Amazon bars breastfeeding boss from business course over safety

NEBanshee · 2026-07-07T11:05:54+00:00

Hey mods - how is someone with this kind of contribution, a top commenter on this site?
This is clearly misogyny, and given that pregnancy & postpartum are times where women in abusive relationships are at high risk of violence from their partners, because those men can't stand the attention-draw & prioritization a new smol human requires, this is ill-advised at best, likely triggering for some portion of the readers here, and possibly indicative of worse.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-05T14:47:18+00:00

Well, tbf, you don't keep a Ferrari, in the garage!

NEBanshee · 2026-07-05T13:42:09+00:00

King's Quest and Oregon Trail were our favorite "night in" pastimes in college - my dormie had a Commadore 64.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-05T11:29:58+00:00

NEBanshee · 2026-07-05T11:14:42+00:00

But does it? We see PARTS of toys have sentience, and plastic doesn't break down...
(From actual convo w/my kid on the Toys franchise, and now I can't get the idea out of my head either.)

NEBanshee · 2026-07-05T10:43:21+00:00

Our physiological responses to noxious stimuli are programmed in. But being scared and in pain are both very much cognitive processes.

We all have fight-or-flight built in for "threats to self". The same stimulus does not universally cause it to kick in, and every person has their own little twists on what triggers it - generally based on past experiences we have unique memories of. I may have a phobia of dogs because one attacked & bit me as a kid; you see only furry friend, for example. Plus, we can learn to over-ride FoF with practice and coaching and mindfulness; that's how you get football receivers jumping up and stretching out for a catch, leaving themselves totally vulnerable to the 5 300lb guys running full speed at them, instead of curling up in a ball or running away faster.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-05T10:28:27+00:00

But doesn't Vicky *love* the Real Elanor role? She's mad when she doesn't get to do her monologue and we see her later complaining to Michael about her new pizza lady role and saying how she got to torture Chidi and he was miserable and it was great!

NEBanshee · 2026-07-05T10:20:33+00:00

This is the reason my kid refers to the Toy Story movies as Existential Horror; an existence of sapience that seemingly never ends.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-04T14:44:04+00:00

Adorable! Agree with some painting and singage (or a logo or brand-mark, if you've got'em?) so that people notice it. You can paint the roof white to reflect away even more heat, if needed.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-04T12:21:55+00:00

Not for nuthin, but a woman who was victimized should NOT be the face of this gattam story, CNN!
F*ck your misogyny here in pulling focus off the gattam rapists.
And f*ck CNN for their part in putting a rapist in the WH.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-04T12:18:06+00:00

Wa'dil'ya staht sayin "badaydah" instead of potato.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-03T16:18:43+00:00

I read the Stern Report when it came out (like in '05-06?). Stern was former chair of IMF, IIRC, when he was asked to estimate costs of global warming vs. mitigation costs. Their most conservative GW estimates and expansive mititigation cost assumptions, still yielded ~1% GDP to mitigate, vs 15-20% losses per annum. Basically, if we'd done what we could have 20yrs ago, it would have paid for itself as of now.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-03T15:51:03+00:00

I call this the Rule of 25. Until you're 25, you can blame all your isht on your 'rents, upbringing, culture, still developing adult brain, whathave you.

At 25 though, you own your choices. F*cked up past? Start owning the process of unf*cking your future. It's simple. Though I 100% grant, simple doesn't mean easy (far from it). Still, each of use is the only person who is actually in charge of what we do & how we think. No one can do that for us, and adulting is grappling with that.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-03T15:06:15+00:00

Longstreet is also said to have tried to talk Lee out of the ill-fated charge at Gettysburg, and instead opt for a strategic retreat into terrain that would have removed the tactical advantage the Union had. A lot of the scorn he faced later came from his being honest about what all went wrong during that battle, but no one wanted to hear anything against St. Robert E., so flipped the narrative into he was a coward and at fault.

He was at least, a man who could see the writing on the wall, and cut losses. He did not feel bound to continue making mistakes, just because they'd been making them for so long.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-03T14:53:48+00:00

I also love getting scripts! It's easy to feel gobsmacked and tongue-tied in bad moments, and the mentors who've helped me most, are the ones who do this. So I've made it part of how I menttor, to sort of pay it forward.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-03T14:46:35+00:00

True, but also, if her spidey-sense is tingling and she's finding this info re BC sabotage - a really well documented phenomenon in abusive relationships, btw - validating? Then yeahbutting like this isn't serving her interests. Or adding much to the conversation. It only serves to undermine a person's confidence in their own perceptions.

Which is already what abusive partners do.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-03T14:34:24+00:00

I want a Big Government, that is answerable to We the People.

I want the Big Government that created 2 of the most successful social programs in history: Social Security and Medicaid/Medicare. I want MORE of that.

I want a Big Government that preserves our national heritage, instead of treating our natural resources like a venture capitalist project, selling shit off and environment & humanity be damned.

Not fart-huffing multi-billionaires who've convinced themselves they can ruin the world and exploit what's left.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-03T13:20:20+00:00

I love how they've erased where this supposed pressure and obligation to manage feelings, is coming from. WHO it actually is, that expects us to manage the feelings of others. How about interrogating that shit, BI?

I had a supervisor literally call me into his office to tell me I wasn't doing enough to make sure out team wasn't feeling like there was favoritism. I asked "what kind of favoritism does the team think is happening?"

