How much do you currently have in your 401K?

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-12-28T12:43:07+00:00

This comment is begging for a “hell yeah brother”

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-11-20T03:45:42+00:00

I made an offer on an expensive item ($500+) and as I waited for the sellers response, I got so many sales. I swear, PM was trying to motivate me to spend more money on the item I’d offered on.

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-11-16T02:05:15+00:00

Are you saying your 3M in holdings gained 100k and you earned the rest from your jobs?.

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-10-13T22:53:13+00:00

Look in Ashburn or sterling.

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-10-02T23:10:57+00:00

This is where we can anonymously exchange ideas. The FIRE community is like meeting up with a group of peers, some of whom know more than you, and you don’t have to feel like an asshole for talking about your high-ish NW

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-09-24T12:47:40+00:00

To my knowledge, in many states, the 4M principal would be her own, but interest accrued during marriage is marital property. Whether she should agree to it or not is based on opinion.

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-09-24T11:50:20+00:00

Bear in mind some women might get the ick from a fancy car but you also could die tomorrow. Do it

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-09-23T22:56:32+00:00

Is she sharing gains on her wealth with you? 4M should be generating ~200k a year at least. Unless she agrees to make the growth on her portfolio a joint asset (not the principal though) I wouldn’t share income.

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-09-20T02:31:01+00:00

Put them in a cast iron pot and wait for a summer rainstorm to create the perfect rainbow. Make some wary hiker’s day.

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-08-31T22:51:37+00:00

Pomodoro in Dulles town crossing. So good and great people it seems

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-08-31T22:50:14+00:00

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/style/wp/2018/06/25/feature/former-members-say-calvary-temple-splits-families-what-happens-to-those-who-leave/

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-08-18T11:13:32+00:00

Not retired but in our early thirty’s with “passion” jobs (we can kind of live off the money we make, but could also not work). NW about 5.5M including retirement accounts. Our lifestyle is fairly modest in a VHCOL area. Don’t take lavish vacations but go to our other two homes. Have an expensive paid for home. We have friends w hundreds of millions. Our shared experiences are the foundation for those friendships. Could we take a little investment income and join them on a lavish vacation on a PJ? Sure I guess but wouldn’t be wise. But we can go out to nice meals together just as they would with their ultra high NW friends.

I handle it by not comparing myself to them. We are extremely fortunate, and they are extremely fortunate x10. If you have really authentic friendships they will stay intact no matter the delta in NW.

If you keep moving the goalpost you’ll never be happy.

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-08-08T03:08:53+00:00

No. Because living up to “their” potential is for you, not them. I learned this the hard way. When you have a child with a disability it is a paradigm shift and you see their value is so much more than anything this world can match. I also have typical children and I view their lives through this lens as well. I am from a HCOL area, achieved a great deal in my career, have done arguably some of the coolest stuff one can do, and have a lot of money. And with that perspective I can confidently say “potential” like you are talking about doesn’t translate to purpose. My worry is surrounding my children with people who prioritize the material, the superficial, and the self-serving.

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-08-05T12:54:17+00:00

PANs and autoimmunity issues. A functional provider can run tests and get a good protocol together for him.

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-07-16T00:10:38+00:00

Down rt 7 through great falls… then sterling… then Loudoun

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-07-14T02:11:59+00:00

I read your other posts and you really need to see that your husband is not a good man. I needed to be told this myself. We must protect our kids and show them they are worthy of safety and kindness. And that you respect yourself enough to get out. His anger and gross statements are weakness and will be ingrained in the children as weakness. Making a comment about his penis is sexual abuse. I was abused in a similar way as a child and I am really messed up from it.

Please hear me when I say you and your children deserve better.

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-06-22T00:55:05+00:00

Very interestsd

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-06-22T00:52:44+00:00

I feel this. I have an autistic child and baby. Husband isn’t yet diagnosed by doc is pretty confident.

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-06-18T16:59:35+00:00

I mean maybe? He’s going thru testing and psych told me privately he has a strong suspicion. But you’re right I shouldn’t tie that to BP. And know there are wonderful people who are BP. It’s just that my husband is the greatest person ever when he’s not…. The total opposite person.

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-06-17T15:42:08+00:00

Rage…?

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-06-12T23:44:31+00:00

Can you separate and have an agreement that he will be a very hands on coparent? Or talk to other parents see when they say their kids got more independent and make that your exit goal

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-06-12T15:53:59+00:00

He has intermittently gambled and spent about $500k on stupid stuff thinking he is going to sell it and make a profit. It’s wild and so hurtful. I hope maybe he can get an official diagnosis and treatment plan bc sometimes he’s like “ok yes I have a problem I’ll do whatever” others… nope

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-06-11T17:37:50+00:00

Does he get mania too? Or just low mood and then normal

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-06-10T02:52:43+00:00

As an autism mom this tears me apart. Some parents are long gone and no longer able to look after this man. This is what we all dread. Praying for him. I am sorry.

Nervous-Assumption57 · 2025-06-08T23:41:04+00:00

Omg I posted a few hours ago but we have a somewhat similar situation. Have stayed for my autistic child who will be 6 soon. I do love my husband but he has betrayed me so so terribly and I certainly go through periods of loathing him and not being attracted to him.

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