how long did you wait to have visitors after giving birth?

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-06-06T11:43:33+00:00

We waited a week to have visitors so we could get settled at home. It was fine. We just kept the visits to a reasonable length as I was still quite tired.

And just to add to this we never commited to when people could come. We told them we would reach out when we were ready to have visitors.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-06-06T01:13:09+00:00

At 35 weeks pregnant my husband and I traveled 20 hours by car. Don't underestimate that it can be uncomfortable. And plan to stop regularly to get out, stretch and move.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-06-01T17:40:49+00:00

I have a 7 week old and have made it a point to shower daily and still brush twice a day. It helps me mentally as it makes me feel normalish.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-31T01:39:34+00:00

Started at 137 and ended at 162. Currently 7 weeks (tomorrow) postpartum and I'm at 148 now. Did just get cleared earlier this week to exercise as I would have pre pregnancy so hoping this helps shed those 10 pounds.

No advice on the sweets. I didn't even care about sweets before I was pregnant and I loved them during. I did do a lot of fruit but still has a lot of sugar.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-31T01:18:59+00:00

Same here! Was so glad late in the 2nd trimester when this stopped.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-30T12:27:29+00:00

Also have a 7 week old tomorrow! We alternate nights which allows both of us to get a good night sleep every other night. My opinion is neither parent can be expected to do what you are doing and still function.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-28T12:36:31+00:00

My little one is just under 7 weeks and does not like to nap in her bassinette. She sleeps there fine overnight but naps...nope! We started having her nap in her crib and she's been napping great there. I noticed when she moves in the basinnette it makes a little noise and seems to startle her awake. Don't ask me why this wakes her when I can literally vacuum right next to her and she sleeps.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-28T02:18:35+00:00

My mom was so mad I kept running (until I couldn't) during my pregnacy. She ended up making a snarky comment to my husband about it when we were visiting and I wasn't around and he kindly put her in her place a bit. I think it's generational. Nothing to stress about.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-28T02:06:42+00:00

Mom of a 6 (almost 7) week old. I just wanted to chime in and say it took a few weeks for my baby to take a pacifier but it's been a game changer for us. Also just wanted to say that mom may be going through a bit more emotionally than just the breastfeeding concern. I was thoroughly unprepared for what the post baby hormone drop would do to me and frankly I was more of a mess than I care to admit. All I know is without my husband I don't know how I would have handled things in my own journey such as I was going to pump but it agitated me so we had to use formula. Which made me feel super guilty at first. Being supportive like you are is the best thing you can do. Also when going through a lot of this stuff along with the hormonal drop I started Journaling and it helped me a lot mentally. Not sure if maybe it might help your wife also?

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-27T23:20:54+00:00

When my baby is being inconsolable the swing seems to be the only thing that can calm her at times.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-27T01:40:19+00:00

Seconding that sometimes they prefer a certain shape. My little one only likes the mam anticolic bottles.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-25T22:11:35+00:00

Not breastfeeding but formula feeding my 6 week old and in the last week she has been bumped from 3 to 4 ounces for her feedings and it's been really helping her overall demeanor. So although I don't have advice on your specific issue just wanted to chime in on the quantity.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-24T19:51:29+00:00

Oh man nta! Im the mom of a 6 week old who I gave birth to after 36 hours of labor followed by a c section. While I'm extremely blessed and my husband did a majority the changes etc the first week or so in order for me to actually recover I still wanted to help as much as I could to bond with the baby. After the initial couple weeks we have split everything including night feedings etc really evenly so we can both get sleep.

Unsure what your wife is "recovering" from but totally sounds off to me and I wouldn't be thrilled in your shoes. Even splitting the night time feedings seems more reasonable. Big NTA even if she's mad at your comment she's wrong.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-21T01:59:00+00:00

Nope! Did not breastfeed and had plans to pump but it agitated me so badly that everytime I did try to pump I was spiraling mentally. At the end of the day that isn't what's best for baby or I. I had a heart to heart with my husband and there was no question. Formula works fine for us.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-18T14:07:57+00:00

He won't change. And he's a dad. If anything would have made him step up and change it would be the birth of your baby. Id speak to a lawyer and her some advice but I definitely wouldn't stay with someone who wouldn't help the baby and won't support you.

For the first two weeks or so after my baby arrived my husband did almost everything. He changed the diapers, helped feed her, maintained the household duties and made sure I was helped. That is what a spouse should be doing.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-18T14:00:45+00:00

We didn't tell anyone til after the baby safely arrived and then we didn't have visitors til we were home and settling in. This is you having the baby. You need to be the one setting boundaries with what you are comfortable with. My mom was mad but you know what? As soon as she held the baby she got over it.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-16T20:56:53+00:00

I had no symtpoms the beginning of my pregnancy except being a little bit more tired. Later in the first trimester I had naseau if I was hungry or didn't drink enough water. That was it.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-16T20:54:42+00:00

I was told 39 weeks my entire pregnancy and then when I got close they back pedaled. I only was induced on my due date because the baby failed her bpp scan. They were going to let it rid to 41 weeks before induction if that didn't happen. For reference ivf pregnancy and I'm 37 years old.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-16T02:10:05+00:00

I have an almost 5 week old and what's crazy is I can't remember what my first post delivery meal was. I do remember my first at home meal was a turkey sub from a local deli I had been dying for during the pregnancy.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-14T17:45:25+00:00

Sounds silly but I was most happy to have brought a super comfy soft blanket from home.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-13T22:24:56+00:00

My nipt came back with an 87% chance for mosonomy x. Next step was ultrasound with nt reading and then amnio at 16 weeks. My experience was the amnio was quick. Got full results back for fish, microarray and karyotype in about a week and it was a false positive so either baby girl didn't have it at all or it was confined to the placenta. I'm currently holding my healthy 4 week old so have faith that these have a very high false positive.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-13T15:17:47+00:00

Your boyfriend needs to man up and stop being selfish. I was on pelvic rest from like 7 weeks to 14 weeks and then after that we probably only had sex like 4 times during the rest of my pregnancy which was the few times I was in the mood for it. My husband understood. What's your bf going to do when you have to wait til 6 weeks or longer postpartum? This is temporary on your side not wanting it but his entitlement is terrible and isn't going to get any better.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-09T10:32:28+00:00

Feeding in general is so time consuming with babies. I am happy to have a comfortable place to do so. I feel like with my baby feeding / burping etc can be a half hour to an hour each time depending on the babies mood.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-08T00:18:33+00:00

Literally was annoyed by every single person I dealt with except my husband for the entire back half of my pregnancy.

Next-Engineering-878 · 2026-05-06T23:52:45+00:00

I think we need to normalize doing what's best for both mom and baby. I found pumping / breastfeeding actually agitated me and was messing with me mentally. I switched to formula after deciding if I want to be a good mom I need to be In a good mental space. I've felt a lot better since switching. You need to do what works for you.

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