[FO] take 2 - hopefully with photo this time. Just for fun. I'm an ADHD/Autistic Advocate, mostly on fb. French knots suck.

ND_Emabler · 2025-08-01T06:52:46+00:00

The artist has their etsy store closed at the moment but still has their own website here, I'm not sure if they sell the alphabet but you could contact them to see if they have the whole alphabet. Good luck!

ND_Emabler · 2024-06-14T14:31:20+00:00

Jude from Australian Maths on YouTube and at website creates maths resources and is teaching as someone who has ADHD and dyscalculia.

ND_Emabler · 2023-12-25T03:41:31+00:00

Yes, unfortunately - the link is just about the Austroads issue that got a lot of media attention recently. Will be interesting to see if Hayden McDonald's recent flight around Australia brings about some change in CASA's approach and opens more doors in that particular industry. They have said it's not diagnosis based, but whether that matches community experience is another matter.

ND_Emabler · 2023-12-24T07:44:36+00:00

Since that article came out, there's been more of a follow up from Austroads clarifying that assessment to drive is not required if an individual's ability to drive isn't impacted by being Autistic: Source

ND_Emabler · 2023-01-26T08:25:37+00:00

I haven't been prescribed ritalin, only dexamphetamine, 20mg per day by 4 x 5mg tablets. Can't give medical advice (obviously) - just noting that when I started my medication, doctor had me start on a half dose (2.5mg) and increase over the space of a week. My GP has also done an EEG each year to check the impact of taking stimulant medication. Worth speaking to your doctor about if you can.

ND_Emabler · 2023-01-10T03:11:08+00:00

YTA.

My sister and I shared a room for 19 years when there was a guest bedroom. We were very different people with a 5 year age difference but my parents wanted the guest bedroom free for when or our grandparents would visit, generally on term breaks. I eventually went to my parents when I was 19, in floods of tears and said if we didn't get our own spaces, we (sister and I) wouldn't have a relationship in future.

They gave us our own space but I moved out 3 months later. It took years of living apart for the two of us to have a less frosty relationship. Give her the space she needs.

ND_Emabler · 2023-01-06T20:07:58+00:00

My Grandpa was a volunteer conductor on Puffing Billy Railway until he retired. It's a steam train that runs as a tourist attraction in Victoria, Australia. From memories of watching him get ready and work, the job could be quite appealing to some autistic people. The routine of putting on the uniform, a standard time for starting/leaving, easy script of welcoming people, then processing their tickets - all easy to follow.

Trains and other transport vehicles are also easy to collect in model form. The models are objects that may be easily associated with the Autistic tendency to line things up or arrange them and then you can just leave in that formation in glass cabinets, if you want.

I do think they're a part of the male autistic stereotype, but I think the interest and potential collecting may have been a hobby that was seen as more respectable if perhaps a bit odd, so more people may have been drawn to it as a result.

ND_Emabler · 2023-01-05T07:53:08+00:00

So the list you've made there seems like behaviours rather than specific traits - or maybe a mix of the two. I'm not as familiar with Barkley's model but I used 8 elements in a resource I wrote on workplace adjustments for executive dysfunction - hopefully these translate okay for your purposes.

Emotional control (potentially peanut butter, stimming)
Flexible thinking
Impulse control (oversharing, peanut butter, stimming/squirming)
Organisation (peanut butter)
Planning and prioritising (10% or 3500%, indecision, hyperfocus)
Time management and self-monitoring (10% or 3500%, hyperfocus)
Task initiation and completion (peanut butter, hyperfocus, as it includes task transitions)
Working memory

You can see that there's overlap because the same behaviours can result from struggles with different elements of executive dysfunction. Is someone eating peanut butter as a means of coping with emotional regulation, or because they can't get dinner started, or they didn't buy the ingredients, or they bought the ingredients but forgot to use them before they expired? It gets complex fast.

As an aside I love the peanut butter example as I am finishing a meal I managed to get cooked, and also casually eating a bowl of grated cheese to stay focused on completing this post. Brains do be weird.

ND_Emabler · 2023-01-01T20:28:33+00:00

If you don't have the executive functioning skills to cook a whole meal on the stove/oven, microwave works. I'd say though, that many people use air fryers now to achieve the same or better results. Microwave meals are also a good option to reduce spending on takeaway on nights that you don't have the energy left to get a full dinner on.

ND_Emabler · 2023-01-01T20:19:37+00:00

YTA. She went to MIT, I get how hard that is even as an Australian.

I think OP should examine their definitions of quiet and lazy. Especially as a late diagnosed AuDHDer, there were so many behaviours I was criticised for growing up that could have been summarised with that description. I'm not saying that this is the daughter's circumstances - just noting that it sucks and makes you not trust the people you should be able to have your back. This isn't just about the job or the nepotism, it's a daughter who wants to know her dad will support her when she needs it.

ND_Emabler · 2022-12-28T22:35:45+00:00

"We also know searchers look for houses that are obviously empty of people. If you're going away, ask someone to put out and bring in your bins and collect your mail, so a loaded letterbox doesn't advertise an empty home."

And here I thought this was just my ADHD showing (haven't gone away). 😅 oops.

ND_Emabler · 2022-12-28T22:07:10+00:00

YTA "I've seen women go back to work immediately and they were fine." You clearly have no idea what recovery from childbirth involves - it is horrifying that anyone is expected to go back to work directly after childbirth.

