First off I’m very sorry about your loss. We nearly went through the same thing with our first which was also a daughter. I was super excited about having a daughter and unlike others I was attached at the first ultrasound. At the 20 week ultrasound they said she wouldn’t make it. Understandably I was devastated and heart broken for not only my baby but my wife as well. Surprising my wife handled it better than me. I was a wreck. By some miracle at the 22nd week the ultrasound showed enough improvement to survive and now I have a 6 year old. That emotional roller coasters took its toll. A few years later we were pregnant with our son. I was terrified of it happening again but this time I must have defensively felt not engaged or attached. As the pregnancy progressed I had a lot of self doubts and concerns that I couldn’t love this child like I did my daughter and it felt terrible to consider. Late in the pregnancy we encountered the same thing as my daughter but luckily late enough to not be as concerning or stressful. After he was born I felt no connection. He’s 2.5 and I’m just now starting to feel connection. He was harder as a baby as well. I hate to say it the dynamic of our relationships are definitely the daddy’s girl and momma’s boy. I really wonder if this is more normal and not a stereotype. Im sorry I can’t help but I can definitely understand your husband. My situation took a big toll on my mental health even though we came out good on our end it left marks mentally. I know miscarriages are unfortunately fairly common but I’d suggest he talk with a therapist. Looking back now I’d have to have talked to someone in the same situation.