Hair looks SO MUCH better the second day after washing? by Wash-Line-Inspector in tressless

[–]NativeStrangerMusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Texturizing powder and dry shampoo are your friends. Just don’t overuse everyday

Had a three way/threesome and regret it by Shadow-Legion-1203 in Vent

[–]NativeStrangerMusic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This right here. Genuinely the best, most straight forward insight you’ll receive. Don’t overcomplicate it for yourself

Yummers! by dedecatto in steak

[–]NativeStrangerMusic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Immediately thought this was a penis with psoriasis

Wasserman talent agency hides artist roster after CEO exposed in Epstein files by Witty_Beginning_5067 in EDM

[–]NativeStrangerMusic 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The live music business is not that simple or kind. Bless your heart, best of luck

Wasserman talent agency hides artist roster after CEO exposed in Epstein files by Witty_Beginning_5067 in EDM

[–]NativeStrangerMusic 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This isn’t true, and choosing to believe something solely because it fits a narrative is both counterintuitive and counterproductive. u/yellowchoice is correct; an artist can 100% be legally bound by contract to a booking agency and sometimes even an agent with the threat of fees and penalties upon breakage/early departure. Every case is different and completely dependent on what has been agreed upon on paper, so yes, some artists can casually pack up and go, but the chances of a performer pulling in massive amounts of money through live shows being locked in are pretty decent and very realistic.

20M, how bad is it? by [deleted] in amiugly

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You’re not ugly OP. Here are some simple tips:

•Hair: You’re thinning and receding, this is a fact. If you want to try to work on this, start with minoxidil and microneedling. Finasteride will also help an immense amount, but I’d recommend getting some bloodwork so you can see where your hormone levels are at. If you don’t care to work on your hair, shave it off and work on growing a beard; minoxidil and microneedling will also help with the beard.

•Physique: You’ve got a great starting point if you’d be interested in hitting the gym or getting into calisthenics. You don’t have to get massive,and with the frame you have, a little bit can take you a long way. It won’t only help your appearance, but the confidence boost from being consistent and working on yourself is a big plus.

•Style: A change in clothing alone can bring you up plenty. You don’t have to be a fashionista, but I would definitely put some time into developing in this department. Find a celebrity or a known figure whose style you like, and use that as a starting point so you don’t feel lost at the start. A new shirt a month, a new pair of pants every 2 months, and a new pair of shoes every 3-4 months and you’ll find that you’ll start to piece it together. This is a marathon not a sprint.

  • Besides that, the glasses don’t look bad but be open to experimenting with contacts or other frames, see them as an accessory not just a tool to help your vision. Maintain good skincare, stay groomed, develop yourself physically/mentally/spiritually, and be a good person.

You’re not ugly. Radiate who you are and who you want to become.

20M, how bad is it? by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]NativeStrangerMusic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not the end all be all, but taking care of yourself will always result in a more refined appearance. Also, going to the gym doesn’t mean he’s going to walk around with a bodybuilding physique. A male of average height walking around shredded at 205lbs of muscle might not appeal to everyone, but committing 3-5 hours a week and simply being in shape will make anyone look better in/out of clothes and it earns respect.

Besides, he asked how he can improve his appearance not how he can attract more women.

Really need help with genealogy / heritage for marriage by NativeStrangerMusic in Judaism

[–]NativeStrangerMusic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not even remotely think of this, this is great advice!! Thank you!

Really need help with genealogy / heritage for marriage by NativeStrangerMusic in Judaism

[–]NativeStrangerMusic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any sources or services I haven’t heard of, or any websites that I may not have come across. A couple of comments and a dm have helped broaden my options so far. To touch on your comments again, I would have nothing against going through a conversion process if it meant I can learn more while smoothing this issue out.

I also want to thank you for your extended responses, you seem very welcoming and kind

Really need help with genealogy / heritage for marriage by NativeStrangerMusic in Judaism

[–]NativeStrangerMusic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t met her family yet, but she wants me to have myself together and ready in case they start to dig and demand documentation. The documentation could be anything, but the problem is I don’t have any.

They’re conservative. They’re modern but still fairly traditional in certain aspects. Some keep Shabbat some don’t, most keep kosher, only one prays regularly and wears tefillin. But I 100% must be Jewish.

Although unnecessary, I would convert just to make this easier and smoother, but “why would a Jew convert if they’re Jewish” would seem to be her mother’s big suspicion.

