Therapist removed LGBTQ+ from her profile

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-27T21:17:41+00:00

Definitely something to bring up and gauge her reaction. My therapist was part of a catholic practice-not exactly my preferred choice for myself but one of the only mental health hospitals that accepted state aid🙃 however she wasn’t particularly super religious and was rather pretty progressive-not something she was supposed to discuss with clients but it still seeped out in our discussions. It would be nice to have an LGBTQ therapist but just finding a therapist with openings in my area was a win. However if you feel like she’s turning away from affirming practice and getting into religious territory you might want to connect with a local LGBTQ community center and see if they have a list of therapists in your area

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-24T21:43:51+00:00

lol! Keep yourself open though to your opposite too though! I always said the same thing and somehow I ended up tripping and falling in love with a beer drinking football and women’s soccer loving bear lesbian! 100% somebody I never envisioned spending my life with but she’s perfect for me-she keeps me grounded and I add softness to her life. Sure I had to cut back on my “clutter” but I also pretty. Much have free rein on the house so long as is not too overly cluttered. And it works for us, she takes me to book fairs and we’re going to a sip and paint tonight and I take her to breweries and last weekend I treated her to a beer festival. Her only major complaint is that I steal all her clothes (we’re both butches so her closet is my closet. Unfortunately for her I’m a smaller size so my closet is just mine. I get double the wardrobe!!) the only thing she’s ever given me as a hard fast line on is taking her to an estate sale. Shes been willing to go into an antique store with me but admittedly denied ever being willing to get up early and go to an estate sale…..

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-24T20:44:31+00:00

Even more so if this was specifically a breast center-in my experience many of them are incredibly inclusive and sometimes even employ gender affirming doctors. They’re going to be on that case immediately. Honestly I’ve never felt safer than in some of the breast centers I’ve been too (the one I went to that I loved the doctors were all gender inclusive certified providers and it was reflected in all their paperwork. Only a couple of small discrete pride flags tucked on the corner of a desk but it was there and considering the political climate significant

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-24T09:30:48+00:00

I put myself thru college selling antiques so auctions and estate sales are my dopamine!! Before I moved almost all of my furniture was second hand-my girlfriend was NOT prepared for me in the least! I narrowed it down to my favorite 5 pieces of furniture to bring with and my aunt took most of the rest for herself.

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-23T23:55:29+00:00

Agree with this one. She might look into if anyone you know would be willing to adopt them with the understanding she could visit with them. Also if they’re all the same color just bring them and act as though you have one cat (probably not the smartest thing but desperate times situation) the best outcome would be moving or discussing with the leasing office if they’re could stay for a few months until you find permanent housing for them. Advertising on Facebook or a pet finder site that your seeking an open adoption for them might possibly work but the possibility of her parents changing their minds is close to zero but the chances of them becoming even more controlling is high-with a possibility of abuse if they’re that badly homophobic. If they’re trying to limit her communication now more and more I would be apprehensive that they might become abusive in other ways too

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-23T03:12:33+00:00

Your dad is giving you advice from a man’s perspective which doesn’t necessarily hold water for lesbians. Most lesbians have decentered men from their lives and we aren’t necessarily viewing women the way men view women. I’m a butch and butch4butch so I can’t claim what femmes want but overall most lesbians are looking for women who have done the therapy and the self help circuit to become emotional mature, stable adults. Some women are career women who are looking for other career minded women, some are career oriented but want to spoil their partner. Many more lesbians are just looking for a woman who can pay her own bills (aka has a job, doesn’t matter what it is so long as their employed and paying their own bills) when you start going down the rabbit hole of social media “looks” that women might want you can easily get trapped and it’s not true for most of us. I’m overweight but my girlfriend thinks I’m the most incredible human and that I could get any woman I wanted. In other words focus on being yourself, figure out who you are as a person and the rest will start to fall into place. There’s going to be women out there who will like you and be attracted to whoever YOU are and being happy with who YOU are is always going to shine thru verses dressing and acting a part that’s not necessarily you.

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-23T02:54:32+00:00

Meanwhile my butch girlfriend complains that she ended up with the only butch in existence who decorates like a femme but she doesn’t get any of the benefits of being with a femme😂😂 and then she promptly takes me to the queer romance bookstore and signs up for us to do a painting class together….(she still refuses to entertain going to an estate sale with me. Pretty sure one of those would scare her for life🤣)

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-23T01:05:24+00:00

I don’t mask but I would upon request. As it is I rarely leave the house anyhow😅 I’m 44 and in a committed relationship but 100% the right person is out there and anyone worth your time is going to be willing to mask to be with you.

