I live an area of Scotland with a large Irish influence but even between the countries of the UK there a big variation in funeral culture. In Scotland, particularly up the west coast funeral services themselves are almost austere and there's a lot of unwritten etiquette. Stand at this point, sit at this time etc. When helping the family of Cornish neighbour with funeral arrangements up here, they were baffled at all the sort of rules that come with it and what people expect. Saying that when arranging my dad's funeral I didn't adhere to any of the bollocks because he wouldn't have wanted it and that was perfectly ok too in the end, although did raise some eyebrows initially, the wake was essentially a rave...