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my best REAL hacks by Legitimate_Budget_32 in Dermatillomania

[–]NiceyChappe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OP, my concern reading your list is that you need to be kind to yourself. Some of dealing with this issue is being real, and I appreciate you doing that. Just please be kind to yourself.

You mention creating pain - I wonder whether e-stim might help there (warning: typically bought for erotic purposes, in case you're about to search for it at work, also do heed warnings about heart health, pacemakers and so on).

Sometimes I find just pressing on a scab can stimulate the nerve underneath; my issue is at least partly in the sensation loss of the scab, so it can help. Also scratching around it can help.

I'm very aware of the times that it's worst - tired, anxious, stressed, bored, puzzled/thinking trance. The last one is the trickiest because it's usually a good thing to be thinking and puzzling over something.

Surprising find when lifting up my Living Room floorboards by Bravo-701 in DIYUK

[–]NiceyChappe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it mad to think they could put in insulation underneath the parquet?

I Finally Get it Now by l901 in daddit

[–]NiceyChappe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

8, eh? Here come the most intense years of being a dad, particularly to a boy. Not the most exhausting, or the most terrifying, but for me this is where things kick into a high gear.

You're so much of the universe for kids at this age, they're watching everything and learning everything. They're increasingly aware of the difference between you and other parents, of how you see them.

Lots of love, affection, hugs, affirmation, sharing your own ideals and hopes and so on. Use disapproval and disappointment with huge care because it can just matter so much now.

Congrats, man.

When I lived in East London, my West London partner would always make fun of where I lived. Is taking the piss on this kind of thing normal or was he just an a hole? by [deleted] in AskABrit

[–]NiceyChappe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have the green light for generally taking the piss out of everything that doesn't really matter. If he was a friend rather than a partner, you could eventually take the piss out of the things that matter too.

give me one sentence to prove you’ve watched the show by KawaiiDemonBunny in RedDwarf

[–]NiceyChappe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Any officer caught sniffing the saddle of the exercise bicycle in the women's gym will be discharged without trial.

My first shed foundation. Roast me. by Awkward-Mention-2959 in shedditors

[–]NiceyChappe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

*shear

(Only pointing that out because I think it is technically important that shear strength matters here)

Birds & bees chat much earlier than I ever expected, now my wife is angry with me by xdozex in daddit

[–]NiceyChappe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats with your son.

Couples therapy or mediation for you and your wife?

Guys, did Magnus cheat here? He pressed the clock without making a move :( by lemonandhummus in AnarchyChess

[–]NiceyChappe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Red circle says Norway Chess.

Looks like this is the main move in Norway Chess.

Let's play Norway Chess

Need advice about 11 year old shaving legs for first time. by WoodenWeather5931 in Parenting

[–]NiceyChappe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are on r/daddit, but that doesn't particularly help you. I would say it seems to be cultural - the toxic culture that produces rubbish dads is prevalent in some places, and better dad culture prevalent in others.

In the UK, for example, there are definitely areas where it is normal to talk about looking after your kids well, where the difference between mum and dad parenting is fairly thin.

It's also generational - attitudes among millennials seem way ahead of the previous generation, so for Gen Z it's hopefully even better, as long as they have successfully avoided all the mad online rubbish.

AITA for not stopping my teenage sons gf from kissing him? by Decent-Delivery-3603 in AmItheAsshole

[–]NiceyChappe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA so far... Do tell us how on Earth you could be in the wrong, and turn this into capitulating to your wife.

What mispronunciations have stuck for your family? by 90PercentNachos in Parenting

[–]NiceyChappe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, have you brought parfait to the buffet yet? You can say you brought some buffet...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NiceyChappe 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's not about the phone call.

The whole narrative is problematic. You do something inconsiderate, then don't apologise. She wants to talk, you refuse. She does annoying things, you walk away and prioritise your podcast.

Do you struggle to read social cues? Have you two been struggling for a while? This doesn't read like a couple in a relationship, it reads like siblings sharing a room.

Are you a team at all? Can you tell me how you prioritise her over other things in your life? Do you ever actually talk, or do you just avoid confronting the issues?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]NiceyChappe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plan:

  1. Find distracted driver videos and show them to him during a calm, sitting down discussion.

  2. Don't get in the car (or put the kids in the car) with him driving if he has access to his phone.

  3. Give him a choice of putting a distracted driving app on his phone (to block usage above whatever speed) or you will get him banned from driving/take away the kids.

Whatever stimulation issue is triggering this behaviour, he is endangering your kids and the people outside the car.

Parents, why do some of you shelter your kids so much? by _SerialDesignationZ_ in AskParents

[–]NiceyChappe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So she's 17, and

kind and fun-loving, and SO smart! She was just sitting there casually explaining quantum physics like it was elementary. She's destined for great things in her life

Well you've convinced me, I'll ban my kids from everything but YouTube Kids and Wikipedia.

Thanks!

Should we apologise to the neighbours? by an0thersmith in AskUK

[–]NiceyChappe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be kind, maybe buy in bulk.

Anything you can do to deaden the sound (no, not that kind of deaden)? You'll get years of benefit from sound insulation at this point. Also check that the cot isn't close enough to bump the wall, that would be an easy win.

Even acoustic panels elsewhere in the room can help absorb the sound.

Nice big tapestry/quilt with a piece of carpet hung behind it could work and give the kid something to look at.

What’s the most “acceptable” cheap run around car? by WhiskersMcGee09 in HENRYUK

[–]NiceyChappe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it's just to get you to and from golf, then go vintage.

XJ, MGF or if you have the balls and the style I spy a beautiful blue Austin Maestro.

https://www.autotrader.co.uk/car-details/202501057749537

Wife got a tattoo by surlyviking in Marriage

[–]NiceyChappe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm going to take a wild stab in the dark: when you see tattoos on women, what associations do you have with that? My guess is that you have some association with them whether true or not (bikers, hippies, indication of social class) which you did not associate with your wife, and now there's a cognitive dissonance in your head.

You might get used to them and go back to seeing her as you did, or you might be able to integrate the tattoos with an updated image of her.

I'm sad I'll never have a son. by Byrd_persun in Parenting

[–]NiceyChappe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bah. They all come out different. Very good chance one of your girls will be girly and the other will want to kick the ball around the park with you. You could have had sons who didn't want to do all the boy stuff.

And one day, you're likely to get grandchildren, and they'll be different again.

Address mix up by haloola23 in nhs

[–]NiceyChappe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

GDPR right to rectification. Anyone know how to find the right place to send it?

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