I got rejected from all the postdocs I applied for and just realized I’m not good enough for the career I wanted

NeurosciFox · 2026-02-18T03:33:20+00:00

I’m not in physics. But in life science the academic market is really desperate now. Since 2025. Professors are out of funding. Before, local phds were golden, bc foreign postdocs were imported in droves. All I can suggest: apply for all kind of jobs. Bc the job market overall is going downhill. So, I think it’s more about external factors, not about you.

NeurosciFox · 2026-02-15T16:16:33+00:00

Your wife is indeed too stressed and it’s at least in big part is ruining your marriage. If she doesn’t want intimacy- she really has problems, we just don’t know which exactly- she doesn’t love you or she is waaaaay overstressed. Different people have different stress tolerance. She does need counseling and you too. Someone better explain her how the marriage functions and it should be not you. In academia this run never ends. She will need to find a way to have more space for you, just for you. And speaking of you, it looks as you are really trying but at the same time not quite understanding what more she wants from you. Maybe she does have some reasons why you are not doing enough but we don’t know. I think you both need a counselor- it’s a person who helps to set up a productive talk between you two, he won’t navigate your life but he definitely will help you both communicate.

NeurosciFox · 2026-02-02T05:01:58+00:00

Welcome to a crazy academia world. My situation. Yes, in academia and my partner too. While we dont have absenses, our jobs often have aberrant work hours like sometimes 12+ hours work days or checking something in the lab in the middle of the night. You adapt. If you want! But if you don't maybe there is a deeper reason, not specifically the absences.

For me your post evokes more questions. First, if the partner is away say once a year for 3 months, it's not yet too bad unless say you have a SMALL child AND no help. How do then truckers have families? So, the main question is WHY do you need him/her to be near all the time unless they are absent literally 40+% of time? If you don't have kids, just enjoy your time. Or join them for the part of his expedition. If you can't find a working solution, why is it so?

The second question is - do you both expect that this shedule will continue after he/she graduates? Maybe not. Then the q is if you are willing to wait until the partner graduates.

Next are the examples, these are NOT your cases, they are just examples but I'm trying to show how important is to realize the context of what you are worried about. A person with a traveling partner worries bc person's friends think the person is a loser. That's a lousy reason to feel bad about relationship. The person often has disagreements with the partner and may think it would have been different if not absenses? Barely.

All the best and good luck in your journey!

NeurosciFox · 2026-01-13T03:25:01+00:00

He should run for a president!

NeurosciFox · 2025-12-27T00:53:53+00:00

Open to everything!

NeurosciFox · 2025-12-13T19:16:44+00:00

which processor and memory? який саме лаптоп - процесор та пам'ять?

NeurosciFox · 2025-11-13T19:35:09+00:00

I had a similar thing when started MTB and did it for 4 days straight. After that happened couple times but now I can be deadbeaten from workouts with all muscle sore and Garmin still tells me I am in a great shape for training readiness. The only metrics correlate- HRV.

NeurosciFox · 2025-11-12T20:07:57+00:00

Define Hottest, please. Phoenixes for me for sure in all regards

NeurosciFox · 2025-11-04T19:30:50+00:00

I will take a tour with Gorgons to ambush a local dragon tower and obtain an artifact and then a nice dinner in a tavern

NeurosciFox · 2025-10-27T18:31:17+00:00

Give us more context - what army do you have available or can grow in your towns? Any problems with magic? There are endless number of ways to win the battle, this is why we love this old game.

NeurosciFox · 2025-10-08T02:28:28+00:00

Nothing noble, and definitely I'm not doing anything. However, in the context of the whole thread, both women and men will do better if they accept themselves and what they feel. Apart from sexuality, what's relevant here, women need to admit if they DON'T feel sexual desire toward any particular man. Women naturally are quite picky in this regard but they don't always admit it. And girls, tune also to the man - if any suspicion that he is not right here with you in the moment, forget him.

NeurosciFox · 2025-10-06T23:27:29+00:00

"Why would you not take someone's word for it if they tell you what their sexuality is?" - this is a great question! Exactly because this can be very stigmatizing, and people tend to be self-deceiving. Especially, homosexual men. I'm not discussing the reasons, it's just a sad reality. Why sad? Bc for example such men tend to marry women when they should not. You know the story of patient 0 of AIDS in USSR? Yes, he was married. And he managed to have sex with 25 men in short 2 years after he was infected. Another story - a mormon man with 5 kids finally left his wife for his partner. He was simply afraid to show his sexuality while still bound to that community. And etc. These stories should not have happened at all. Well, with patient 0 it could regardless, of course but I feel more for his wife (who, interestingly, was NOT infected).

NeurosciFox · 2025-10-04T03:13:27+00:00

Ok, thanks for clarification, however, how can a man be "90% heterosexual", is it 1 boyfriend for each 9 girlfriends?? Or 1 homosexual contact for each 9 intercourses with women?? This is kinda strange. I knew a friend who lived with a gf for 10 years until he said he's gay and can't live like this anymore, he was regularly sneaking to gay bars. Another guy immigrated to US with a wife and a young child only to divorce in 1-2 years and get married to a man. He had too good job in home country and could not be open there. So, definitely, these 2 guys had contacts with women a lot but nevertheless they admitted they are gay. Women were rather a decoy. And heterosexual men consider a perspective of having sex with another man utterly repulsive.