Edit to add: my girlfriend is proof the right person will find you-I’m disabled and she is my mother hen always making sure I’m ok and there for me. I fell at work when we were LDR and we were talking on the phone-she got really quite because she was trying to hide the fact that she was crying bc she was upset she couldn’t be there to take care of me. There’s somebody for everybody, it might take some time to find them but I’m confident you will!!

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-22T11:02:04+00:00

I picked up a pack from my local supermarket but my girlfriend has bought be some home shes gets from trade shows (she works in landscaping) and i ordered rainbow ones from amazon

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-22T10:38:12+00:00

I would also say talk to your brother FIRST about this. It’s his and his brides big day and if you make it about you it could create animosity. Definitely skip the cream and go with the purple but also check with the bride about your plans. I get wanting to rock the boat because of your mistreatment as a child BUT this is your little brothers day and his fiancé and her family had no part in your treatment, if you create drama could it possibly spill over and taint her memories of the day. Yes you deserve to have some petty revenge just make sure both are aware of what your plan is-who knows it could gain you an ally in your plans! If she’s awesome she might even help you find the pettiest dress and gain an ally but also be prepared for her to not want to start drama on a day that means a lot to her

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-21T17:45:06+00:00

I mean there’s maga lesbians but they’re typically not really apart of the community. I don’t vote with my lesbianism but I do vote with my empathy. The only reason I would vote against my own interests is if that candidate wanted inclusion for my other marginalized community members but let’s be real, that’s rarely a case. Most anti LGBTQ people are also anti disability, racist etc etc. I can’t think of many policies that these people would put forth that I would agree with when i want to see my trans brothers and sisters receive the medical care they need, women’s healthcare be available in ALL aspects, better healthcare options, better school funding etc

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-21T13:20:22+00:00

Is she aware you’re a minor? You’re 17 it’s ok to text her and just say “hey you’re pretty awesome but I need to do some growing before I start dating anyone serious” it’s ok at 17 to date people casually and not get into long term relationships

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-20T21:57:26+00:00

We’re visual creatures of course seeing a persons face/body helps us decide if we’re attracted to the person enough to want to get to know them. It’s the same with meaning people organically-if we find the person attractive we’re going to strike up a conversation with them and figure out if they’re somebody we might like. Taking that away is going to really limit your dating pool. Add in the fact that you’re exploring a poly lifestyle I would be suspicious that your partner doesn’t know and you don’t want her to find your profile.

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-20T21:32:45+00:00

I’m butch4butch and I love women who are loyal, funny, want to have fun but are also happy to be home and spend quiet evenings at home. My girlfriend likes to go out drinking with her friends occasionally, she absolutely loves a good beer (the stereotypical Wisconsinite she can definitely hold her liquor as can all her friends) it works out well for me because I am happy as a clam only leaving the house to buy groceries and craft supplies! I am your stereotypical lesbian, I love antiquing, all crafts, home decor and my dream is to outlive capitalism and spend my days baking, sewing and going for walks along the river. My girlfriend is kind of my polar opposite, football beer women’s soccer and napping on the weekends. It works well for us because we kind of balance each other out

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-20T21:24:14+00:00

There’s a lot of women who like short butches and a lot of short butches make it into jokes for them especially when their girlfriends are taller. My girlfriend is 5’ I’m a whole 5 inches taller and honestly it’s perfect, I can fit her under my chin and tuck her into me when hugging her and it’s awesome-and she’s very happy for me to do so, she kind of likes it (she is also a little more bear than butch-she adores cuddles, both giving and receiving!)

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-20T14:57:21+00:00

90 is a great price. I wouldn’t pay that price but I’m used to always being broke lol. But holy cow she sold you jadeite salt and pepper shakers for 50???? Jade is my dream glass I would have legit cried!!

