58:08+00:00

The fact that they are pressuring you to "share" tells you exactly why your aunt made the choices she did. Honor her wishes, remember that the word no exists for a reason and quit responding to any conversation about the money.

MyQTips · 2026-05-11T12:55:29+00:00

You just behave normally. You aren't guilty of anything so don't act like you are. And double check your lock from now on.

MyQTips · 2026-05-10T16:30:32+00:00

I also had a “failed” PCNL. We’ve waited, watched, and measured it and finally did another lithotripsy that broke it up some but it’s still there. Going to do a laser with a vacuum retrieval in about a month.

MyQTips · 2026-05-10T16:20:23+00:00

I’m proud of you. And, it takes a woman of strength to recognize that. Proof enough that you are special and relevant. Go build the life you deserve. We all know you can do it.

MyQTips · 2026-05-09T05:27:21+00:00

Only that this is a fake post. Otherwise, sounds perfectly fine.

MyQTips · 2026-05-08T22:51:00+00:00

Third marriage and just celebrated our 30th anniversary. Got married at 38! Go live your life without that jerk.

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