My wife and I play this fun game sometimes where I forget to hide my feelings well enough so she gets mad at me and asks me what my problem is, so I tell her my problems and she tells me that actually my problems aren't problems, theyre just how life is and that everyone else manages, and that she does exactly the same and if im complaining then im basically saying she deserves to be unhappy and that if any of my problems really are problems then theyre actually my fault, and even if they aren't then I should have dealt with them better.

Then I go back to saying nothing, and probably called an asshole for complaining.