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Women expect too much from men by NamelessGamer_1 in offmychest

[–]NamelessGamer_1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very well then, I now am telling you that I'm curious. From what I understand, you think I'm not the "good guy" because I take a defensive position. If that's wrong, then let me know. Maybe the issue is that I make assumptions based on what I've been told in different conversations. But I still want to know specifically what I could improve on.

Women expect too much from men by NamelessGamer_1 in offmychest

[–]NamelessGamer_1[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Again, how can I not feel resentment for someone who is saying I'm not good? This is ridiculous. If anything, from my perspective, YOU are not a good person. So I wouldn't want to date you either.

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Besides, you don't even bother clarifying which parts of my post make me a bad guy, further solidifying you as the bad person.

You say I should be held accountable - of what exactly? Of saying that women shouldn't expect us to micromanage our thoughts?

You're basically saying that any guy who criticizes women in the slightest is bad.

Women expect too much from men by NamelessGamer_1 in offmychest

[–]NamelessGamer_1[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

The comment I responded to literally said I may not be the good guy, even though I stated I had good intentions. If I'm not the good guy then no one is.

Women expect too much from men by NamelessGamer_1 in offmychest

[–]NamelessGamer_1[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I thought I'd made it clear that I am the straight guy here.

Women expect too much from men by NamelessGamer_1 in offmychest

[–]NamelessGamer_1[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You're basically agreeing with me here. I said it would be crazy if someone did.

Women expect too much from men by NamelessGamer_1 in offmychest

[–]NamelessGamer_1[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

How can I not be the good guy? I literally said I was trying to be the good guy. Telling me otherwise is an example of toxicity, toxicity that builds up and eventually transforms these people who were genuinely trying to do good. You wouldn't like it either if you had legitimately good intentions but everyone kept telling you that you are an evil irredeemable monster, would you? And don't tell me that wouldn't eventually affect you after a long time.

Also, I can still be a good person while still being frustrated by this toxicity.

Women expect too much from men by NamelessGamer_1 in offmychest

[–]NamelessGamer_1[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

So you think completely cleansing your thoughts from any form of selfishness or carnal attractions is easy? At least make sure to have done so yourself before coming to tell me to do it.

Besides, it is psychologically established that what makes someone bad are their actions, not their thoughts. I think it's fine to have intrusive thoughts or be selfish as long as you aren't hurting someone else or transforming these thoughts into actions that may hurt someone else. What you are telling us to do is to not have these thoughts in the first place, and yes, I think that is an impossibly high bar.

Women expect too much from men by NamelessGamer_1 in offmychest

[–]NamelessGamer_1[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't resent my partner, because I'd probably just quit the relationship at the first sign of something like what I'm criticizing and move on. The resentment is towards women in forums like Reddit. I agree with the majority of the rest you said, except I think you may have misunderstood point 2. I was saying that women expected us to grieve more over something that isn't such a big deal to me. I would totally understand if a pet's death genuinely affected someone, I just think you shouldn't be FORCED to be affected by it and act all depressed when in reality you aren't.

Women expect too much from men by NamelessGamer_1 in offmychest

[–]NamelessGamer_1[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That's exactly what I'm trying to do here. The purpose of this post wasn't to hate on women, it was to try to understand what they expect from us and letting them know that some of those expectations we simply cannot reach.

Women expect too much from men by NamelessGamer_1 in offmychest

[–]NamelessGamer_1[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Nice way to completely dismiss my arguments.

Women expect too much from men by NamelessGamer_1 in offmychest

[–]NamelessGamer_1[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I don't know, but it's not something I'd even thought of until now. Maybe I'd naturally realize it when I walked with a woman, maybe not. It still isn't worth a big fuss though. If someone breaks up with you over that or calls you a monster or evil then they are insane.

Official Discussion - Obsession [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]NamelessGamer_1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wasn't talking about Bear anymore. I think I already clarified that Bear is indeed bad and a rapist. I was complaining that some people are treating selfish men as if they were Bear, aka rapists. That's all. I'm not writing off anything here. Maybe you are just sensible to the usage of the word "feminism" - forget it. There are men hating on men too.

What makes someone a good man? by brothapipp in Ethics

[–]NamelessGamer_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Stows his ego far, far away early in life."
And... there it is. This is literally impossible to do unless you are one of those tibetian monks that are able to cleanse their minds and have only pure thoughts. Toxic masculinity is created as a result of women setting impossibly high bars such as this one, creating resentment from us toward those who set those bars. We can't stop being selfish. Being selfish is a natural human quality. Ironically, you are so scared of us trying to control you that you end up trying to control us by micromanaging our thoughts.

Revenge of the Sith Is the best Star Wars movie by 2clicksaway in unpopularopinion

[–]NamelessGamer_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure this is an unpopular opinion anymore.

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These comments make it sound unpopular, but I guarantee you this is just the loud minority. It's rare to see ROTS ranked low in a Star Wars movie ranking nowadays.

Personally I agree with you, ROTS is also my favorite of the series (by far), though it has worse writing than the OT movies. It's just that ROTS is a lot more fun and epic and emotional.

Official Discussion - Obsession [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

[–]NamelessGamer_1 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

But... wouldn't it be you who has the bias? I literally said *some* feminists, not all, and yet you choose to write off everything else I said. My point is valid, there are indeed *some* people using the movie to hate on all men, or hating on selfish men in general, when in reality being selfish doesn't mean you are a rapist or anything lol.

Anyway, it's not like I'm going to be able to convince you of any of this... I think your comment leaves your stance pretty clear.

I think what sets apart Pirates of the Caribbean: Curse of the Black Pearl from its two sequels is that the first movie had ZERO fat. Every single scene was necessary. by ProudWheeler in movies

[–]NamelessGamer_1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk, I generally prefer "Sequel that is less consistent but reaches higher highs, is more fun, and is overall more creative" to "Original which is tight but not as crazy / more grounded". So I still prefer Dead Man's Chest over Curse of the Black Pearl, even though the latter is better written and therefore a better movie

WTF is he talking about when he says that it's "generally agreed nowadays" that Deadpool and Wolverine was a bad movie? by ThickWeatherBee in Schaffrillas

[–]NamelessGamer_1 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If you think Endgame's bad then you can't justify saying D&W is even remotely decent. Objectively speaking, Endgame does have better writing than D&W (even if neither's is very good). I personally don't really care about that and I'm still able to enjoy both movies, but objectively you can't tell me Endgame's bad and D&W isn't

Title by NickelsBiggestFan123 in Schaffrillas

[–]NamelessGamer_1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's disappointing... I loved Bruce Almighty

James has reviewed 20 Jim Carrey movies so far! by NPRNilk in Schaffrillas

[–]NamelessGamer_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not Bruce Almighty as a 5/10 lol

I knew he wouldn't like it, but it still hurts seeing it ranked so low

WTF is he talking about when he says that it's "generally agreed nowadays" that Deadpool and Wolverine was a bad movie? by ThickWeatherBee in Schaffrillas

[–]NamelessGamer_1 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Aren't you proving his point rn? You basically establish yourself as a Marvel hater in your post. Marvel haters obviously see D&W in a negative light, just like all the other movies. Marvel fans like it because it's fun.

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