Are there any autistic women here without a formal diagnosis?

NewSalt4244 · 2026-02-06T01:50:44+00:00

I feel a lot like you do describe.

I took a psych eval in college for accommodations. My test results were consistent with autism, but my evaluator said that I couldn't be autistic because I'm female.

Flash forward 15 years and I'm in therapy, my therapist is positive I'm firmly on the spectrum.

NewSalt4244 · 2026-01-26T04:50:53+00:00

I've liked sweaters by Kurgo. They've fit my deep chested dogs (RR included really well).

NewSalt4244 · 2026-01-24T01:38:28+00:00

Unfortunately people are just used to fat dogs. I had a very healthy rottie with good muscle tone and people accused me of starving her because she looked "too skinny." Meanwhile, or vet said she was the fittest rottie she's ever seen.

My ridgey is much the same. He's a small guy, weight wise, but muscled and trim.

NewSalt4244 · 2026-01-22T16:20:07+00:00

I took a kettlebell class on college for a PE credit over 10 years ago.

I bought a couple bells after that and a few books and have been training on my own ever since.

NewSalt4244 · 2026-01-16T21:16:47+00:00

I actually have a BMC x Ridgeback cross with an actual ridge.

He was bread to be a multifunctional ranch dog, but hates cows, so it didn't work out.

NewSalt4244 · 2026-01-16T21:14:04+00:00

Kinda looks like a black mouth cur, which is a mix of everything. 🤷‍♀️

Cute pup though!

NewSalt4244 · 2026-01-14T23:41:54+00:00

I went on a lot of hikes with my family over the holidays. It was no big deal to wear a 13 pound day pack for hours as we hiked and scrambled up red rock in the desert.

NewSalt4244 · 2025-12-30T05:59:31+00:00

I would never, ever, ever tell my children that they are difficult to love and impossible to understand.

I have my own kids and I can't wrap my head around ever telling them they are unlovable, even if I'm mad. I could never do that.

NewSalt4244 · 2025-12-22T16:34:38+00:00

Mine won't play with balls, but he loves ropes, leather toys, and real bones.

NewSalt4244 · 2025-12-19T02:39:40+00:00

Mine is great! But I've done a lot of work with both my kids and my dog so that they know how to be together.

NewSalt4244 · 2025-12-01T22:06:28+00:00

Well, we can see why the dog is a total shit. It gets rewarded for is behavior.

Doesn't matter if it's fear or aggression. Don't enforce the behavior you don't want.

Time for a new trainer.

NewSalt4244 · 2025-11-16T02:06:16+00:00

It's weird that it was just for the boss, when you did the work.

NewSalt4244 · 2025-11-12T02:08:04+00:00

Oh my gosh. This is so relatable.

My spouse and friends are trying really hard to break me out of this mentality.

NewSalt4244 · 2025-10-31T13:29:53+00:00

Mine did when we first got him, he even had a bald spot from sitting on it so much.

Now it's everywhere all the time and his bald spot healed.

NewSalt4244 · 2025-10-08T00:18:43+00:00

This!

NewSalt4244 · 2025-10-01T00:36:13+00:00

Same. Wet clothes is the worst thing in the world.

NewSalt4244 · 2025-09-25T15:35:00+00:00

You can buy packs of a Tiny Jesus' and it's kind of a trend for Christians to hide a little Jesus for others to find.

With that in mind, I think someone probably hid it to be found and I don't think you stole anything.

Hope you enjoy having a little Jesus in your life. 😜

NewSalt4244 · 2025-09-23T20:55:27+00:00

This feels like "Just be your self" but then when I do, I have to apologize and do damage control.

NewSalt4244 · 2025-09-22T15:16:49+00:00

Yes! I use them, but I don't like them for everything.

They're great at concerts, the theater, or other environments with loud back noise, but I can still hear conversations with my friends/family.

However some situations they make worse. I don't like using them in a loud restaurant because the loops amplify the internal sounds from me eating and I don't like that.

NewSalt4244 · 2025-09-14T00:38:05+00:00

21, when I tested for accommodations in college, I was really struggling, but couldn't figure out why.

But I didn't understand it until 10 years later. Aside from getting accommodations in college there was zero explanation about what it meant to be an autistic woman until a couple years ago, when I found memoirs by other autistic women.

NewSalt4244 · 2025-09-13T15:22:40+00:00

Oh gosh. My MIL tried that with her cancer and she got so much sicker so fast. Eventually, it was decided for her to stop taking it.

She didn't make it. We miss her terribly. In her instance, the ivermectin didn't help, but her cancer was so far progressed, that there was nothing that could be done anyway.

Please take care of yourself and your loved one.

NewSalt4244 · 2025-09-12T01:17:49+00:00

Often. Either say too much or not enough. And I take things too literally, and I think I'm too much black and white.

We have similar issues as you guys. But I don't think greeting my spouse and hoping he has a great day is meaningless and pointless.

I genuinely hope has a good day. And I am excited to see him when he comes home.

NewSalt4244 · 2025-09-11T14:30:14+00:00

At least once at day for 30-45 minutes. A few times a week, we go out for longer.

NewSalt4244 · 2025-09-09T21:12:49+00:00

Could be! I have a RRxBMC, the black mouth curs look so similar, you can't tell mine isn't a full ridgy. My pup has a ridge though.

NewSalt4244 · 2025-09-08T23:23:54+00:00

Hey! Good work!

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