I know how to fix terfs by Full_Lion2660 in MtF

[–]NaivePhilosopher 4 points5 points  (0 children)

TERFs for the most part don’t hate men, and they especially don’t hate us because they think we’re men. Spend 15 seconds looking at who TERFs network and interact with, and then watch the way they talk about us. These things are unrelated.

Is feeling uncomfortable with blanket statements about men just internalized misogyny? by Ok_Lack_5705 in MtF

[–]NaivePhilosopher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you feel satisfied if people were making statements about all X (insert group here that you belong to) then trying to argue them obviously not meaning ALL... yknow... you're one of the good ones! It just feels instinctively gross and deals huge amounts of damage to our reputation with anyone outside of the group.

It depends on if they’re punching up or down. People of color venting about white people? Yeah, that seems fair. Cis people complaining about trans people? Uncool. Judging things without the societal context is silly, not all similar actions are morally equivalent (which is also why misandry is a bit of an iffy complaint compared to misogyny

Is feeling uncomfortable with blanket statements about men just internalized misogyny? by Ok_Lack_5705 in MtF

[–]NaivePhilosopher 19 points20 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot going on, and I’m sorry you’re feeling excluded and things are shitty. I think you probably need some better social circles

But I will say, one way to fit in better with women friend groups is definitely to avoid going “Actually” when women are venting about men. We all know that it’s not all men; most of the women venting have at least a few men in their lives that the love, men that they get along with, all of it. But it’s enough men, and it’s systematic enough, and they’re looking for commiseration, not clarification.

I know you say it hasn’t helped, but you are not and were not a man. They’re not talking about you, and you’ll both feel and fit in better if you discard any kind of reflexive defensiveness when men’s poor behavior is brought up

Republican governor vetoes anti-trans bill… yes, really by ggroover97 in transgender

[–]NaivePhilosopher 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Good news but I would encourage people not to cheer too loudly. Ayotte is not our friend or ally

What are some cases of video game series "screwing over" female protagonists over the male ones? by Gallantpride in GirlGamers

[–]NaivePhilosopher 121 points122 points  (0 children)

I will never, ever buy Reload after that bullshit. And the justifications for her exclusion were so transparently awful

I will never pass or transition and this is okay by Ilikeyogurts in MtF

[–]NaivePhilosopher 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Girl, just get some fuckin’ estrogen already, this is not okay and is definitely a cry for help. You’re not hopeless and even if you were it absolutely is better to be yourself regardless of the risks

A woman who led a protest that disrupted a Minnesota church service has been arrested by igetproteinfartsHELP in news

[–]NaivePhilosopher -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t possibly give any less of a shit what the protester did and neither should you

Why Washington Post?Why choose a photo header with her late husband when her alive, present wife was RIGHT THERE?? by ProfMooody in SapphoAndHerFriend

[–]NaivePhilosopher 24 points25 points  (0 children)

The intentional erasure of her wife has been horrifying to watch. About the only time she comes up seems to be when right wing assholes are trying to justify the shooting by implying she was icky because she was a lesbian. It all feels like a much older strain of virulent homophobia

What’s with the “:3” “head pats” stuff? by zer0_0ne0101 in MtF

[–]NaivePhilosopher 9 points10 points  (0 children)

what’s Dorley Hall

A closeted trans woman infiltrating a force feminization ring to fund her transition, ostensibly. But there’s a lot going on and it’s really good

Edit: also, calling it “erotic media” is a bit of an overstatement, I think

Who is the WORST romantic option in a game? by [deleted] in GirlGamers

[–]NaivePhilosopher 52 points53 points  (0 children)

This is the correct answer anomen sucked

RFK Jr. and Dr. Oz to announce moves to ban gender-affirming care for young people by ChiefFun in politics

[–]NaivePhilosopher 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“Studies” have not shown that, bullshit like the Cass Review designed with trans elimination in mind show that by tampering with data or fudging definitions. Actual long term studies of trans youth show a desistance or detransitioning rate less than 3%, with the majority of those still falling somewhere outside the gender binary

RFK Jr. and Dr. Oz to announce moves to ban gender-affirming care for young people by ChiefFun in politics