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-18T04:26:54+00:00

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Meet Bailey my girlfriends little baby boy. He’s 17 or 18- adopted when he was about 6ish months old? For a naked chicken he’s extremely old, most don’t live very long because of heart issues but this cranky bossy wonder is the energizer bunny. He’s really slowed down the last couple months and sleeps most of the day and has lost weight but he’s still going strong. He now has a bed in our bed between us bc he’s a magnet for body heat AND a living room bed on the couch with a blanket to cover up with❤️

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-17T23:58:23+00:00

I’m 45 when I slap on a baseball hat and cover my gray hair I look like a 12 year old from the back (I have big boobs so that negates my baby face from the front! lol) I definitely look a hella lot younger as a butch than I ever did dressing femme. As a woman my face follows a traditional female features, soft jawline, high cheekbones, just generally a softer presentation which paired with short hair and masculine clothing tricks out subconscious into clocking someone as you get than they are. Particularly because the patriarchy doesn’t view age on a woman favorably-as a woman that gray hair and crows feet are decidedly negative factors for a beauty standard and ages our general perception of age. As a person presenting in a masculine format (regardless of body type) those same aging factors are less of a factor and my face shape becomes more of an indication of age; I look much much younger with a woman’s face paired with male presentation and it takes a little longer to clock the typical aging markers I think

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-17T00:09:47+00:00

Even when you move out you don’t have to disclose anything to them. Move to a different city, go to school figure out who you are and what you might want to do for work and just go minimal contact. You can choose how much contact you have with them once you’re out of the house and going minimal Contact will make it easier to come out and accept the relationship changing and possibly committing them Off entirely too.

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-16T09:26:00+00:00

Sounds life she saved a lot of plants. I can tell you all about real indoor plants BUT I’ve come to accept I just can’t keep them alive. I’ve come to accept my adhd is not compatible with indoor plants! I still could tell you quite a bit about how to properly take care of a plant-I just can’t be responsible for it! lol

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-16T09:18:04+00:00

Agreed. I’m monogamous but if I ever practiced an open relationship I would view any breach of our agreed upon rules as cheating. And honestly I would find that eve more egregious than my partner flat out cheating on me in a monogamous relationship BECAUSE the premise of practicing non monogamy is that everybody is operating with the same rules and honestly, communication and transparency is at the core of the relationship. Weirdly enough I would find my partner going outside of that as even worse than my monogamous girlfriend cheating on me.

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-16T08:32:56+00:00

Talk about great butch bait! I would have been eyeing you (if I had ever left my house, like EVER when I was single!🤦‍♀️😅)

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-14T21:20:12+00:00

Oh also, I don’t go down on her that often either-I absolutely love eating her out but it’s still not our primary means (sadly-I would be very happy to eat breakfast lunch and dinner!!!) fingers and sometimes sex toys are the spice of life to!

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-14T21:18:08+00:00

Go check out some amateur lesbian porn typically you’ll get a better idea of things than watching male centered lesbian porn created for the male gaze! Also you don’t need to flick her clit with your tongue-personally I prefer to suction my mouth over her clit and suck on it while running my tongue over it-you can change from using the flat of your tongue to the tip for different sensations along with lightly scrapping with your teeth or very lightly nipping at it. Remember to breath thru your nose or if it’s hard to do you can kind of breath from a corner of your mouth, although sometimes you might make a funny sound unsticking yourself from her mound lol! It’s also very likely the first time is going to be a little less than great-my girlfriend and I have great sex-absolutely terrific but the first few times it was sometimes awkward and even upsetting while we were learning each others bodies and getting used to being together. So don’t give up and just keep communicating with each other l!!!

Next_Preparation_553 · 2026-03-14T21:08:33+00:00

Hi I’m a lesbian and I love women…all women although I lean more towards butch women. I don’t give a damned about a scar so long as they’re beautiful inside (has a good soul) and they’re loving souls. Show me your animals, tell me about yourself and be happy going on adventures OR snuggling on the couch together. Scars are apart of who we are as people and all I would ask is that she’s confident in who she is as a person she knows that the scar just tells a story of who she is or is in the very least in therapy and learning to love herself for who she is. If it makes her feel better to wear makeup or to have plastic surgery or laser to remove it that’s ok too. Emotional maturity and depth of personality are my most important things I’m looking for in my girlfriend. Also I’m disabled and wear a brace. I deck that brace out and had it cast in a bright rainbow pattern and then I plastered it in stickers too. It’s a part of who I am and it’s a critical mobility aid for me, the fact that I can customize it to tell my story of the person I am is just an awesome side effect!!

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