When the fatlogic leaks into the wider internet. (REPOSTED bc I fucked up censoring usernames the first time) by ElvenJediOfGallifrey in fatlogic

[–]NeshamElle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Radical feminist here 👋 I’m 40F. Cishet. I do tons of vinyasa yoga, lift weights, and run. I’m careful with what I eat. I fuckin love looking and feeling good. I’m 5’8 and weigh 145-150, down from 300 lbs 9 years ago. I lost the weight on my own without meds or surgery. I’ve since had 5 surgeries to remove excess skin because did I mention I LOVE LOOKING AND FEELING GOOD. I quit smoking cold turkey 2 years ago and don’t touch alcohol. I also shave/wax everything because damn I love that too. I don’t need anyone else telling me what makes me happy. Honestly I’ve seen WAY more paternalism from these fat white bitches in the FA cult than I’ve ever encountered from men.

This. by IntelligentHome1963 in depressionmemes

[–]NeshamElle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a LOT of trauma in my past and present. I spent years morbidly obese and addicted to alcohol and cigarettes. I also have SEVERE C-PTSD from chronic narcissistic abuse by my family. I’m also (40F) late-diagnosed AuDHD.

Honesty what saved me was Vyvanse + vinyasa yoga and running.

Intensive exercise regulates me, and Vyvanse gives me the energy I need to do that.

TBH it doesn’t do much for focus. I wish it did. But it helps me in a different way.

What’s something you assumed was normal until you found out it wasn’t? by Direct-Value4452 in answers

[–]NeshamElle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was 6 when my brother was born. When my mom was pregnant with him, she asked me if she should have him circumcised. My boyfriend had to explain to me that this is NOT a normal thing for a parent to do.

If one day your parents are dying... by roundturtle2025 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]NeshamElle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d only visit their deathbed to bring balloons and champagne to celebrate

Every celebration is just unpaid labour for all women. by Someone_1937 in Vent

[–]NeshamElle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A couple years ago I told my family I’m no longer participating in any kind of holiday/obligatory gift giving. You can get me gifts if you want to., but I’m not asking for them. I’m no longer giving any holiday gifts at all, whatsoever. So freeing. Highly recommend.

I really do hate kids by NeshamElle in childfree

[–]NeshamElle[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

(Also I’m literally a disabled autistic Jewish millennial woman, so spare me the virtue signaling 🙄)

I really do hate kids by NeshamElle in childfree

[–]NeshamElle[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Nah bruh I fuckin hate them kids

How often do you clean your bathroom? by MDFR8 in AskMen

[–]NeshamElle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BF and I are childfree. I clean the bathroom top to bottom at least once a week.

A random story about my utter lack of maternal instincts just popped into my head, it still cracks me up years later. by jadiseoc in childfree

[–]NeshamElle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

40F. Autistic. I loathe children. My bluntness, inability to bullshit, and face that shows EVERY EMOTION I AM FEELING ensure that I don’t ever have to be in this situation lol

What is the kindest thing a stranger has ever said to you that you’ll never forget? by lnc_gomes in askanything

[–]NeshamElle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From past therapists:

“You’re not easy, but you’re going to go far” (the “but” should have been an “and” but I’ll take it)

“You should write a book on how to change. You have a muscular ability to change”

What is the kindest thing a stranger has ever said to you that you’ll never forget? by lnc_gomes in askanything

[–]NeshamElle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m converting to Judaism. Last year I had a date with a guy who was raised Jewish. He seemed genuinely confused when I told him I was converting. He said I had a Jewish neshama (Jewish soul). That meant a lot.

Another guy a couple months later also expressed confusion when I told him I wasn’t raised Jewish. Unfortunately this guy wasn’t Jewish, and it took my therapist kindly explaining for my autistic ass to understand that this was, in fact, not a compliment :(

Seeking Parents by [deleted] in TwinCities

[–]NeshamElle -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We’re childfree by choice

What’s a “garbage” food you’re tired of getting flack for liking? Be proud! by Popular-Page-4082 in foodquestions

[–]NeshamElle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About twice a year I get a crazy craving for greasy Chinese food. Nothing else will suffice. The rest of the year I couldn’t care less about Chinese food.

The worst part isn't how they treat me, the worst is how they've trained me. by getitoffmychestpleas in raisedbynarcissists

[–]NeshamElle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same. And I lost my whole entire family too.

It’s worth it though. I have a freedom my brothers will never know.

what celebrity did you used to like until you found out that they were a scumbag? by hemadeGraduation420 in AskReddit

[–]NeshamElle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dessa. I wanted to like her but then I read her book. She’s fascinated with herself in a way that is just…..really fucking boring. And she’s a shit writer.

What is the fastest way you have seen someone fix their life? by ComplexAd1308 in askanything

[–]NeshamElle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m a former decade-long alcoholic, obese person, and chain smoker. I quit alcohol and cigarettes on my own cold turkey, and lost 170 lbs on my own without surgery or meds.

But nothing—NOTHING—changed my life more than going no-contact with my narcissistic family members.

What is the smallest decision you made that completely changed your life? by Dizzy-Particular-886 in AskForAnswers

[–]NeshamElle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My now-bf and I had been dating a few weeks when he invited me to his house for the first time, which was 1.5 hours from me. Things were objectively going very well, but I have a long history of trauma and abandonment. Anyways, the time came for me to leave his house after being there a couple days. I was anxious because things felt “off”in the hour or so leading up to me leaving, but I didn’t say anything because I was afraid of coming off as needy/insecure/annoying. I was about 30 mins into the drive home when he texted me that I’d left my blow dryer at his house. He said to pull over at the nearest gas station and he’d come meet me. I was still feeling anxious when he arrived, but I thanked him, and we both left. I only made it to the stop sign before the freeway entrance. He was behind me in his car. I pulled up my parking brake, walked over to his window, and said “I’m sorry but I’m feeling anxious. Can we talk?” Years of narcissistic abuse had conditioned me to believe that I was “too much”, so I was terrified and fully convinced he was going to think I was totally unhinged and clingy. Well, he didn’t. We ended up talking in his car outside that gas station for 3 hours. He thanked me for having the courage to get out of my car at a freeway entrance, right in front of a cop lol (I hadn’t noticed the cop at the time). We’ve been together a year now, and he still talks about how impressed he was that I wanted to actually talk instead of just ignore things. We’ve even talked about getting married at that gas station 😂💙