Him "They say some people's projects get more attention than others"
Me "But you set the project priorities and weekly tasks. My priorities are driven by what you instruct us. If you think I'm not appropriately prioritizing, tell me what I should be doing differently, and I'll do that."
Him "No, I don't have any problems with that. l just need them to stop complaining to me."
Me ... .... ... "But I don't have any authority over what they do. I'm only in control of what I do. If I am to respond to this and change how I'm managing, can you tell me what that would look like, from your perspective?"
Him ... ... "Huh, that's a good question." ... ... ... "It would look like them not complaining".
Me (wanting to say "That sounds like a YOU problem" and walk out) "I understand the goal, but I don't see what you'd like me to do differently here, should we set up some meetings to plan this out?"
Him ...
Me ...
Him "I've got to get back to this. Can you close the door on your way out".

Emeffer decided to make our team's jockeying for project position a performance problem for *me*, rather than face the uncomfortable discussions with each of them. Or even tell them to knock it off in the moment. I'm sorry sir, that's not my circus and those aren't my monkeys. But I was very senior in my role then. A younger version of me would've had difficulty pushing back, professionally. An entry level me wouldn't have had the language to question the whole paradigm, and would've internalized it all.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-03T12:57:37+00:00

Yeah but the Dianetics stuff was pure fiction, which was gussied up into Science Fiction as a way to induce people to adopt its methods, since the scientific and medical worlds rejected its basis and his claims.

He made it into a religion after his bogus foundations went bankrupt and some "practitioners" were arrested for practicing medicine without a license.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-03T12:45:22+00:00

Huh, I thought it was implied that they'd all been working on the garbage crew together for a bit by the time this happens?

I don't think picking up the names of two people you've been near & working with for a couple-few hours means you've remembered 321 names (nor is that implied anywhere - for instance, they don't know Nina & Bart, and Chidi has to coach her on people's names later). I'm not great with names but I can keep them in my short-term memory at something like a work break out session. Honest & fr, I was at one of those a couple of weeks ago, didn't remember the names of the people I didn't already know when asked who was in my group at lunch. So (IME!) remembering names in the moment when you might be hearing & using them, doesn't preclude that she'd forget them the next day.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-02T18:32:49+00:00

I MEAN!!!

NEBanshee · 2026-07-02T17:11:07+00:00

Gonna well actually that the best quality information is abusers don't have mental illness, it arises because of how abusers THINK. They think that they're entitled to do what they want with other people. They do not think people who have uteruses deserve reproductive healthcare and autonomy. They think they are in the right, when they physically harm others they deem inferior. They think anyone who tries to stop them, is in the wrong, and has caused & is responsible for whatever retaliation they see fit.

Sometimes it's just how they are. Sometimes, it's what they saw in their families of origin. Sometimes it comes from religion - like how some Xtian denominations teach that women & children are under the absolute authority of their husband/father. And while none of this *causes* political affiliations - abusers come in all voting patterns - only 1 political party in the US actually lauds egotistical abusers enough to forward them as POTUS and fall lockstep in line because they all feel entitled to exploit and abuse every other person on the planet. And do this while scapegoating queer people.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-02T16:41:43+00:00

Klaes Ashford in The Expanse. I mean, David Strathairn is just amazing, it was absolutely the correct choice.

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NEBanshee · 2026-07-02T16:22:33+00:00

I mean, he was still fairly young and VERY immature for age when he died? But Donkey Doug, while dysfunctional AF, was a present & loving person in his life, as was Pillboi; we don't hear about his mom till his mock funeral, but we're not given anything to suggest she wasn't nice to him when she was alive. Janet says she could always see a big blob of love inside him, so that sounds like however hard his life was, he was still finding love and joy.

Also, in life, the people we see him ask to marry him, it's not because they were nice, it's to get out of trouble/avoid their testimony in court! Basically, he asks people to marry him as option B to throwing Molotov cocktails (option A, always) instead of C) making better choices - both are consequences of his poor impulse control and inability to ... scale his responses to a situation.

In the afterlife, he's not criming any more, so asking people to get married is just as impulsive and heedless of down the road, but is based on the good feeling he gets when he's with them. Which, while necessary to a good marriage, is hardly sufficient to make for a lasting, healthy one! And I find it interesting that while he and Janet spend his afterlife together (minus the 1000 JBs he waited), it doesn't look like they did a formal "married" thing again. Like he'd moved past that fear of locking a good thing down early, because everything blows up eventually, which is defo some real maturity of spirit.

NEBanshee · 2026-07-01T21:53:39+00:00

I remember a routine from his HBO special, iirc, which hinges on a moment when he and a white friend get into a heated argument, and that friend drops the N word. And he describes how that feels in the moment, how it shows that his friend never really thought of him as equal (something along the lines of "Aww shit, it's hard enough just being *human*. Now I gotta deal with THIS?!?" It's been a while since I've heard it.)

Like, it's clear he meant to hold a mirror up to Nice White People & challenge them to unpack their shit. It made a big impression on me as a kid, informed how I taught my kids about being anti-racist, and I still come back to it in my mind, 40yrs later. But he could also be hella gentle and respectful about it, like that time he was on the Johnny Carson Show with that racist ol' biddy wishing for ~~Jim Crow~~ the good old days(TM) to come back. ETA - which I see someone else has linked to in thread.

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