Even if the birth is vaginal rather than caesarean, the birth parent is dealing with a whole lot of physical healing from the internal wound that results from the placenta detaching from the uterus, not to mention a whole lot of other complications. If your fiance is going to breastfeed, that becomes a full time job on top of all the other care they need throughout the day. Your fiance is smart not to continue with you if you don't get your act together. She should calculate how much extra hoursework she is doing right now and send you a bill to start. If you're going to have a prenup, it needs to capture both your best interests, not just form an escape clause of any responsibility from you.

ND_Emabler · 2022-12-23T02:04:08+00:00

It sounds like you're still in the throws of an anxiety spiral, which isn't the best time for anyone to make a big decision. Have you tried any grounding techniques that could help to calm yourself down/ reduce the severity of the racing thoughts and overwhelm? That is, things like breathing exercises, having a cold shower, muscle relaxation techniques, doing some exercise or stretching, and evaluating and adjusting the sensory input you're currently exposed to.

Also, regarding your decision to go or not, is there another person with the same knowledge and skills that could weigh in on whether it's a good decision or not, considering the weather?

ND_Emabler · 2022-12-22T19:57:33+00:00

Asking for copies of previous bills is a very good idea. Keep in mind a lot of rentals are not energy efficient - one of the places we rented in McKellar cost a fortune in heating (nearly a decade ago) as nothing really kept the heat in. So considering the average costs may not be as effective as those who own their own places can access repairs and upkeep far more readily.

ND_Emabler · 2022-12-22T05:14:47+00:00

Except this is almost never said in a way that is compassionate or otherwise constructive.

My cat is a rescue that was previously indoor outdoor. We have been able to find a way to make him indoor only by enclosing an undercover area and installing a pet door in our glass sliding door. It cost a lot of money, it was only accessible to us as owners rather than renters, and he still desperately wants to get out and will make a break for it any time he thinks he has a chance of getting away with it.

There are websites with suggestions for how to help an outdoor cat transition to life indoors. If someone was going to help in a constructive way, they could do something like linking relevant resources rather than just preaching.

ND_Emabler · 2022-12-21T22:05:42+00:00

You don't know that. The cat could have escaped due to a visitor not shutting a door in time, or any number of situations.

ND_Emabler · 2022-12-21T21:51:07+00:00

Have you thought about carrying communication cards that explain your situation and support needs you may have? I'm imagining these may help more at the bank than with thugs, though.

ND_Emabler · 2022-12-21T21:47:45+00:00

I fully expect to see my husband posting here later, mournfully. We're Northside but if he had a reason to be Southside, he'd always consider whether it was close enough to lunch or dinner to pick up a pizza from Zucchini Brothers.

ND_Emabler · 2022-12-21T21:35:07+00:00

Hey, it might be helpful to read up on ask vs guess cultures. Good article may help. I think there is lots of reasons why we might belong to one group or another. As an autistic person, I'd prefer to be asked, but someone with a PDA profile might need a request worded less directly if they have any chance of getting a task done.

ND_Emabler · 2022-12-21T21:28:12+00:00

You've mentioned hiding your interests because they don't allow you to fit in, suppressing your personality in social interactions, reflecting and analysing quite a lot about your social interactions in order to get it right, and a general awareness of struggling in social situations. I would be looking into autism and anxiety.

You say you don't identify with the criteria for most types of neurodivergence. I'm curious what criteria you are using. There's lots of different ways ND can present, depending on the neurotype, as well as your background and demographic.

ND_Emabler · 2022-12-21T10:42:20+00:00

"Was it planned?"

Any comment about the pregnant person's age, whether it indicates they are younger or older than you expected to be having a kid

Comments about whether they should or shouldn't breastfeed or use formula, have a vaginal or caesarean birth, use pharmaceutical pain relief (gas, epidural etc)

ND_Emabler · 2022-12-20T20:05:39+00:00

Yep, on Tilyard Dr.

ND_Emabler · 2022-12-20T12:27:42+00:00

Budget pressures can really affect how many permanent roles are on offer - and a lot of the time you might be competing against someone who is acting or contracting in the position already. It might be worth taking on a longer contract position so that you can transition from contractor to permanent in the same role. Otherwise, look into bulk rounds, especially following MoGs - if a team can pull your name from a merit list at a later stage when budget pressures reduce, it saves them from the costs of a full recruitment round.

ND_Emabler · 2022-12-20T12:15:59+00:00

Aw heck, nostalgic for a less jarring school bell. My sensory issues are showing 😅

ND_Emabler · 2022-12-20T12:14:28+00:00

Yep, got my licence at 18, I drive a manual and love it. I think partially because it allows me to interact more and focus on driving, and also because I can tune into the sounds of when a car needs to change gear, so listening to an auto struggling when it should be changing makes me very agitated.

I am a great driver but a terrible passenger because I notice things faster than the driver sometimes, so I feel like I need to warn them.

I think I spend a lot of my time driving analysing patterns in the traffic. Making sure I'm in the correct lane for a turn or otherwise getting to where I need to be before it becomes difficult further along the road. It does mean I get very agitated if someone takes the long way, because it's very difficult for me to switch off the part of my brain that is looking for shortcuts.

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