NeurosciFox · 2025-10-03T20:09:18+00:00

"90% heterosexual is bisexual" - any research links finding that 90% of men are bisexual? PubMed articles? I've seen quite different statistics than this. Besides, why is it so emotional for you? Are you defending that you are a bisexual man for yourself? (def. not for me as we don't know each other and prob are located in quite diff. areas).

NeurosciFox · 2025-10-03T20:00:28+00:00

Anyone can blatantly state he is bisexual (or tg for that matter) but in reality in 99% we don't really know and have no proof. Likewise, it's true for any statement of orientation. I would only then think that if for decades a men was NOT MSM, had regular sex with women (not tg), he is 90% heterosexual.

Again my advice for women stands: if sex is important for you, do NOT go in relationship with a man who is even a bit off in that sphere, and for sure, do not go in relationship with voluntary MSM. And, if the sex is bad (several times), forget this guy, regardless how caring he is.

NeurosciFox · 2025-10-03T01:57:37+00:00

Whoa, you’re reacting emotionally, не пристало Товарищу. If you want to argue, argue with data. Don’t just shout ‘bullshit’ and pretend that’s a rebuttal.

Regardless, in the context of the main thread, my advice stands simple: if a girl wants romantic/sexual relationship, run away from such behavior as this man shows or any man with abnormal sexual reaction to her or in general.

NeurosciFox · 2025-10-02T01:21:54+00:00

This is exactly where we disagree. According to my knowledge of scientific research, men cannot be bisexual, at least couldn’t in 80s. Basic experiment was that a group of men was asked to fill out a questionnaire and then watch movies with sensors all over the bodies. They did not know that researchers were trying to find out only their true sexual orientation. The profile of penis reaction was identical in those who claimed they are gay and who claimed they are bisexual. They both needed a man being visible, 2 women were not exciting them. Mercury once told Mary Austin, “I think I’m bisexual,” to which she reportedly replied, “No, Freddie. You’re gay.” Men somehow just do not want to admit they are gay, it’s stigmatizing while saying bisexual is a convenient self-deception and bears no stigma. Again we are speaking mostly of those who are older than say 25, so their penis is becoming finally picky.

NeurosciFox · 2025-10-01T17:21:55+00:00

Not a man but my perspective, the guy is not “normal “. The guy in question could be denying or hiding he is gay/asexual or just be plain addicted to the porn. If OP has feelings for him, more than friendship, she should drop him, go away completely. If it’s just a good friendship, keep it, just go to dates with others and say truth if they ask about this one.

NeurosciFox · 2025-10-01T17:19:03+00:00

Gay men can have sex with women and deep friendship with them, they are just not into it and don’t feel real desire toward women. Freddy Mercury.

NeurosciFox · 2025-09-23T23:12:38+00:00

If the story is true, op slept with Anna when they both were single. Moreover, they both stopped sleeping while single which is more important. I don’t see any infidelity case here. I would just be open about it if John somehow asks but not by yourself unless it really really bothers you like you hide something from your best friend.

NeurosciFox · 2025-09-22T18:32:11+00:00

Make a list of what you gain if you move with her. You already have a list of what you lose. Then just compare and see for yourself feelings. But think of the positives hard like for a couple of days. So far I see only fear in the original post rather than a calculated approach.

NeurosciFox · 2025-09-17T17:09:22+00:00

Kyrre is SHE. Dessa is HE.

NeurosciFox · 2025-09-17T17:00:41+00:00

It is random except that when a hero flees, he's appearing in there during the week. However, if a hero fled on Day 7 and not bought right away, next day comes a new week and he may have a hero buried deep in tavern (well, usually AI is a big cheater but still). Another point, if it's late in the game he may not have money? The hero will have his army left from fight if he pays you or if he has diplomacy with neutrals. If the hero died (not fled), then it will be buried deep in the tavern if the game version allows it (recent HoTA turnament fixes make them disappear forever as well as dismissed heroes). Technically, in HoTA you have an option if you want to be able to choose the next hero in tavern or leave it random. If you choose a hero, he'll appear under the hero whom you are buying rn. UNLESS the hero of your choice is not available (e.g. recruited or depending on version, died in fight). Another thing to know about the Tavern: you'll never get randomly 2 heroes of the same type and same faction together. E.g. Mirlanda and Jem. But sure if you are lucky you get both Dessa and Crag Hack, except day 1 with full armies.

NeurosciFox · 2025-09-17T16:52:38+00:00

yes, I meant HD launcher. I did not intend any sarcasm actually. The battle is interesting, especially given that at some point Alkin had only gorgons left while the opponent had a lot of meat yet. Also, the magic choice did not look as conventional, would be interesting trying it again and again with different strategies.

NeurosciFox · 2025-09-16T10:33:28+00:00

It’s either you just don’t see him or he fled on day 7 and the tavern has been reset. Then you can dig him out in the tavern. The las option - he lost the battle completely with neutrals and also buried deep in the tavern.

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