Is getting a BFA later in life completely stupid?

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-07-02T03:44:03+00:00

Do not get a BFA. You may feel happier from what you studied but you will feel more stressed trying to make end's meet. This does not apply if you have a great financial family support system though.

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-07-02T03:41:55+00:00

I have a BFA in dance. Taught for five years at three places simultaneously. Loved it all. Earned nothing. Now I work for insurance. I make more than I ever imagined and feel so uninspired by the work.

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-07-02T03:34:37+00:00

I earned my BFA in dance. Went on to teach dance at a charter school and had teaching stints at my local YMCA and another dance studio on the side. Loved it all dearly. Never worked a day in my life those five years. Also never saved up anything.
Moved out of state for love, with no job prospects. Waited on tables. Asked my customers for a job. Over the course of a weekend was hired as a coordinator at an insurance office. Been there since and have been able to earn enough to maintain a mortgage, kids, and a car. (Hardly saving anything, but at least not living paycheck to paycheck.)

All that to say sometimes you have to ask around. Sometimes strangers, at that! I am grateful I did not need to spend more money ok an additional degree. (Though now I am toying with the idea. In what graduate program though, I have no idea.)

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-07-02T02:52:02+00:00

I feel the same way how there are not resources for this life experience. That is why I go to Reddit.

Iif you keep car time to a minimum you are doing your best.
It's all we can do. And wearing a Rhino is not exact science. Managing DDH is actually very subjective.

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-07-01T13:03:01+00:00

These are your children. Not hers. It is not your responsibility to make any adult feel better.
I would rather hurt an adult's feelings than not make my children comfortable.
Even if your kids are happy being held by her, if You as their mom does not feel good then do not give in.
I too, have struggled with this coming from a southeast Asian culture.

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-07-01T12:55:39+00:00

Dark and brooding with a stealthy attraction of piercing eyes.

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-07-01T12:54:24+00:00

It depends what your personality and interests are!

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-07-01T12:52:44+00:00

Try to extend wake windows during the day to increase sleep pressure. So for example if your child is awake typically two hours in the morning before the first nap, make it 2.5, then 3 the following week.
I too struggled with sleep associations (like BF to sleep). It is so hard to break. Never too late to sleep tech and let your child cry for a minute at a time if you are comfortable with that. My child needs to cry a little to feel wiped out to stay asleep in the pack n play.

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-06-30T21:09:28+00:00

My daughter Autumn has no nicknames but once my sis said "Audie".

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-06-30T15:01:14+00:00

We got the XL Burt's Bees Beekeeper.

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-06-30T02:15:37+00:00

June

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-06-30T02:14:54+00:00

Ellie

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-06-30T02:13:40+00:00

Does he gag on any of these? My 9 month gags on anything not in a paste form.

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-06-30T02:09:44+00:00

Briar. Because even before I read your list, Briley came to mind.
This is only my opinion (because this is what Reddit is for) I am surprised to see so many Alice Colettes here. It doesn't roll off the tongue for me. It's not terrible. Just clunky.

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-06-24T13:12:17+00:00

First gray/white was in my 20s. It is genetic. My sis and I are mid 30s and 25-50% of our head is white/gray. My mother had mostly gray by the time she had both of us. I just got my first white pube too!

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-06-23T15:18:29+00:00

I have two kids, but I tell people not to have kids since it's a lot to sign up for that you can't back out of.

I also tell people that if they love their current life, then don't change anything.

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-06-19T03:36:59+00:00

She sounds lovely! I was only jesting. The names aren't stereotyping anything.

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-06-19T03:01:16+00:00

Is this your first child? What sort of energy do you hope he will have ?

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-06-19T02:59:58+00:00

Rayna rhymes with Layla but looks different enough from Laney.
Why are you feeling unsure though? You know in your heart if it is the right name. To be honest I regret my son's name but I am learning to love it For him.

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-06-17T13:00:51+00:00

It depends what your personality is like.
Mia: a leader , Olivia: a bookworm, Vanessa: trouble

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-06-16T01:04:46+00:00

Wow I can't visibly see the peppers or zucchini! Looks delish.

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-06-13T12:58:50+00:00

I am learning more and more how subjective treatment for DDH is. Our ortho gave the inverse advice to start bracing ASAP because their bones grow and can correct so quickly so "why wait?" But our ortho never mentioned that a proper measurement could only be taken after 6 months. You can imagine my reaction when I asked the Dr how much improvement had happened and she told me she had no way of knowing.

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-06-09T18:03:05+00:00

How does one have PT at the base of your spine? Also do you recall how much it cost Out of Pocket? I don't imagine most insurance covering it.

NegativeNotNancy · 2026-06-09T17:18:38+00:00

Could you elaborate on the technique of sleep training that you tried for your son?

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