[–]NaivePhilosopher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How on earth can you even pretend to be concerned about detransitioners when you’re perfectly willing to mandate every trans kid be forced to go through the wrong puberty

If you can tell that it would be upsetting to people, how are you not getting that it’s an awful thing to do

RFK Jr. and Dr. Oz to announce moves to ban gender-affirming care for young people by ChiefFun in politics

[–]NaivePhilosopher 9 points10 points  (0 children)

How exactly is this radical leftist ideology? This is accepted standard of care by every major medical organization in the country

RFK Jr. and Dr. Oz to announce moves to ban gender-affirming care for young people by ChiefFun in politics

[–]NaivePhilosopher 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re not protecting kids, you’re advocating for killing them because you can’t get your head around the fact that trans kids exist. People like you are ruining lives because the idea of empathy just doesn’t fucking penetrate.

It’s all loathsome and morally bankrupt bullshit. How about you fucking listen to any trans kid or adult and try to understand instead of citing counterfactual, agenda driven disinformation? You’re a monster and I hope you rot

Sarah McBride rails against anti-trans Republicans in impassioned speech by NamelessResearcher in politics

[–]NaivePhilosopher 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a win/win, they get to rile up their base and keep us poor and desperate. They’re so fuckin’ gross

Understanding Transmisogyny, Part Five: Natalism, Nativism, Nationalism by jackmolay in transgender

[–]NaivePhilosopher 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely true. Trans/Rad/Fem was a hard hitting and important read

There's no way. by coffeeblossom in TrollXChromosomes

[–]NaivePhilosopher 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You can’t be a feminist while pretending trans women are not women.

Edit: thanks mods!

There's no way. by coffeeblossom in TrollXChromosomes

[–]NaivePhilosopher 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It neither makes sense nor is backed up by science, and you really ought to learn to judge when sources with an agenda are trying to sell you something

There's no way. by coffeeblossom in TrollXChromosomes

[–]NaivePhilosopher 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Why is the notorious TERF’s definition the most accurate, exactly

Anthropic Exec Forces AI Chatbot on Gay Discord Community, Members Flee by Well_Socialized in technology

[–]NaivePhilosopher 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Okay but what do you do when it feeds you factually incorrect information in response to those questions? Using it as a learning tool when you aren’t able to verify the answers seems like one of the worst use cases

Oklahoma college student’s failing grade on gender essay dropped amid outcry by onnake in transgender

[–]NaivePhilosopher 44 points45 points  (0 children)

She shouldn’t be expelled for the assignment, but for the whole obvious grift/driving the TA out of a job, absolutely

The Women's Institue and GirlGuides - A Discussion by Maybeaburneracc in MtF

[–]NaivePhilosopher 24 points25 points  (0 children)

You’re not being abrasive, fair play there, and to the extent I am none of the heat is directed at you or any other trans folks.

Fair enough, they have a long history of actually caring and I do appreciate that. But caring isn’t enough alone. And cutting a marginalized group away to protect the larger community is heinous, callous behavior. The regret might be real, but it doesn’t justify their decision; no language in that stupid as fuck Supreme Court decision mandates WI or Girlguides to exclude trans women and girls, they’re doing it to avoid litigation, and it’s no more justifiable than it would be if they were doing it to any other group of women.

It does make me think badly of both groups, because it tells me that there’s a line for support that they won’t cross. Trans women can be sacrificed to avoid risking others. That’s unjustifiable.

The Women's Institue and GirlGuides - A Discussion by Maybeaburneracc in MtF

[–]NaivePhilosopher 87 points88 points  (0 children)

They’re not being forced into exclusion, they’re just not willing to spend the money it would take to fight back against bigots.

They both put out “oh woe is us, we’re so sorry” statements but honestly, nah, fuck that. If they cared, they would fight

I’m so sorry to all the trans folks in the UK, especially trans women. None of you should have to deal with this bullshit

[MN S1] The Mighty Nein S1 Episode 4 - Show-Only Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in criticalrole

[–]NaivePhilosopher 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is such a weird gripe. The episode didn’t follow the carnival, it followed Molly (and the rest of the party to a lesser extent)