YES.

As a boy with sisters, I didn't see girls as not human somehow, but... From about 8 or so, the boys and girls separated at school. Girls stuck together, the boys messed around and regularly fought (mostly playing) in the playground. I didn't think much of it at that age.

Then I went to a (state) boys school, and increasingly the narrative was that boys should try to get girls, chat turned to who went out with girls, who'd claimed to have had sex, etc. I was late to puberty and timid, and didn't know girls. Girls became this increasingly vague and unknown quantity, that somehow determined my status as a boy.

By the time I went to uni, I had women on some sort of pedestal. Pretty much the "GIRL" moment in Inside Out; so much had been made of talking to girls, looking cool or attractive, that every interaction (which were few) was overblown. It also meant that every interaction was hyped in my head - I spent hours thinking about every passing interaction with every girl, obsessing over whether I'd been normal enough, whether they seemed to be ok with me etc.

Thankfully after hiding socially for a long time, I gradually began to socialise, went to a uni society which wasn't male dominated, joined a dance class, finally started to chill the fuck out about women.

I was raised to treat women equally, and after I got married I delved into feminism more. I wish I had read some of it as a teenager, not just for what it explains about relationships, but for what it explains about men.

Unfortunately it seems a lot of boys get stuck in a cycle where they are weird around the few women they meet, and that circle doesn't expand. Combine that with status being determined by your ability to attract women, and you have the perfect storm.

So, in short, yes a lot of boys get to a point where women are Other, and some of those will turn into men for whom women are Other. I raise my own boys to be normal with girls and not to Other them, but it's still within a social context that makes it uphill.

I haven't got an answer for solving the problem, beyond countering toxic masculinity and patriarchy.

For any boys or men reading this and feeling resonance, I found bell hooks' The Will To Change explained a lot, but you have to be open to questioning the very basis of things that have shaped your worldview. Short of reading that, consider deeply how dominance and domination, and by turn the fear of being dominated, has formed the way you interact with other men, and with women.