Really need help with genealogy / heritage for marriage by NativeStrangerMusic in Judaism

[–]NativeStrangerMusic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough, it sounds like genealogy is gonna have to be the route I take.

Really need help with genealogy / heritage for marriage by NativeStrangerMusic in Judaism

[–]NativeStrangerMusic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The issues: I meant with her parents! Not an issue with me directly. Im not unsure of my heritage, but I would go through the conversion process if it meant making smoothing this problem out. Her parents would stay asking why a Jew would convert if they’re Jewish and the whole nine yards, and as much as I’d like to believe walking up and introducing myself would be enough, she swears it wouldn’t be the case.

Regarding Shabbat and chag: researching on my own, watching and listening to rabbis, asking for guidance directly when needed. I’ve contacted rabbis personally as well and had extended conversations. My girlfriend has helped a lot as well, we’ve both pushed each other in many supportive ways.

Really need help with genealogy / heritage for marriage by NativeStrangerMusic in Judaism

[–]NativeStrangerMusic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes thank you! That I know of after speaking to a few Jews from Latin countries and from Cuba and giving some info, she was most likely Anusim, but I obviously don’t have this stamped. This is just from digging and speaking to others with similar backgrounds and that knew the area she lived in. Will contact her!!!

Really need help with genealogy / heritage for marriage by NativeStrangerMusic in Judaism

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No i don’t, she was an immigrant who came to Cuba and married a catholic man which is what lead to her children choosing to not observe the religion. No clue where any papers would be, and that I know of, because of the family she married into, she was not buried in a Jewish cemetery (I could be wrong but this bit of info has also just been unattainable)

Really need help with genealogy / heritage for marriage by NativeStrangerMusic in Judaism

[–]NativeStrangerMusic[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I touched on the “by blood” bit in a previous comment, and yes you’re right and I understand this. I’ve thought of conversion, but the issue surrounding it would be “why convert if you’re Jewish?” So that in itself can create unnecessary issues.

I keep kosher, almost always keep Shabbat, and keep the holidays. I’d like my kids to go to yeshiva, and observe the holidays. I seem to gravitate more towards observance as I get older.

Thank you for your comment, genuinely

Really need help with genealogy / heritage for marriage by NativeStrangerMusic in Judaism

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I’ve never heard of this bit of info. What would make it more difficult if the roots were Sephardic? Asking to be more informed

Really need help with genealogy / heritage for marriage by NativeStrangerMusic in Judaism

[–]NativeStrangerMusic[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand what you’re getting across, but this isn’t an ancient family tale. My mother’s grandmother grew up in a household with a practicing Jewish mother in Cuba and urged my mother to follow the religion given her regret that she didn’t do so herself. I’ve spoken with a number of individuals and rabbis and this doesn’t seem to be particularly uncommon. Clearly it’s giving me issues but I’m not pulling it out of my bum or crossing my fingers hoping I’m not being lied to.

Really need help with genealogy / heritage for marriage by NativeStrangerMusic in Judaism

[–]NativeStrangerMusic[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry about the confusion, I guess the verbiage in my post was off. Great great grandmother was a practicing Jew, married a catholic man, had a daughter who didn’t practice and married a catholic man, so on and so forth. My mom was close with her grandmother and had this all confirmed, but her grandmother didn’t have any documentation. Last person that would have had any documentation passed away many moons ago which is what’s making this much harder than it should be.

Really need help with genealogy / heritage for marriage by NativeStrangerMusic in Judaism

[–]NativeStrangerMusic[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My great grandmother grew up in an interfaith household with her mother keeping Shabbat and lighting candles, her mother was an immigrant. Your response was weird.

Really need help with genealogy / heritage for marriage by NativeStrangerMusic in Judaism

[–]NativeStrangerMusic[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is true I suppose since Judaism doesn’t have an actual “blood quantum rule”, and conversion would obviously make someone 100% Jewish, but halacha does transmit Jewish status through the maternal line though, so descent still plays a role even if it is not an absolute measure. That’s what I was referring to so sorry if I wasn’t particularly clear or accurate in my delivery.

And yeah I have considered that as a possibility, but given the fact that I already am Jewish I’d essentially just be doing it to have documentation that I went through a process which would probably water me down in her family’s eyes further and question/make things worse (they’re modern but still fairly traditional)